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Becoming a Woman Who Loves
Copyright 2009 by Cynthia Heald. All rights reserved.
This book was originally published by Thomas Nelson in 2002.
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Watch what God does, and then you do it, like children who learn proper behavior from their parents. Mostly what God does is love you. Keep company with him and learn a life of love. Observe how Christ loved us. His love was not cautious but extravagant. He didnt love in order to get something from us but to give everything of himself to us. Love like that.
EPHESIANS 5:1-2, MSG
So, chosen by God for this new life of love, dress in the wardrobe God picked out for you: compassion, kindness, humility, quiet strength, discipline. Be even-tempered, content with second place, quick to forgive an offense. Forgive as quickly and completely as the Master forgave you. And regardless of what else you put on, wear love. Its your basic, all-purpose garment. Never be without it.
COLOSSIANS 3:12-14, MSG
Preface
WHILE READING IN THE GOSPEL of John, I was struck with the command that Jesus gave to His disciples on the night of His betrayal. He was sharing His last words with His band of men important, significant words to be remembered and taken to heart: A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another; as I have loved you, that you also love one another. By this all will know that you are My disciples, if you have love for one another (John 13:34-35, NKJV ).
As I read these words, I thought, What is the old commandment? The old commandment is to love my neighbor as I love myself. As I considered the old and new commands, I realized that I liked the old commandment better! The new commandment raised the standard for loving. I think it is easier to love others as I love myself, I thought. How could I possibly love as Jesus loved? He loved sacrificially, unconditionally, and passionately. He forgave; He was patient; He didnt mind being interrupted.
The two greatest commands are to love God and to love others, and I realize that this new commandment was given by Jesus to the disciples and therefore to the church. It is by our love for each other that the world can see that we are His disciples. So even though this command is special to the body of Christ, I was still challenged with the thought of studying the personal implications of this new commandment for my own life. Could I really learn to love as Jesus loved? What exactly would this love look like? Could I actually grow in this love so that it would become a part of my daily life? What would this godly love cost me?
With no little hesitancy, I began to study how to become a woman who loves. I knew it would not be easy; in fact, it has been incredibly convicting. But it has also been life changing. Any time love is pursued, the pursuer can never be the same, for it is the nature of love to transform.
As a result of this study, my understanding of love has broadened. Now I realize how critical godly love is to the body of Christ and to the world around us. I have been challenged to come before the Lord selflessly and willingly, allowing Him to teach me to grow continually in love. Christ desires that all His disciples love one another with His love. My prayer is that as you take time to study and pray over the Scriptures and questions we discuss, you will become a woman who loves the Lord and others wholeheartedly and passionately.
My benediction is the same as Pauls to the Thessalonians: May the Lord make your love for one another and for all people grow and overflow, just as our love for you overflows. May he, as a result, make your hearts strong, blameless, and holy as you stand before God our Father (1 Thessalonians 3:12-13).
Cynthia Heald
Suggestions
for Using This Study
THIS BIBLE STUDY HAS BEEN created to help you search the Scriptures and draw closer to God as you seek to grow in Christlike love. All you need is a Bible, a writing tool, and an expectant heart. You may find it helpful, however, to have access to supplemental resources such as a Bible translation in addition to the one you normally use, a general dictionary, a general Bible commentary, a Bible handbook, or a study Bible with reference notations.
Becoming a Woman Who Loves is appropriate for individual as well as group use, and for women of any age and season of life. Before you begin each chapter, pray for attentiveness to how God is speaking to you through His Word and for sensitivity to His prompting. At the conclusion of each chapter, you will have the opportunity to write out whatever God may be prompting you to learn, reflect on, or apply. Ask God to direct your response to this personalized question so that you might receive His abundant love for you, which will in turn supply the love you give to others.