Sherrie Campbell - Success Equations: A Path to Living an Emotionally Wealthy Life

a path to living
an emotionally
wealthy life

D R . SHERRIE

CAMPBELL

NEW YORK

LONDONNASHVILLEMELBOURNEVANCOUVER

SUCCESS EQUATIONS

a path to living an emotionally wealthy life

2019 Dr. Sherrie Campbell

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To my daughter Londonyou are my Reason in life

All of life is built on patterns. As a psychologist, what I study are patterns of behavior. I analyze the patterns that lead people into emotional health and well-being and which patterns lead people to their destruction. Patterns arent always clear at first, but the more time I spend with individuals and examine the results of their behavior, I can see what patterns are working in their lives and which are destroying them. Because we are all unique and individual, we manifest patterns in our own ways, but the results of patternswhether positive or negativeare surprisingly consistent. Positive patterns show beneficial results, and negative patterns show destructive results. Therefore, when it comes to success in life, I believe we can follow certain formulas, cultivate them as virtues, and greatly increase our chances at living authentically wealthy lives.

I have put together a series of success equations to make the path to living a wealthy life more obtainable and sustainable. It is my belief that most anyone can be rich; we can all make money. However, not all of us, due to our more negative patterns, can become wealthy. When were wealthy, we have it all. We have love, we have family, we have our physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual health, and we have the financial resources to make all other areas of our lives that much more satisfying.

The success equations in this book can be applied in many ways. Each equation is built to stand on its own; therefore, if you feel at any point along your journey that certain virtues seem not to be as strong in you as they once were, you can go back and choose the success equation that most accurately fits what youre looking to improve. You should know, though, that I wrote this book to present the equations more like a pyramid or hierarchy, with each equation being foundational and interdependent with all the others. In grammar school, we learned addition more easily than we did subtraction. It is that same formula which is easiest for us when we approach life and how to live it well. We prefer to have things added to our lives rather than taken away. For this reason, each success equation will add onto the one below it, and the one below it adds to the equation above it. I am about the least math-minded human when it comes to numbers, but I am an expert at mental and emotional patterns. I live by these equations in my own life and teach them to my patients. The results show continual improvement in all areas of life.

Another reason I built the equations in the form of a hierarchy is for the purpose of security. If we fall from one equation, we do not fall into an abyss. We fall into the formulas below it. Success cannot be sustained through challenge or failure without a strong foundation to fall into and rebuild from. As we have all experienced, success is not a straight, upward shot; its an undulating, somewhat terrifying, unpredictable roller coaster of continually reinventing ourselves to get where we need to go. These success equations are there to support and nurture you emotionally, no matter where youre at or what youre cultivating in yourself to become. Furthermore, the success equations are not necessarily phases you complete or pass through sequentially. Instead, they are best practiced as ongoing states of mind. An essential part of personal growth is practicing the new mind-sets that will make us feel better until they become a natural part of who we are.

My hierarchy of success equations is loosely based on Abraham Maslows hierarchy of needs. In 1943, psychologist Abraham Maslow published a theory in the Psychological Review that was based on his clinical studies of what motivates human beings to seek fulfillment in all aspects of their lives. His needs-based framework went on to become a model for both personal empowerment and workplace leadership. Maslows hierarchy embraces the concept that basic needs must first be satisfied before higher, more other-centered goals can be pursued and achieved. He believed we have physiological needs, safety needs, love and belonging needs, esteem needs, and self-actualization needs.

of the book focuses on our very basic biological/physiological needs. To go anywhere successfully, we must meet these needs before we can achieve our more expansive and other-centered needs. Our basic needs are foundational, and when well cultivated, serve as the launching pad for our personal growth and success. We must establish them first for us to be strong enough to build on them our massive structure of success. The entrepreneurial journey must be equipped with the necessary amounts of strength, energy, toughness, grit, oxygen, nutrition, water, shelter, warmth, sex, and sleep to sustain us. These basic needs provide us and our dreams the required balance and fuel to become successful.

Once our biological/physiological foundation is solid, we start of the book. There we explore what Maslow calls needs for security . In this phase, we arm our dream or vision with the necessary protections, securities, orders, laws, limits, and stabilities to be successful. To develop the security were looking for, we must think more psychologically. In this phase, we are more focused on our personal development. We learn about courage and self-trust. The primary task is to practice and develop the fearlessness we need to make mistakes, take risks, and fail, and to recover as wiser, smarter human beings. The smarter we become, the better we execute. The better we execute, the more security we develop. It in this phase that we secure the needs of our heart, finances, resources, mind-set, family, and a strong sense of safety.

As we feel more secure, we move to of the book. Here we work on cultivating Maslows needs for love and belonging . It is very difficult for love to grow without a strong foundation of security for love and relationships to build from. According to Maslow, we have deep and innate yearnings for family, affection, relationships, and teamwork and to experience an overall sense of belonging to a community. We desire a sense of inclusion. In this phase, love is the task. Love and belonging contribute to our foundational needs for warmth, sex, and oxygen, while also meeting many of our security needs. The more inclusive our community, the more protected we feel. We feel secure when love is present because we have a place to fall when things are rough and people to celebrate with when things are great. Through love, we also learn what love is not. In this phase, we begin to develop the ability to distinguish between who is real and healthy and who is fake and destructive to our lives. We learn who to let go of and who to keep. Most importantly, love gives us a reason to overcome. We must love what we do so deeply that there is nothingno amount of failure or challengethat can destroy the dream we are pursuing.