Lisa Bevere - Kissed the Girls and Made Them Cry: Why Women Lose When They Give In

Words of praise for Kissed the Girls and Made Them Cry

Lisa Bevere is one of the most transparent, direct, and right-on-target women of God I know. Thats why you can trust that what she shares in this book has come from a lot of prayer, a life in order, a history of knowing God on an intimate level, and a heart devoted to helping people. At a time when women are desiring to move into all God has for them, they are being lied to and stolen from by the enemy of their souls. Lisa speaks to that problem with truth and clarity and a writing style that draws the reader in and doesnt let go. I know because once I started the book I couldnt put it down. This is a book that is desperately needed today and is a must-read for every woman, no matter what age. How I wish Id had access to this kind of information when I was a teenager.

STORMIE OMARTIAN

Bestselling author of The Power of a Praying Wife

Lisa has used Gods word to shed true light on how God intended things to be, rather than the distorted way they have become. This is a great book for my daughter and yours and anyone who wants to find freedom in Gods plans for men and women.

STEVE ARTERBURN

Bestselling author of Every Mans Battle, Avoiding Mr. Wrong, and Finding Mr. Right; and Founder of Women of Faith

Lisa deals with the heart issues of a womans sexuality with beauty, grace, and strength. God is calling all women to reclaim their sexual destiny.

I believe Lisa has touched the heart of God and returned the garments of sexual dignity to women.

Restoration is the heart of our God and the heart of this book by Lisa Bevere.

She has written gracefully and persuasively the intentions of Gods heart for purity in womens sexuality.

I highly recommend this book to any daughter of God regardless of her age. I highly recommend it as an excellent resource for youth leaders, counselors, and parents who love their daughters as well.

DOUGLAS WEISS PH . D .

Executive Director, Heart to Heart Counseling Center

In this eye-opening book, Lisa Bevere dares to answer questions about sex that women are asking, and the vast majority of leaders are dodging. Lisas boldness and noncompromising stand make this a must-read for parents and youth leaders. Most importantly, this book should be read by every woman who sincerely wants Gods wisdom to live pure in a perverse world.

NANCY ALCORN
President and Founder of Mercy Ministries of America

God has given Lisa Bevere wisdom and knowledge beyond her years, and I am very excited about this book she has written. It contains spiritually sound advise that will bless young women and help relieve them of the pressure that society puts on them. The book will also be a useful guide for mothers, youth leaders, and singles pastors.

BETTY ROBISON
Cohost, Life Today

My dear friend Lisa has done it again! She touches and teaches the hearts of women with this powerful new book.

SHERI ROSE SHEPHERD
Speaker and author of Fit for Excellence and Life Is Not a Dress Rehearsal

Lisa speaks with a knowing compassion and insight to the deepest and most secret desires of a womans heart, and then directs her to the One True Love who alone can satisfy. She unveils the deception and lies of this worlds system, bringing value and dignity back to true femininity.

KATIE LUCE
Cofounder, Teen Mania

As one whos written often about sexual purity for men, I am constantly asked, What about us women? We are struggling with sexual sin too! Women need to hear from women on this issue, and Lisa is just the woman to do it. God has literally transformed my life through the Beveres books many times. Lisa has clearly taken the time to pray, fast, and seek Gods heart on this topic, so Im confident this book will transform your life as well.

FRED STOEKER
Coauthor, Every Mans Battle, Every Womans Desire

2002 by Lisa Bevere

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Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data

Bevere, Lisa

Kissed the girls and made them cry : why women lose when they give in / Lisa Bevere.

p. cm.

ISBN 978-0-7852-6989-2

1. Young womenReligious life. 2. Chastity. 3. SexReligious aspects

Christianity. I. Title.

BV4551.3 .B48 2002

241'.66'08352dc21

2002000731

Printed in the United States of America

07 08 09 10 11 RRD 22 21 20 19 18

This book is dedicated to women young and old who long to dream but have forgotten how. Kisses were never meant to make us cry... unless in joy. May the words on these pages reawaken and strengthen the dream in your heart. It is my prayer you will make these truths your own and chase away every shadowy memory, fear or nightmare that stands between you and joy unspeakable. Run to the arms of your prince and enter your dream.

Lisa Bevere

Contents

T he phone rang and interrupted the usual chaos residing in a home filled with four boys set free from school for the summer.

Hello?

It was my pastor.

Lisa, I was wondering if you would be available to speak to the girls of the high-school youth group tonight about sex?

I froze as my mind flashed back to a recent episode of a local daytime TV talk show Id seen while folding one of many loads of laundry. If this show was accurate, things had really changed since my high-school days. According to the TV show, even junior-high students were engaged in sexual acts I hadnt even known existed back in my early teens.

Tonight?! I stuttered, finding myself surprisingly nervous.

Yes, he continued. Heres the plan. Were going to separate the guys and the girls. Ill take the guys, and youll have the girls in the youth room.

Even junior-high students were engaged in sexual acts I hadnt even known existed back in my early teens.

John is flying in tonight. Would you mind if I checked with him first? I asked lamely, stalling for time.

No, sure. Give me or the youth pastor a call back when youve decided.

I hung up... a little shaken. What was going on here? I travel all over the country speaking in front of large groups of women of mixed ages, so why did I have trepidation about our local high-school youth group girls? I needed to get ahold of myself. After all, I was a former youth pastors wife. Id survived those two years more or less unscathed. Then I realized it wasnt the age group that bothered me... it was the subject matter.