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Thank you
Thank you to Sam and Emma and all the others at Penguin Random House for giving me the opportunity to create my first book. I still cant believe it.
Thank you to Laura Herring, my editor, for being so supportive throughout this process and making my words sound so good.
Thank you to Nikki for designing the book so beautifully and being so helpful, so supportive, and so much fun on photoshoot days.
Thank you to James Bellorini for shooting the UK front cover so beautifully and for the portraits of me inside that capture me so well.
Thanks to Mark at Potters Thumb in Brighton and Carolina Blue in Barcelona for letting me use the beautiful handmade pottery for so many of the shots in this book.
Thank you to Matt Inwood, who inspired me greatly with my photography and helped me so much at the beginning of my journey.
Thank you to all my friends and family who have supported me this year while I have been writing this book. Especially my mum, who taught me to cook and love food from an early age.
Thank you to all my wonderful clients in Brighton, who continue to support Gems Wholesome Kitchen and eat my food!
Most important, thank you to my husband, Peter, and my children, Carmen and Hendrix, who have been my rock throughout this process and never complained when I had to work long hours to get everything done. Especially to Peter, who helped manage the business and kids when my head was stuck in the computer for days! I love you all so much.
This book is for YOU.
About Gem
Gem grew up in a large family, and as the youngest child of five is used to being surrounded by lots of noise and happy chaos! She learned to cook from her mum, who is not only a fantastic cook but also taught her how to cook on a budget. Batch cooking and being smart with ingredients are ideas Gem follows daily. Gem would often cook for the whole family from as young as eight years old, and this is where her passion for cooking started.
During her teenage years, Gem suffered from anorexia, but luckily she recovered, thanks to the love and support of her family. Most of her twenties were spent partying, and in her early thirties, Gem experienced a number of miscarriages. Through these experiences, she worked out the link between eating well and feeling better, both physically and mentally. She started eating more plant-based foods and focused on eating for physical health as well as continuing to experiment with mood foods. And it worked!
Being blessed with two healthy children was a real turning point for Gem. After she had been working in the mental health sector as a drug counselor for many years, the family decided to go to Barcelona for an adventureand ended up staying for two and a half years! While there, Gem set up a vegan takeout business from their central apartment, often preparing vegan bento box picnics for traveling DJs, as they were all sick of airline food! Word spread and Gems business was doing very well. They moved back to Brighton, where Gems Wholesome Kitchen was born. Gem and her husband run it together nowGem does the cooking and Peter looks after the business.
Gem loves cooking up a feast to share with family and friends that tastes good, provides energy, is mood-boosting, and makes everyone happy. Like her food, she is bright, colorful, full of love, and FUN!
Our busy lives and hectic schedules can often leave us running on empty. Now more than ever, it feels so important that we regularly set aside proper time to fully restore and recharge our energy levels. Often we find ourselves dealing with feelings of guilt if we plan to take some time out, as though we think we should be constantly chasing that to-do list, or maybe even that we think we dont deserve to stop and rest. But is there really anything more important than looking after our health? If we arent looking after ourselves properly, how can we be expected to look after other people or perform to the best of our abilities? If we ignore our need to replenish our energies and carry on steaming ahead, illness or exhaustion can kick in, forcing us to take a break. Its obviously so much better if we can avoid reaching a breaking point in the first place. Remember that life isnt a competition about who can do more or who can operate on the least sleep.
This first chapter is all about retreating into yourself for a little while, slowing the pace down so that you can gather your energies together again. Ive included sections on how to get more rest into your days, with ideas and recipes to calm the nerves and reduce anxiety, and to aid properly peaceful sleep. Ive also shared an easy restorative mindfulness exercise, which you can even practice while you are preparing a delicious meal for yourself! The chapter closes with one of my favorite sections in the book Cozy . Whether its a sleep-in on the weekend or snuggling down into the sofa after a long day, I believe getting cozy is essential to our well-being. It should be a MUST in your self-care routine.
I hope by the end of this chapter, you will have started to feel a little calmer, recharged, and more in control. Bringing a sense of calm to how you go about your day, however chaotic life may feel at times, will leave you better able to cope with whatever you are facing.
rest
Good-quality restand enough of itis vital for body and mind. Experiencing even low-level tiredness can lead to fluctuating moods and even forgetfulness. Although eight hours a night is often considered the Holy Grail when it comes to sleep, as a mum of two with a busy job, I know that this is not always possible for everyone. We also all need different amounts of sleep, so its important to work out how much you need personally and then to try to aim for that whenever you can.
Dont worry if youre not getting as many hours each night as you think you should, but do take a look at ways you can introduce more moments of rest into your daily life and at improving the quality of the sleep that you do get. Maybe set aside one night a week to go to bed early or let yourself nap in the afternoon on the weekend if youre tired. Even just slowing things down a notch or two as you go about your day, allowing yourself to pause for a quiet moment or making the time to do absolutely nothing for a few hours every so often so you can relax and unwind, will help you feel all the more rested.
The recipes on the following pages contain my favorite restorative and calming ingredients to help boost melatonin production (which controls your bodys internal clock) and to aid better sleep. These dishes can also help reduce anxiety so you can feel more relaxed and calmer throughout the day. Later in the chapter, Ive shared a few of my tried-and-tested ways for achieving a truly restorative nights sleep.
If you are feeling unrested and exhausted, remember to be gentle with yourself. Know that it will pass eventually, and make sure not to overload your days or plan in too many activities that will drain your energies. We all go through patches of restlessness during our lives, but taking just a few small steps can help you gain back control.