Lynda Field - The Self-Esteem Coach

10 days to a confident new you

LYNDA FIELD

Dedicated to the memory of Maggie Chalmers
(AKA Margarite Batease) a true Lady of the Light.
Thank you; I didnt realize just what you had
done for me.

Part One
TAKE CONTROL

Part Two:
SELF-ESTEEM FOR LIFE

THANK YOU TO

My family:

Richard my wonderful husband, man beyond compare.

Barbara and Idwal Goronwy my parents, positive and determined.

Leilah Porter my daughter, doing good work.

Jack Porter my son, an uplifting spirit.

Alex Field my son, sharing his gifts.

Alaska Porter my granddaughter, a powerful force.

Bevan Ward my stepson and his partner Rosie and their wonderful

son Joshua, a beautiful family.

My friends:

Sue Roberts kind and generous and always ready to listen.

Phraid Gower determined and courageous, with a wicked sense of humour.

Pauline Pickering walking her talk.

Conny Nowak and Ruth Bailey my mettaful GFR buddies.

The Cambridge Sangha a true refuge indeed.

All my other friends, colleagues and clients, too numerous to mention but all so important to me.

Michael Mann at Watkins Publishing who gave me the break that established my career; the wheel turns and we meet again.

When your life looks like a mountain, impossible to climb, dont ever forget how incredible you are.

You have all the resources you need to see you through.

The impression you convey is an expression of yourself that depends upon your innermost thoughts and feelings.

And when you walk in your confident shoes your bright spirit will always attract success.

Your originality and special flair make you fabulous, glorious and amazing, so love the skin you are in and know your true worth, every single day.

Each time you strive to be your highest self you are an inspiration to all those around you; be glad to let your light shine.

Your inner conviction and love for life will see you through the difficult times and even in your darkest moments this light within will sustain you.

Self-belief gives you the will to reach for your best and succeed whatever the circumstances. The past has no power over you; you can make new confident choices in the present moment now!

I wanted to become famous to prove I was a worthy person, but eventually I realized only you can make yourself feel worthy.

Davina McCall (television presenter)

S elf-esteem is a vital ingredient for personal success and happiness. When we have it we feel good about ourselves; we are calm, confident and in control and everything seems possible. Dont you just love it when you feel like this?

But our self-esteem is rather like a fragile flower; it bruises easily and needs lots of nurturing and tender loving care. Even the most seemingly confident people have to work on maintaining their self-worth, although you might find this hard to believe. When our self-esteem is low, it is only too easy to imagine that everyone else in the world is brimming with confidence and positivity. But this is an illusion; at times we all struggle with issues of self-doubt and negativity. My clients come from all walks of life and I assure you that the rich, the famous and the beautiful can have as many self-esteem issues as the rest of us.

We are inclined to think that worldly success automatically brings self-esteem, but this is not necessarily true. Although its great to do well we cannot rely on our achievements to make us feel valuable and worthy enough to be here. Favourable circumstances can change, life brings inevitable challenges and when things dont look so hot for us we have to rely on our personal inner strengths to see us through. The Self-Esteem Coach shows you just how to activate and build these essential inner qualities. Whenever we are feeling not so good, our self-esteem drops, we stop believing in ourselves and we fail to remember that we are a walking miracle. And once we lose our strong sense of self-worth we can easily forget our inner brilliance and fall headlong into a downbeat cycle of self-doubt and increasing negativity. But take heart, because this means that if you think that low self-worth lies at the root of your personal problems then you can change the quality of your life by working directly on activating and increasing your self-esteem.

Sometimes it may only take a small gesture or action to change your mood to a more positive state: a kind word from a colleague, the smile of a stranger, a walk in the park, a new lipstick, a call to a friend, a cupcake But at other times you might need something more and that is why I wrote The Self-Esteem Coach: 10 Days to a Confident New You. This 10-day self-esteem programme is a simple step-by-step approach to regaining your naturally confident, balanced and motivated self. Combining theory and practice with a fresh modern take, it is grounded in the scientifically acclaimed disciplines of cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) and positive psychology, and includes practical ideas, techniques and strategies from recognized spiritual traditions, cosmic ordering, neuro-linguistic programming (NLP) and up-to-the minute counselling and coaching theory.

The fundamental quality of our lives reflects our innermost thoughts, feelings, beliefs, expectations and imaginings. Our thoughts are powerful manifesters of reality as they connect and give rise to our emotions and to our actions. Although we can consider our thoughts, feelings and behaviour independently they are actually closely interrelated a change in any one of these factors will have an immediate effect on the other two. Figure 1 uses a cognitive behavioural therapy model to demonstrate the interconnectedness and interdependency of the thoughts, feelings and behaviour of a person with high self-esteem. I love the clear way that CBT demonstrates our potential for self-transformation by showing us that a small change in the way we think, feel or act can have a radical effect on our experience.