Lisa M. Schab, LCSW, is a licensed clinical social worker with a private counseling practice in the Chicago suburbs. She writes a monthly parenting column for Chicago Parent magazine and is the author of eight self-help books and workbooks for children and adults. Schab teaches self-help and relaxation therapy workshops for the general public and professional training courses for therapists. She received her bachelors degree from Northwestern University and her masters degree in clinical social work from Loyola University.
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Copyright 2008 by Lisa M. Schab
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Epub ISBN: 978-1-60882-740-4
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Schab, Lisa M.
Beyond the blues : a workbook to help teens overcome depression / Lisa M. Schab.
p. cm.
ISBN-13: 978-1-57224-611-9 (pbk. : alk. paper)
ISBN-10: 1-57224-611-1 (pbk. : alk. paper) 1. Depression in adolescence--Popular works. 2. Teenagers--Mental health--Popular works. I. Title.
RJ506.D4S33 2008
618.9285270078--dc22
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introduction
Dear Reader,
Many people experience depression at one time or another in their lives, but during the adolescent years, the vast number of physical, emotional, and mental changes that occur make teens even more susceptible to feelings of confusion or sadness. However your depression originates, you will need to learn to handle it so that you can go about your daily life and be happy.
Whether your feelings of depression are mild or intense, long term or temporary, inherited or situational, you can be helped by working through the exercises in this book. They are not meant to replace other treatments, but to supplement them, so you may also talk to a counselor or take medication for depression. Remember that working on managing depression is similar to taking a class or learning anything new: the more you put into it, the more you will get out of it. If you skim through this book, you can learn a little; if you really explore and work through the exercises, you can make your life better.
Since everyone is different and heals in slightly different ways, a wide variety of exercises have been presented. It is your job to investigate them all and find the ones that are right for you. Each time you try an exercise, think of it as an experiment. Your goal is to learn something about yourself. If one exercise doesnt work well for you, it doesnt mean you have failed. It means you have learned that the exercise isnt the right one for you at this moment. Keep going until you find something that does work. You may have to give some activities a second or third try until you feel comfortable, and thats normal.
It is important to remember that if your feelings of depression do not go away, if they get worse, or if they begin to frighten you, you must tell someone who can help to keep you safe. Several of the exercises at the end of the book talk about this. Be sure to share them with an adult who can help you.
Know that as you work through this book, you are doing something good for yourself. You are learning to cope with your feelings and take care of yourself in a healthy way. You can learn to manage depression just like you learned to tie your shoes or read and write. Just give it a chance and be patient with yourself. You deserve to feel good, and you will if you keep working at it!
Lisa M. Schab, LCSW
Activity 1
Defining Depression
you need to know
Depression is a disturbance in someones mood. It usually involves a feeling of sadness, a lack of physical and emotional energy, and a loss of interest in things that used to bring pleasure. Depression is one of the most common emotional problems and also one of the most treatable.
Everyone has days when they feel more happy or more sad. You may feel great when your team wins the championship, when you get a good grade on a test, or when you are having fun at a party. You may feel really down when you have an argument with your best friend, when your parents wont let you go to a concert, or when you dont get a part in the school play. Normal sadness passes in a reasonable amount of time, and soon you are feeling better again.
Depression lasts longer and feels deeper than normal sadness. It may cause you to feel very bad about yourself or hopeless about your future. It may affect your thoughts, your behavior, your appetite, or your ability to sleep. Depression may cause you to see reality in a distorted way, as if everything is negative and difficult, and problems may appear to be bigger than you can bear.
People who feel depressed often feel very tired physically and emotionally. They may stop spending time with friends or doing other things that used to give them pleasure, because they just dont feel up to it. They may also start to complain of physical problems, such as headaches and stomachaches. At its worst, depression can make people feel as if they dont want to be alive.
The more you understand about depression and the more you learn about how to combat it, the easier it will be to either manage these feelings or eliminate them altogether. The exercises in this book can help you to do this.
directions
In the space below, use line, color, texture, or form to show what your feelings of depression would look like if you could see them.
more to do
Look back at your picture and describe what you have drawn. Tell why you used the lines, colors, textures, and forms that you did.
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Describe how you feel when you look at your picture.
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Describe what you have already tried to do to relieve feelings of depression. Tell how well each of these things worked for you.
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Think about the fact that you can learn new ways to cope with and combat depression. Tell what you believe or how you feel about this fact.
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Write a statement that describes your commitment to learning how to deal with depression. Make a conscious decision to keep that commitment.
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Activity 2
Symptoms of Depression
you need to know
There are many symptoms of depression. Some of them are very clear, and some may seem confusing. Each persons symptoms and experience of depression may be a little different from everyone elses. Learning to recognize your own symptoms can help you to both prevent and manage depression.
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