Phillip Kiehl - Creating the Healthy Marriage You Want

I n todays world, spouses are finding it harder than ever to stay connected and remain married. Spouses have turned to the strategy of accusing each other, hoping this will fix the marriage. But after countless attempts to do this, each spouse feels hurt and lonely. Have you said recently to yourself, Why do we blame one another so much? Why are we not happy and connected in comparison to other couples I know? Is there something wrong with me, you, or us?

This book will challenge you to look at yourself in the mirror and determine whether you as an individual are healthy or you as a couple are healthy in the way we treat one another. You will assess by answering these questions: What do I do to contribute to the health or unhealthiness of this marriage? Why do I accuse, or why does my spouse accuse me, and these accusations lead to hostility and hurt? What am I do doing or what are we doing that we cannot accept each other, but instead blame each other?

Using the top ten differences, this book has been designed to help you evaluate your marriage in a concise manner by knowing what the traits are and patterns of a healthy marriage versus an unhealthy marriage. Stop the madness of accusing one another and learn how to accept one another. Acceptance does not mean ignoring serious problems such as cheating, drugs, alcoholism, pornography, or abusive patterns. But fixing one anothers problems will never lead to accepting one another for better or for worse.

As a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, I know firsthand in my marriage of sixteen years how my wife and I have been challenged with these ten differences and have learned to stop accusing one another and accept one another. Trust me; I know this is not easy. But in my years of counseling couples, I have witnessed incredible results when spouses stop accusing one another and become healthy spouses for their marriage. As a result of learning these ten differences and applying this knowledge to your marriage, you will find that you are less lonely, less frustrated and angry, and have more resolution and a deeper understanding connection in your marriage.

I dare you to start moving from unhealthy to healthy patterns practicing these differences and becoming a happier person for a happy marriage. I promise you a healthy marriage is possible as you take the time to work and apply these principles to become two accepting spouses. My goal is to save your marriage from being another statistic of divorce like other marriages you know, and participate in making a positive difference in your marriage for the sake of connection with your spouse. So dont avoid, dont quit, and stop accusing immediately for the sake of your marriage. Do it for you and do it for each other and do it now!

So my invitation and challenge for you and the sake of your marriage is to take the stand and start reading this book, assessing the top ten differences between an unhealthy and a healthy marriage. Stop waiting for him or her to change, stop waiting for the stars to line up perfectly or for life to be fair. Take initiative and be a difference maker for your marriage. Set the example with your spouse so that other couples will start to compare their unhappy lonely marriages to yours and will want to know what the secret is, why your marriage is happy and connected. As you begin to implement this healthy behavior, others will begin to notice, and they will want to learn from you how you and your spouse became happy. You can then give a testimony to the hard work you have done creating the healthy marriage you and your spouse both want.