Be TRUE - Baby Sleep Training In 7 Days

BABY SLEEP

TRAINING IN DAYS

SLEEP TRAINING TECHNIQUES FOR A BABY OR TODDLER

A Modern Way to Improve the Sleep of Your Baby, Based Entirely on SCIENCE & INSTINCT

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INTRODUCTION

D O YOU REMEMBER WHEN , waiting for the baby to be born, they repeated to you: "Sleep now, because later ...". It seemed like one of the many unsolicited comments and - come to think of it - it felt a bit like a jinx. Why should a child who does not sleep happen to me?

Then the baby is born and the first month pass, in which one still feels charged enough not to expect rhythms and regularities. Then, little by little, it becomes clear that sleeping a whole night, without interruptions, is a distant memory. Is this happening to you too?

T HE BABY DOES NOT WANT to go to sleep and takes an infinite time to fall asleep. Games and nursery rhymes are never enough. In the night he (and you) wakes up four-five-six-seven times. If everything goes well. If he doesn't have a bad dream. If he's not sick.

The result at the parental level is always the same: you end up in the evening like a zombie. Frightened. Nervous. Tired. And we realize that the sleep-deprived parent is willing to do anything to change the situation.

At this point a friend, or the kindergarten teacher, or the pediatrician or even a colleague moved to compassion, recommends that you read a manual that contains an easy way to put your children to bed.

Faced with this method, other parents are horrified and tell you that no, you will never, ever have to adopt it. Two models, two practices, two opposing ideologies. You don't know which one to choose (and you are right). Here they are explained.

The Estivill Model

A friend, or the kindergarten teacher, or even a colleague moved to compassion suggests you read "Take a nap", a superclassic for parents, written by the Catalan doctor Eduard Estivill together with the journalist Sylvia de Bjar. The book offers practical advice for solving the problem of sleeping and, despite the great amount of criticism received, it is often recommended.

The basic idea is that "you learn to sleep", just as you learn to eat with a plate and cutlery. According to the authors, every baby, at six to seven months, is able to fall asleep on his own and sleep the whole night with the light off. What's more: he is able to go back to sleep without the need for external help in the case of nocturnal awakenings. It is enough for parents to have the right habits right from the start.

This technique, known among experts as the gradual quenching of crying or sleep training, has been heavily criticized as being too violent for the baby's psyche.

How do you teach a newborn to sleep? By creating a routine that precedes falling asleep and helping him to "count" only on objects that can remain at his disposal throughout the night.

It follows that it is above all objects that assume importance for the child, more than relationships, human warmth, the positive presence of an adult protector. To fall asleep, you just need the cradle, the teddy bear, the pacifier, the mobile, the blanket. The goal is autonomy: it is forbidden to lullaby, hold in one's arms, give a bottle, warm the tummy.

When it is time to put the child to bed (the recommended time is 8.30 pm) the very firm parents say goodnight. They turn off the light and walk away, without touching the baby any more.

I F THE CHILD BEGINS to call, if he cries and if he screams, the "method" says not to give in to the calls. Don't get your heart broken (but can you?). If the age already allows the child to get up, the suggestion is to "place barriers in front of the door".

After a minute of reminders, following a reassuring table, you can go back to the baby's room, stop for a moment and leave immediately. By continuing in this way, and progressively increasing the time spent away, the child is taught to remain alone.

The promise, in the end, is that the baby will learn to fall asleep on his own and we will all sleep happily ever after.

U NLIKE THE ESTIVILL method and decidedly sweeter and more fruitful, even at the level of humanity and feelings, there is the method of high-contact parenting.

Sweet dreams, recommended by the Leche League (the English name of the League for Breastfeeding), or "Let's sleep" are books whose approach is soft and flexible. At the heart of the model are parents who can learn to listen and respond to their children's needs in an intuitive way, without trying to adapt them to their rules.

The watchword is harmony. No preconceived idea, indeed, an invitation to rediscover one's individuality and one's intuitive role. But above all, an invitation to respect the child and trust him, so that he can in turn learn to trust us.

D ON'T LET HIM CRY, because it is certainly not by force or neglect that the baby will learn to sleep. Leaving a child alone only means teaching him that there is no one who wants to listen to him when he is afraid, when he is hungry or thirsty. Listening to the child, on the other hand, means understanding that with crying (or with words, if he is older) he is able to communicate where he feels safe and where he is peaceful. Listen to him. You will see that he will show you the right accommodation. The one that will also allow you to sleep better.