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A PLUME BOOK
RETRAINING THE BRAIN
DR. FRANK LAWLIS is a renowned psychologist, researcher, and counselor with more than thirty-five years experience working with families. He is the cofounder of the Lawlis and Peavey Centers for Psychoneurological Change and was named a fellow by the American Psychological Association. Dr. Lawlis is also the chief content advisor for the Dr. Phil show, and he is the author of The ADD Answer, The IQ Answer, Mending the Broken Bond, and The Brain Power Cookbook (with Maggie Greenwood-Robinson).
Praise for Retraining the Brain
Dr. Frank Lawliss new book offers a brilliant and challenging departure for understanding and treating stress and depression. By following this unique guide we learn how to use our brain to design strategies that unbind depression and engage our true character.
John Chirban, Ph.D., Th.D., Harvard Medical School; author of Sickness or Sin?, True Coming of Age, and Whats Love Got to Do with It
Dr. Frank Lawlis provides a useful and effective answer to one of the modern worlds most pervasive problems: stress and trauma. Retraining the Brain boldly integrates thinking from different disciplines into a solution to a common problem.
Michael Wagner, Ph.D., United States Welcome Home Foundation
Drawing on a lifetime of thinking about how to help people in distress, Frank Lawlis offers us creative approaches to healing the mind and improving our lives. Retraining the Brain has practical advice for dealing with everyday challenges and the emotional ruts that can keep a life in a repeating pattern of unhappiness. Give these suggestions a try and see for yourself how you can become a happier you.
Daniel J. Siegel, M.D., UCLA Center for Culture, Brain and Development; author of The Mindful Brain and Parenting from the Inside Out
One of the great breakthroughs in twenty-first-century science is brain plasticitythe ability of the brain to organize itself as a result of experience. Dr. Frank Lawlis, a pioneer in mind-body medicine, shows how this important discovery can help anyone cope with stress, which is epidemic in modern life. Retraining the Brain features cutting-edge science and down-to-earth advice that will help transform many lives toward greater joy and fulfillment.
Larry Dossey, M.D., author of The Power of Premonitions and Healing Words
ALSO BY DR . FRANK LAWLIS
Mending the Broken Bond
The ADD Answer
The IQ Answer
To my sister, Nanciruth,
who showed me courage
and taught me how to laugh
Acknowledgments
There is always too large a number of people dating back to my infancy to recognize for their significant contributions to my books, and I apologize to those I may leave out. My first acknowledgment will always go to my wife, Susan, whose support and professional advice are always available to me as I search for the perfect word or the evidence to back up my conclusions. She is a wonderful partner in climbing my mountains of thought.
Dr. Phil McGraw will also always be on my top list of acknowledgments. His friendship and support have long been the center-piece for my ambitions and schemes for making the world a better place to be. His loyalty will always be a quality I consider it a privilege to have.
I have discovered the magic of wordsmith Wendy Leonards work as she has consulted on the completion of this book. She brought to the task not only her superb writing skills, but also her wealth of psychological research and knowledge. Thank you, Wendy, for a job well done. Sandy Bloomfield was a tremendous help in the final surge for completing the project.
Of course, this entire set of clinical conclusions and approaches could never have been assembled without the consultation and support of Dr. Barbara Peavey and our staff at the PsychoNeuro-Plasticity Center in Lewisville, Texas. We have learned from every patient we have seen, and we continue to break new ground in this crowded world of confusion as we strive to understand and treat individuals who need guidance through their suffering.
Jan Miller, my agent, and Shannon Miser-Marven have been with me from the beginning of this self-help series. They have been my guides when I got lost and served as boosters whenever I became discouraged. Along with this wonderful array of super people has been Carolyn Carlson of Viking. For some mystical reason she seems to understand my purpose for doing what I do, and has always been there making things happen without getting bogged down with the small stuff of the business of publishing books. My readers Ross Franks and Erica Chupp were of great assistance in making the book readable.
Preface
Ive shared with many people that as an infant I was labeled mentally defective due to severe brain damage, and many responses have been condescending comments about the lack of sophistication in diagnosis at that time. What I experienced was a blur of very frustrating challenges as I struggled to keep up with my peers, and I learned to bury my failures and embarrassments behind a smile and a good-natured joke or two.
To tell the truth, I did not know the letters of the alphabet until I was in the fifth grade, and I often hid when the teacher asked someone to recite the letters and apply them to some word-finding technique. The letters would jump around in my head and start to melt into one another. I couldnt tell a b from a d or a p from a q. I was a phonetic mess until I was a freshman in high school when a gifted teacher, Mr. Beasley, explained how letters sound. Maybe it was because little was expected of me, or because the teachers knew my parents were teachers and assumed too much, but I always felt like a freak about to be discovered.
Perhaps it was through music or my art teacher, but as time passed I started seeing things a little differently. I began to teach myself a personal language about symbols and how they could bring meaning to me in new ways. I discovered that if I allowed my brain to process things and events, they would usually evolve into meaningful parts. I trusted my mind to unravel solutions instead of closely following the methods taught by the teacher. Instead of solving math problems according to the book, I let each problem become its own process. Most times I would arrive at the right answer using my own path to get there. That plasticity I learned as a way to engage my brain still works for me, and I get much satisfaction from explaining this to others so that they, too, can find their own paths to the answers in life.
Brain plasticity merely means the flexibility of the brain to changenot only according to how we use it, but in response to demand. The brain, like every other organ and muscle, will atrophy and shrink without proper use, or it can become stronger and healthier with proper nurturance. Until just a few years ago, we had only indirect evidence of what the brain was doing, but now we can use new technology to calculate real change as well as to observe how some individuals have rewired their systems to recover from disabling conditions. I have been given the opportunity in this book to acquaint you with some of the basic approaches you can adopt in your personal life to utilize this newly found power. I am sure that in the coming generations new techniques will evolve that will take us into a completely new concept of health care in tune with these principles.