Published by Bridgetree, Inc.
The Seduction Of Our Children 2012 by Neil T. Anderson and Steve Russo.
All rights reserved, including the right of reproduction in whole or in part in any form without the written permission from the publisher.
ISBN: 978-0-9856907-3-1
We dedicate this book to our children:
Heidi and Karl Anderson
and
Tony and Kati Russo.
SOMEONE IS AFTER YOUR CHILD
Late one Saturday evening a pastor friend called me in desperation over his 14-year-old daughter. "Neil, Kelly has run away again." This pastor and his wife were godly parents. They had other children who were exemplary Christians. As I drove to their home that night I wondered why Kelly lived in such rebellion. I asked God to give me insight for helping this hurting couple and their troubled daughter.
When I arrived we shed a few tears, talked, and prayed together. Then I asked to see Kelly's room. I expected to see the dark posters and chaos that so often typify rebellious teenagers. But her parents wouldn't let Kelly keep her room that way. They had set limits to her personal expressions, which only seemed to upset her more. Kelly's room was like her lifeon the edge. It barely met the minimum standards imposed by her parents. Kelly had also been testing the limits of her parents' discipline in her behavior and occasionally stepping over the line. This was one of those times.
I said, "I would like to talk to Kelly when she gets home.I sense that there is something spiritually wrong."
The father answered, "I would love for you to see Kelly.But if there is a demonic problem, wouldn't we be able to sense it?"
"Maybe not," I responded. "You're too emotionally involved as her parents. Besides, you're dealing with major deception from the enemy."
Within a couple of days Kelly came back home, and her father brought her to my office.
"I know these last few years have been difficult for you," I expressed to Kelly. "Can you share with me what's going on inside?"
"It's like I have a subconscious self talking to me," Kelly answered.
"One?" I asked.
"No, maybe two," she said.
I asked her if she would be willing to read through a prayer for spiritual freedom. She wasn't excited about it, but she said she would do it. She started to read the prayer, then stopped abruptly. Startled, she said, "I can't say this prayer!"
"Why not?" I asked.
"Because they're angry. They don't want me to read it."
"Who do you think they are?"
"I don't know," she responded. She really didn't know, so she had assumed for years that the thoughts plaguing her were her own. Whenever they told her to run away, she obeyed. Then in a few days she would come to her senses and return home. There seemed to be no escape from the voices that prompted her rebellious lifestyle.
I explained to Kelly that the inner voices were Satan's attempt to seduce her away from obedience to God and to her parents. I told her that she didn't have to listen to the voices anymore. She could be free. Within a week she changed schools and friends, and the following summer she went on a short-term missions trip. She was finally free.
You may be surprised to learn that there are many Christian children and teenagers like Kelly populating our schools, attending our churches, and living in our homes. They hear inner "voices" telling them that nobody loves them, urging them to disobey their parents, and disrupting their attempts at Bible reading and prayer.
They are the targets of Satan's strategy. He seeks to destroy our families and churches by seducing our childrenaway from their parents and from God.
Are we saying that every evil thought in our mind is the"voice" of Satan or a demon? No, the fleshthat part of our brain that urges us to operate independent of God and to center our interests on ourselvesalso introduces sinful thoughts and suggests evil deeds. Furthermore, input from worldly movies, music, books, TV, etc. also introduces evil ideas into our minds. As we grow in Christ we learn to say no to the deeds of the flesh and to walk in the Spirit.
But the world and the flesh are not the only culprits, even though we tend to place most of the blame on them. The devil and "spiritual forces of wickedness" (Ephesians6:12) are shrewdly at work introducing evil suggestions as thoughts or inner voices. Just as we learn to deal with worldly and fleshly influences, so we must learn to distinguish Satan's subtle, personal influence and resist him, and we must teach our children to do the same. Whether your child's evil thoughts are coming from the world, the flesh, or the devil, this book will help you help him bring "every thought captive to the obedience of Christ" (2 Corinthians 10:5).
One of my seminary students was the father of three children. His middle son, normally the most pious of the three, developed a problem with lying and stealing items from the home. Dad and Mom disciplined him for his actions, but the more they disciplined him the more he stole and lied.
During one discipline session the little boy finally blurted out, "Daddy, I had to do those things. If I didn't, the devil said he would kill you!"
His father later told me, "If I hadn't heard your teaching about the battle for the mind, I would have doubled my son's discipline for blaming the devil for his behavior. Instead I explained to him that Satan was telling him lies in order to control his life and destroy our family. After we took a stand against the enemy, our son had one minor repeat a week later, then never again."
Our kids aren't saying much about Satan's seduction in their lives because most of them don't know that he's at the heart of it. Satan is the great deceiver. He doesn't march into their lives accompanied by a brass band. He slyly worms his way in through the opportunities they and we give him. And since kids haven't been taught what the Bible says about Satan's strategies, they blame themselves, and their sense of guilt and fear of punishment further contributes to their silence.
What are parents, Sunday school teachers, youth workers, and pastors to do in the face of this assault? Let's begin by stating what we can't do.
First, we can't bury our heads in the sand. This is not the time to respond ill denial or claim that our Christian kids are immune to this kind of a problem. Satan's seductive activities are aimed at destroying the church at its point of greatest vulnerability: the family. The enemy is after Christian families in general and the families of Christian leaders in particular. Half of all my counseling regarding demonic influence is with Christian leaders and their families.
Second, we can't run in fear. Remember: Thanks to the death and resurrection of Jesus Christ, Satan is a defeated foe. The war against the seduction of our children is a winnable war. If we retreat instead of advance, we forfeit ground to the enemy that doesn't belong to him. We must exert our authority in Jesus Christ and claim His victory in the lives of our children.
How can we do that? Steve Russo and I have discussed this question at length from the perspective of our different ministries. The Steve Russo Evangelistic Team is an international ministry to youth and their families. Steve travels the U.S. and the world reaching families for Christ
through kids. He deals with thousands of kids each year who are influenced by New Age, Satanism, and the occult. And in my counseling, writing, and speaking over the last 17 years, I have ministered to thousands of parents and young people who were in bondage to demonic influence until they found their freedom in Christ. Steve and I have come up with three ways to defuse Satan's weapons of seduction aimed at our kids.