Cassandra A. Good - Founding Friendships: Friendships Between Men and Women in the Early American Republic

Founding Friendships

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LIKE THE HISTORICAL men and women I write about, I am surrounded by a rich network of family, friends, and mentors. Writing about friendship is deeply personal for me: my friends, including many men, have played important emotional and intellectual roles in my life and the creation of this book. While I have tried as much as possible to distance my historical study of friendships from my own, my male friends have shown me that affectionate, fulfilling friendships between men and women are possible today. That experience surely made me open to seeing relationships in the historical record that have heretofore been missed or ignored. For this reason, I begin by thanking my male friends.

Of course, the people who shaped this book most profoundly are my advisors and editors. My graduate advisors have supported this project from its inception, and I offer them my immense respect and gratitude. Kathleen Brown has read and edited this manuscript more times than I can count, seeing the big picture in ways I could not and offering the encouragement I needed along the way. Her warmth, intellect, and astute advice shepherded me through graduate school, took this project from dissertation to book, and continue to inspire me. Michael Zuckermans detailed, thought-provoking commentary and relentless push for a logical, well-supported argument sharpened my writing and thinking. I have learned so much from Mikes compassion and good-humored irreverence. Jan Ellen Lewis helped me think through big questions and my major arguments. As my many citations to her in this book show, her work on gender, politics, and emotion underpins much of my own. Daniel Richter provided me with the office space where I did much of the early writing for this project, as well as offering a thorough reading and helpful advice on this project. All four have been model academic mentors and Im proud to have had the chance to work with them. At Oxford University Press, Susan Ferber has helped make this the book I envisioned, and her detailed, insightful editing improved the entire manuscript. The anonymous readers via Oxford University Press also offered extremely useful feedback and Im grateful for their thorough comments.

This project developed while I was a graduate student at the University of Pennsylvania. At Penn, I found two intersecting, supportive communities: the history department and the McNeil Center for Early American Studies. Many thanks to my Penn history friends Gregory Ablavsky, William Kuby, Brian Rouleau, Justin Simard, and Beatrice Wayne, who have been with this project for many years and have offered feedback, copy editing, and great friendship. At the McNeil Center, Daniel Richter, Amy Baxter-Bellamy, and Barbara Natello have created an unparalleled community for early Americanists. The fellows and visiting scholars at the Center during my time there from 2010 to 2012 offered countless helpful suggestions and ideas; special thanks to Sari Altschuler, Paul Conrad, and Jessica Roney for their friendship and encouragement. Thanks also to several friends outside of these communities who read my work: Stephanie Corrigan, Katy Hardy, and Andrew Robichaud.

I have many intellectual debts beyond Penn as well. I began my career in early American studies at George Washington University, where my advisor Teresa Murphy helped me think through the questions that sparked this book. I had many fantastic professors at GW who motivated me to research and teach. During my time working at the Smithsonian Institution, a number of curators generously shared their time as mentors. Special thanks to Frank Goodyear and Ellen Miles, who opened their research files to me for this project. I completed substantial revisions for this book while working at the Papers of James Monroe at the University of Mary Washington. Editor Daniel Preston has been unfailingly supportive, and much that I learned from my work with him helped to improve this book.

I also offer thanks to a number of scholars of early America who have provided their time and knowledge. Zara Anishanslin, Andrew Cayton, Rachel Hope Cleves, Elaine Crane, Thomas Foster, Lorri Glover, C. Dallett Hemphill, Rodney Hessinger, Catherine Kelly, Mary Kelley, Charlene Boyer Lewis, Nenette Luara-Shoaf, Lucia McMahon, Jayne Ptolemy, Joseph Rezek, and Bryan Waterman have read and commented on my work. Konstantin Dierks, Katherine Gaudet, Clare Lyons, Peter Reed, and Anne Verplanck offered advice on tricky subjects. Brian Connolly, Thomas Foster, Sarah Horowitz, Catherine ODonnell, and Bryan Waterman have shared articles pre-publication. Alea Henle, Whitney Martinko, John OKeefe, and Beatrice Wayne have photographed very helpful letters in the archives for me. Thanks to the Society for Historians of the Early American Republic, the Colloquium on Early American Literature and Culture at New York University, the American Historical Association, the Scholl Center at the Newberry Library, the Gender, Womens, and Sexuality Studies Graduate Student Colloquium at the University of Pennsylvania, the Omohundro Institute of Early American History and Culture, and the McNeil Center for Early American Studies for giving me the chance to present my work and receive feedback from great scholars.

I have, in addition, benefited from the advice and assistance of many archivists and librarians. At the University of Pennsylvania, history librarian Nick Okrent made sure I had all of the digital databases I needed. Thanks also to Interlibrary Loan coordinator Carla Bailey of the University of Mary Washingtons Simpson Library for tracking down obscure books for me. I did a great deal of my research at the Library Company of Philadelphia and the Historical Society of Pennsylvania, and I am indebted to these institutions for an Andrew W. Mellon fellowship. I also did extensive research at the Maryland Historical Society, where I had a Lord Baltimore Fellowship. Special thanks to Sarah Heim and Steve Smith at the Historical Society of Pennsylvania; Rosemary Cullen at the John Hay Library at Brown University; James Green and Cornelia King at the Library Company of Philadelphia; Linda Hocking at the Litchfield Historical Society; Frances Pollard at the Virginia Historical Society; and Laura Johnson, Julia R. Hofer, and Katie Knowles at Winterthur. I also thank the archivists and librarians of the American Antiquarian Society, American Philosophical Society, Connecticut Historical Society, Friends Historical Collection at Swarthmore, Georgia Historical Society, Library of Congress Manuscript Reading Room, Maryland Historical Society, Massachusetts Historical Society, Mount Vernon Ladies Association, New York Historical Society, Rare Book and Manuscript Library at Columbia University, and the Southern Historical Collection.