Landi - Rewired: Power up Your Performance, Relationships, and Purpose

POWER UP YOUR

PERFORMANCE, RELATIONSHIPS, AND PURPOSE

JOEL LANDI

Acknowledgements

Thanks to my wife, Julie, and our daughters, Natasha and Misha. Your love makes me complete.

A special thanks to my father and his wife, Hope. Their wit, creativity, and sense of adventure continue to inspire us.

Thanks to my friends Steve Johnson, 1* MC; Steve Morici, Bob Scholten, Howard Lynggard, Reese and Mary Kay Neyland, Dan Klier, Brent Hammond, Michael Herzog (Berlin), Steve Radenbaugh, Eric Schick, Allen Berg, David Anthony, Dana Mech, Joseph Yacoe, Peter Brennen, Lisa Lew, and Brandi Kamenar. All of you have played pivotal roles in the journey. Without all of you, this wouldnt have been possible.

I also want to thank Rob Kosberg for his friendship and guidance as my publisher.

Cover photographer: Ray Christian

Chapter 1
Our Resistance to Change

Chapter 2
Why Performance Coaching Can Handle It

Chapter 3
Power Meter:
Risk, Value, and Need

Chapter 4
Power Lines:
Aligning Values and Beliefs with Intrinsic Motive

Chapter 5
High-Speed Connection:
Experiential Learning, Data Acquisition, and Neuroscience

Chapter 6
Power Button:
The Paradox of Vulnerability

Chapter 7
Wired Networks:
Building High-Powered Groups and Teams

Chapter 8
Complete Disconnect:
How to Rewire a Significant Relationship

Chapter 9
Hotspot:
Best Sex Ever

Chapter 10
Alternative Power:
Moving from Egotism to Altruism

Chapter 11
Power Bundle:
Adventure, Mission, and Romance

Chapter 12
Unlimited Coverage:
Rewiring Faith, Religion, and Spirituality

Chapter 13
Streaming Live in HD:
How to Make Change Stick

Chapter 14
Optimize Your Operating System:
Giving Elite Performers Something More

Quitting is a response that follows the belief that whatever you do doesnt matter.

Arnold Schwarzenegger

Our ex-governor from California couldnt have been more spot-on: Quitting is something that follows a belief. When we give up on someone or something thats important to us, its usually tied to a negative belief about ourselves or a particular person or thing.

Limiting Beliefs

Its not uncommon that people invest months or years in a project, career, relationship, or an effort to do something significant without succeeding. They might have sought advice and done many things right but still fall short of their objective.

Whether we are building a business, advancing a relationship or achieving a milestone, it is our limiting beliefs that form crippling obstacles to the goal. We can rewire our views on foundational topics like achievement, power, wealth, sex and self-worth. Then we can experience a true paradigm shift, break free from a debilitating mindset, and move onto to greater things. The challenging part is identifying which belief is limiting.

The Privileged Few

How is it that some are able to make it? They survive the near divorce only to write a bestselling book on marriage and live happily ever after. They pull the equity out of their personal home, borrow obscene amounts of money from family and friends, and navigate a startup company to a seven-figure salary. How?

What separates the successful from the unsuccessful? Its their ability to push past limiting beliefs, the thoughts that reside in the subconscious mind that say there is an insurmountable barrier to success. Everyone feels the barriers, and most give up. But some overcome this monumental hurdle and go on to claim their prize. In my coaching practice, I refer to this as the Hillary Step.

The Hillary Step

The Hillary Step is a small but very difficult rock face located within 300 feet of the summit of the worlds highest mountain, Mount Everest. At an elevation of 29,029 feet, Mount Everest is so high that the jet stream can hit it, subjecting climbers to face winds that can exceed 200 mph. When the weather shifts, it can dump 10 feet of snow in a matter of hours. Most expeditions require supplemental oxygen above 26,000 feet.

The New Zealander Edmund Hillary and the Nepali Sherpa climber from Darjeeling, India, Tenzing Norgay, were the first to ascend Mount Everest successfully. They reached the summit at 11:30 am local time on May 29, 1953, via the south route. Nearing the end of their epic climb, Hillary and Norgay encountered an imposing 39-foot sheer rock face, which would later be named the Hillary Step in honor of Sir Edmund.

The Hillary Step has frequently become a bottleneck for climbers. It forces climbers to wait significant amounts of time for their turn on the ropes and exposing them to a much greater risk for altitude sickness, physiological depletion, and death.

A Potent Metaphor

With any great undertaking, there is often a seemingly insurmountable obstacle that we have to overcome before we can reach our goal. In the realm of personal development, the Hillary Step symbolizes an obstacle that weve created in our mind. It is a mental barrier that can appear to be insurmountable, or it can even go undetected.

People might not realize the lingering thoughts in their subconscious that sabotages them from going forward and claiming their victory. However, with the right Sherpa, in this case, the coaching relationship, you can navigate the obstacle, secure your footing, and get to the summit.

Once above the Hillary Step, it is comparatively easy to climb to the top on moderately angled snow slopes to the summit. The same holds true for the coaching relationship. The Hillary Step is the place where we remove the limiting belief and shift our paradigm. Once this happens, we are reenergized to take the summit.

Moving past Your Hillary Step

Are you stuck in your career? Do you want to be promoted but are fearful of leading meetings or public speaking? Are you exhausted from struggling to balance work and life? Do you want to date someone or commit to a serious relationship but are afraid to fail? Do you want to do what you have threatened to do but have not prepared for properly? Are you a romantic who just wants to boldly go where no man or woman has gone before? Do you want to start over? Then unravel your limiting beliefs, change your paradigm, and move past your Hillary Step.

Chapter takeaway: Limiting beliefs are self-sabotaging thoughts that derail us from great achievement and personal fulfillment. A great coaching partner can help you move past your Hillary Step the insurmountable mental barrier that stands between you and your goal. Once above the Hillary Step, your summit is attainable.

Our Resistance to Change

Philosophers have only interpreted the world
in various ways. The point, however, is to change it.