Anderson - Sex - Decoded and Explained: A Practical Sex Guide for Men

Really...? Sex isn't real?

No it isn't. Sex is not real life. It's just a game.

If you don't understand this, then throw your condoms in thetrash, and cancel your date for tonight. Your sex life would be a bore anyway.

Sex is like a movie.

Can you imagine watching a movie about an average guy, withan average job, having an average day, where nothing out of the ordinaryhappens?

Probably not.

Usually it is movies with bizarre storylines and unlikelycharacters that are most popular. Superhero movies are good examples.

Why do we love Clark Kent aka Superman? He's out of thisworld literally. Theres nothing real about him.

Or is there?

The reason why we guys love watching Clark Kent save theworld is because his feelings and emotions are real. Its all about feelingsand emotions.

Perhaps the storyline is absurd, but every man knows whatClark Kent feels when he saves the world. If you're a woman reading this, thenyou have no idea what it feels like for us guys when we have the chance to bethe hero. It's deeply ingrained in us.

That's why we love Clark Kent. We understand his feelings,and we want to feel them too.

Having sex is like being in a movie. The things you chooseto do might be miles away from what you do in your "real life". Youcan even do things that are considered sick and dirty by normal standards. Therole or character you play when having sex may be different from your daily"average" persona.

The thing is:

Sex is a game. Andthat's what makes it fun and exciting. Normal rules do not apply.

The most dreaded thing for a woman when it comes to sex isbeing in a relationship with a man who doesn't treat sex as a game. Her sexlife would be a drag.

It would be like watching that movie about the average guywith the average life every time she had sex. There would be no fun andexcitement. And what's the point of having sex without fun and excitement?Isn't that what sex is all about - having fun.

When you understand that sex is a game, youll realize thatyou can do anything with your sexual partner(s). Nothing is right or wrong anymore. You and yourgirl can do whatever you feel like doing. There are no limits anymore.

I believe the internet has been an eye-opener when it comesto sex. For instance, only a couple of decades ago, women who liked givingblowjobs were seen as abnormal, and maybe even sick. These kinds of faulty andlimiting beliefs couldn't survive the online porn revolution.

Today, it's more accepted that anything goes when it comesto sex. Nothing is unnatural or unhealthy anymore. You can do anything you feellike, as long as it's between consenting adults.

This doesnt mean you have to do something out of theordinary. It only means that there isn't anything wrong with you whatever youchoose to do.

When I started to learn about relating to women sexually, Ihad concerns about "hurting" women. I had questions on my mindthat needed answers. Here are some of them:

- How does she know that this is just a game?

- If I call her a whore in bed, won't she get offended?

- How can she understand that I get excited when I spankher? I'm not trying to hurt her in any way.

These types of questions are absurd from a womans point ofview. Women know instinctively that sex is a game. They only care about whatfeels right in the present moment.

If your partner is highly aroused, and she knows that youlove her, then calling her a whore and spanking her will excite her. She won'tcare about what's considered normal. The only thing that matters to her is whather feelings and instincts are telling her. And right now, while you're fuckingher, she's so horny that being called a whore and being "abused"feels both natural and normal.

When we look at men and women's sex fantasies, it becomesclear that doing unusual and absurd things in the bedroom isn't only normal,it's important for our mental health as well. It's a way to release oursuppressed emotions.