Iva-Marie Palmer - Gimme Everything You Got

The first day I ever gave a shit about soccer was September 4, 1979the day that Mr. McMann showed up at Powell Park High. You know those moments when everything changes almost at once, like some kind of wave rolls over a room and whatever you had been doing gets washed away as it dawns on everyone that something way bigger is taking place? It was like that.

It wasnt even like Bobby McMann turned the tide on a particularly boring day. It had been eventful as hell. Thered been tryouts for The Sound of Music in third period. Every girl I knew was bonkers for the moviethe Rialto had brought it back for a special engagement that summer. Id gone to see it with my best friends, Tina Warner and Candace (sometimes Candy) Trillo, whod loved it. I was bored. Everyone in it was too nice (except the Nazis, of course).

I hadnt tried out for the play, but Tina and I had gone to watch Candace give it a go. Candace wanted a part because she was forever on boyfriend lookout, and school plays always seemed to yield a few new couples. Shed told me I should have auditioned because I was almost seventeen and no one had ever touched my breasts. They were small and unevenly sized, though the slightly bigger right one had a Farrah Fawcett quality to it. I wasnt opposed to them being touched, but Id never gone to even one school play starring a guy Id be eager to have doing the honors. Anyway, despite Candaces spirited performance, Tina and I had our money on Peggy Darnell getting to be Maria because during the auditions, while she was spinning, Julie Andrewsstyle, her giant, braless, totally symmetrical boobs had busted out of her top, to the delight of our drama teacher.

Julie Andrews was totally flat in the movie, someone at the end of our cafeteria table was saying. I couldnt see who through the mess of smushed paper bags and trays and girls leaning forward so other girls could help them with their hair. We messed with our hair at lunch a lot, in ways our mothers would say was unsanitary. But our cafeteria was a large gymnasium with long tables rolled out in the center for lunch periods, and the room smelled like sweat and feet, so what was a little hairstyling?

Doesnt matterMr. Doberton is a total perv, I said knowingly, and took a sip of my Yoo-hoo. I practiced my knowing looks in the mirror sometimes, because I liked hiding how little I actually knew. Hes probably writing Peggys jiggly tits on the cast sheet next to Maria right now.

Our table became a laugh chamber. And it was precisely in the middle of that laughter that Bobby McMann opened the double doors to the cafeteria.

At 12:07 p.m., all concerns about whod been overshadowed by D-cups became moot.

You know those Coke commercials where you see the bubbles pouring mesmerizingly over ice and the liquid ripples like its dancing and your mouth gets dry and all you want is a Coke? Even if youve never had a Coke, or youve just had one?

In a way, Id just had one. Sort of.

Before I tell you any more about Bobby McMann, whose name I didnt even know yet, I should explain. See, sometimes, something will stir me up. On that day, it was the back of Alex Notis head in fourth-period physics. His neck looked really nice: strong but not too ropy, with his light hair cut in a clean line just below his earlobes. And since he didnt turn around (Alex Notis face would ruin everything), I imagined his neck was Paul Newmans. The Long, Hot Summer Paul Newman. My weird urge was to lick that line of hair. Fantasy Paul Newman did not think I was weird. His skin was warm and he shuddered as he turned around to see me. Then Paul Newmans lips were near mine, not even kissing, just breathing into my mouth like he wanted to kiss me, and wanted to get it exactly right. That idea of Paul Newman created this not-bad... stirring at my fulcrum (its a physics word for the thing a lever sits on, but I think it sounds like a nice way to say crotch). I crossed my legs and had to fight off getting too carried away. I know from past at-school daydreams that taking it too far means walking around all day feeling like I have an itch I cant scratch.

Boys would call it being horny. Girls would call it the same thing, I think, but not out loud.

Its not something Id put on a job application or anything, but I dont want to lie: Im good at getting myself off. When I got my first periodthis was back when my parents were still togethermy mom told my dad we were going out, just us girls, and she took me for pizza. And at the pizza parlor, she didnt just show me how to use a maxi padshe also let me have some of her red wine and drew a picture on her napkin of the vagina and told me that I was a woman now and she really wanted me to understand the clitoris, so she circled that part and she even wrote it there in pen. C-L-I-T-O-R-I-S. She told me, Susan, the men in your life sure arent going to care about it, so youd better, and I hadnt realized it but I guess it was an early sign that she and Dad were done. Then she just left it on the table at Vito and Rays, a vagina napkin. Which, as first periods go, was slightly less embarrassing than bleeding through my pants.

When we got home, she gave me a book called Our Bodies, Ourselves, and clitoris was right there in the index. So was masturbation. Not step-by-step instructions, but enough to clarify that those feelings in my fulcrumfeelings Id felt before, riding a bike or sliding down the banister of my grandmas house in Wisconsincould lead to something good. So I read between the lines.

And came up with elaborate footnotes.

Its not that my thoughts are that dirty. I daydream about being undressed like one of the heroines in a Rosemary Rogers book, or about Han Solo pushing my hair out of my eyes, or Roy Scheider from Jaws squeezing me a fresh lemonade and watching me drink it. The fantasies can be brought on by small aspects of boys I knowlike Alex Notis neckbut whose other aspects take them out of contention as fantasy material. Candace always tells me I need to give more boys in school a chance, get to know them, but honestly, I feel like I know enough about the boys we know: Most of them stink. And even the okay ones are no Han Solo.

If I wasnt so proficient at masturbating, maybe behind-the-scenes groping with some bumbling stagehand would sound more appealing to me. And if I were a boy, I probably wouldnt be so secretive about it. Masturbation and boys went, well, hand in hand. At school, boys had nicknamed stalls in their restrooms the Spankin Station (first floor), the Beat-Off Box (second floor), and the Jerkin for Jerkins (a stall in the third-floor bathroom next to the teachers lounge that got its name because visits there were often inspired by the curvy geometry teacher, Ms. Jerkins). Id actually tried to masturbate between second and third period once, but I couldnt do it standing up, and lying on the bathroom tile was out of the question. It seemed unfair, in a way, that guys not only could yank their things in almost any position but also had almost-official places to do it right at school. But I guess its not that different from how boys can just pee against a wall in an alley if they have to, while girls are expected to hold it until the proper time and place.

Anyway. That day, Id come to lunch fresh off my Alex Noti/Paul Newman daydream whenBAMthis guy, this man, this vision in tight nylon shorts appears. Im not even going to describe him in detail just yet, because I wont do him justice. If I say he was a white guy who had day-old stubble along a cut jaw and hairy, muscular calves, I could just as easily be talking about our plumber, Mr. Mariano. But there he was, in the cafeteria, collapsing the tower of my disparate thoughtsschool play, geometry homework, the weekends parties, the zit I felt growing right under my lipinto one compact and focused mass: