When I meet people for the first time, as soon as the introductions are out of the way, I ask them to share their storiesto tell me who they are and where theyre from, where theyve been and where theyre going. I want to understand what matters to them. Maybe you do the same. The telling of our stories becomes an emotional connecting point for us. It bridges the gap between us.
Everyone loves a good storywe always have. Stories tell us who we are. They
Every day millions of people watch movies, read novels, and search the Internet for stories that inspire them or make them laugh. Every day we listen to our friends tell us about the dramatic or funny things that happen to them. Every day people take out their smartphones to show pictures and share stories. Stories are how we relate to others, learn, and remember.
As a communicator, I spend a good portion of my days sharing stories. People dont care a lot about cold facts. They dont want to look at pie charts. They want excitement. They like drama. They care about pictures. They want to laugh. They want to see and feel what happened. Statistics dont inspire people to do great things. Stories do!
Whats Your Story?
So Ill ask you again: Whats your story?
I wish I could sit with you right now and hear it from you. When you get to the end of this book, Ill tell you about a way you can share your story with me and with others. But before we get to that, I want you to think about your story so far. What kind of story is it?
We all have a bit of humor in our stories, as well as some drama. We all have our ups and downs, wins and losses. Theres a bit of comedy, tragedy, and history in all of us. But overall, each of our lives tells a larger story. What do you want yours to say?
I believe that no matter what plot each of our stories may follow, deep down we all want one thing. We want our lives to matter. We want our stories to be of significance. Nobody wants to feel like the world wouldnt miss him if hed never lived. Are you with me?
Have you ever seen the classic movie Its a Wonderful Life? Its the story of George Bailey, a man who dreams of traveling the world and building things, but who instead stays home in Bedford Falls, because he repeatedly chooses to do what he believes to be right for others. A point occurs in the movie where George experiences a moment of crisis, and he comes to believe that everyone around him would be better off if he had never been born. What hes really saying is that his life doesnt matter.
The great twist in the story occurs when, with the help of an angel, George gets a chance to see what his town and others lives would look like if he had never existed. Without him, its a dark and negative place. George comes to recognize the positive impact he had made because, time after time, he took action to do what he knew was right and helped other people. As Clarence the angel tells him, Each mans life touches so many other lives. George had touched many lives in small ways and made a difference.
Have you looked at your life from that angle? Have you thought about what you want your life story to be? Do you believe you can live a life of significance, that you can do things that really matter? Can you make your story great?
With all my heart, I believe the answer to these questions is yes. You have it within your power to make your life a great story, one of significance. Every person can. Regardless of nationality, opportunity, ethnicity, or capacity, each of us can live a life of significance. We can do things that matter and that can make the world a better place. I hope you believe that. If you dont now, I hope you will by the time youre finished reading this book.
Dont let the word significance intimidate you. Dont let it stop you from pursuing a life that matters. When I talk about significance, Im not talking about being famous. Im not talking about getting rich. Im not talking about being a huge celebrity or winning a Nobel Prize or becoming the president of the United States. Theres nothing wrong with any of those things, but you dont have to accomplish any of them to be significant. To be significant, all you have to do is make a difference with others wherever you are, with whatever you have, day by day.
To be significant, all you have to do is make a difference with others wherever you are, with whatever you have, day by day.
Back in 1976, I received a gift from Eileen Beavers, who was my assistant at that time. As I unwrapped it, I saw it was a book, and I was intrigued by the title: The Greatest Story Ever Told. I couldnt wait to read it.
But when I opened it, I was shocked. The pages were blank.
Inside was a note from Eileen that said, John, your life is before you. Fill these pages with kind acts, good thoughts, and matters of your heart. Write a great story with your life.
I still remember the excitement and anticipation that surged through me when I read her words. For the first time it made me think about how I was the author of my life, and I could fill every page with whatever I wanted. It made me want to be significant. It inspired me to do whatever I could to make my life matter.
So whats the secret to filling the pages of your life? Whats the key to a life that matters?
Living each day with intentionality.
When you live each day with intentionality, theres almost no limit to what you can do. You can transform yourself, your family, your community, and your nation. When enough people do that, they can change the world. When you intentionally use your everyday life to bring about positive change in the lives of others, you begin to live a life that matters.
When you intentionally use your everyday life to bring about positive change in the lives of others, you begin to live a life that matters.