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Contents
Introduction
Asking All the Right Questions
How Spirit Works
(And It Does Work)
Success
Whats the Secret of Being Really Successful?
Well-Being
How Do I Find True Happiness?
Relationships
How Do I Fit In? Where Will I Find Love?
God
Does God Really Exist? How Can I Be Sure?
Postscript
For Ever and Ever
Every child that is born is proof that God
has not yet given up on human beings.
Rabindranath Tagore
Introduction
Asking All the Right Questions
Turn on the TV any day of the week. What do you see? Teens glued to a video game or hanging out in shopping malls. Teens who hate school and make fun of anyone who is different from them. And when they try to be funny, teens come off as too smart for their teachers and too cool for their parents.
In other words, they have no soul.
But my experience tells a very different story. Teenagers worry about their souls more than any other group. Life is a riddle they are eager to solve but also feel troubled by. Teens really want to know who they are. They are old enough not to accept the stories given to children when the big questions come up:
Wheres my life going?
Does God really exist?
Why does he allow so many bad things to happen?
Do I matter?
How am I ever going to make a difference?
Since you are a teenager holding this book in your hands, all these questions have run through your mind at some time. But I bet that since you first asked them, somewhere back in your childhood, most of the answers you received arent that helpful anymore.
This isnt a book about Grandma going to heaven when she dies or God frowning down on you when you swipe cookies from the cookie jar. Whenever I talk with teenagers, they report having heard things like this as a child. They discovered something thats very true: Adults squirm when the big questions come up, especially the big spiritual ones. They dont want their kids to worry, so they give answers that all say one thing: Dont worry. Its all okay.
And yet the big questions still keep coming up. At every age we all need to know what life is really all about. Not just on the surface, but deep down.
Teenagers are no exception. They deserve a spiritual life all their own. One that offers the kind of comfort we hope to give our children, but is different at the same time. More full of ideas. More mature. More fitting for the whole wide future that lies ahead.
Thats what Ive tried to do in this book, as fully and as honestly as possible. Not all the answers are nice answers. Does God let bad things happen? Yes; not always, but quite a lot of the time. Does that mean he is cruel? No, but youre really going to have to think, because a person who sits back and lets bad things happen is often cruel. Why is God different from a person, then? Lets talk about it.
Thats the kind of discussion you are going to find in these pageschallenging but not delivered in big words or nice thoughts that arent really all true. Its based on the questions teenagers actually ask me. Some were asked in person, at public talks. Others were asked around the dinner table, because my son and daughter, Gotham and Mallika, were full of questions when they were teenagers (theyre now adults and happily married, with families of their own). The remaining questions were submitted over the Internet, where a Web site was set up to invite teenagers to ask anything they wanted to know about spirituality.
So here it is, the thing you asked for. Not just answers to the big questions, but a guide to spirit as seen through the eyes of teenagers, a special group in society that deserves a spiritual life different from anyones before or since. I salute your uniqueness and invite you to read on.
I was shuffling through a pile of questions that teenagers had asked, and one popped to the surface. Its so easy to answer, and yet its so important that I knew I had to begin with this one.
Dear Deepak,
If you could change one thing about the history of our Earth, what would it be?
That question came from a fourteen-year-old boy. Now, what if you asked it, not to me, but to yourself? Theres a lot of changes you might wish for. You might wish that nobody had discovered gunpowder, since that led to such an enormous increase in terrible wars. You might wish that medicine had discovered cures for diseases centuries ago, or that every baby who had ever been born survived to lead a productive life.
But my answer would be different. When it comes down to one and only one choice, here is mine: I wish everyone knew from birth that they had a soul.
You might not think thats much of a change. Doesnt everyone already know they have a soul? Certainly everyoneor nearly everyoneis told that they have a soul. But being told and knowing are two different things.
If you truly knew you had a soul, you could change the world. Which is what Im inviting you to do. The world is changed from the inside. All the greatest people you can think of became great from the inside. Albert Einstein became great by dreaming in a new way about time and space. Leonardo da Vinci became great by imagining inventions that did not come to pass for hundreds of years (did you know that he sketched a helicopter four hundred years before the Wright brothers learned to fly?) and by having a vision of a new way to paint.
Yet there is a kind of greatness open to you right now, even if you think you are a very ordinary, average person. Its the greatness of living from your soul. What does that mean?
Living From the Soul
Imagine that you could have a thought and it would come true.
Imagine that you could feel safe and at peace, no matter what happened around you.
Imagine that you could love yourself as much as you wanted others to love youand more.
Imagine that you could wake up every day to greet a new world.
Imagine that you could feel the presence of God.
Anyone who achieved these things would be considered a great success in life. Im pretty sure that, as a teenager, you worry about how to make a good life for yourself. It can seem like an incredibly difficult project. But if all those things I asked you to imagine came true, wouldnt that be real success? Living from the level of the soul isnt about being goody-goody and hoping that God notices and smiles down on you. Its about the best kind of life you can possibly lead.
One fifteen-year-old boy asked a really important, basic question:
Dear Deepak,
What is the difference between religion and spirituality?
To me, they dont have to be different at all. To be religious and spiritual can and should be the same thing. But we have to be real here, and religion almost always means a traditional faith like Christianity or Islam or Judaism. Its practiced in groups. It takes place in churches or mosques or synagogues. There is a given set of beliefs, along with priests, scriptures, and services.