Jesse James - Psychology of Seduction: Seduce Women Using Evolutionary and Social Psychology

Table of Contents

Prologue

Most nonfiction authors propose a book to their publisher, negotiate an advance on future royalties, and then get down to the business of writing. I could never write under those conditions, facing pressure and expectation from a nervous publisher. If someone paid me in advance to write a book, I would gladly accept the cash. But I would not write the book. Thailand, here I come!

I wrote the Psychology of Seduction because I wanted to organize and pass on knowledge that I have acquired over the past several decades. If I make a few dollars on the side, hallelujah!, but financial gain was never my motivation. I write for fun, not money.

Please do not lynch me for simplifying certain evolutionary concepts. There are many wonderful books which explain the nitty-gritty of evolutionary biology, such as The Blind Watchmaker by Richard Dawkins. I do not expect most of my readers to have a strong background in evolutionary biology and I would rather not transform a book on seduction into a boring biology textbook. Should you wish to explore evolutionary biology in greater depth, the recommended reading section of the appendix suggests some fantastic books. My goal is to help people understand the psychology of seduction and attraction, not regurgitate well-known theories of the Selfish Gene.

Some of my attitudes in this book could be misconstrued as sexist, while some of the seduction techniques I discuss might be labeled unethical. As a professor at a prestigious university, I am supposed to write about less controversial topics, such as A Pessimistic Estimate of the Time Required for An Eye to Evolve. Boring.

Now, a disclaimer: While I believe men and women evolved differently because they faced different evolutionary pressures, I make no assumption about which gender is objectively better or smarter. In my opinion - and it is just an opinion - each gender has its own strengths and weaknesses, excelling in somewhat different areas. In regards to sex, of course, men and women exhibit diametrically opposite behaviors due to the difference between eggs and sperm. While this book contains a blueprint for exploiting female psychology and behavior arising from those differences, I make no claim that you should use it for that purpose, any more than I would want you to shoot someone if I sold you a gun.

This is not just a book for males; both men and women will benefit from understanding the psychology of seduction. Men will learn psychological approaches to seduction while women learn how to avoid them. Both genders will discover flaws inherent in the human mind which render us vulnerable to deception, manipulation and exploitation. Although I am speaking to a male audience, women will benefit even more than men from understanding their own vulnerabilities.

Finally, I published this book anonymously. Who am I? I served my time in academia, and it felt like a prison sentence. For awhile I played scientist, but I felt like Sisyphus. In the business world I sold my soul. I am a man with many letters and titles attached to my name. But in the end, I am just a man.

Introduction

In high school, I was the quintessential supernerd. I was the kid who never got a date. Woman was a riddle wrapped in enigma and shrouded in mystery. I was lost.

As a young man, I enjoyed much success; an academic sensation, a wealthy entrepreneur, endowed with wonderful friends and passionate about my hobbies. But one thing was missing; female companionship. Sex. I didnt have a clue how to meet women. After exploring the pickup artist community, I realized I was not alone.

When it comes to seduction, most men have about as much luck as if they were standing in the middle of a raging river hoping to catch fish by bashing them on the head with a big stick. Applying my academic specialties of evolutionary and social psychology to the realm of seduction finally enabled me to get a handle on this part of my life called dealing with women.

Andrea Dworkin tells us that A man wants what a woman has - sex. He can steal it (rape), persuade her to give it away (seduction), rent it (prostitution), lease it over the long term (marriage in the United States), or own it outright (marriage in most societies). Rape is illegal and immoral. Prostitution and marriage are easy to acquire; you just need some bling. This book helps men persuade women to give it away, requiring a nuanced understanding of the female mind. Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?

If you want to drive a car, you dont need to know how the engine works. Just press the peddle and off you go - zazoom. Women (men too!) are much like cars. Occasionally you drive them a little - sex - and it doesnt seem to matter how they work on the inside. But if you want to make a car go faster or handle better, you open up the hood, grab a wrench, and figure out how the machinery actually works. Its the same with girls. Sure, you can go through life meeting women through coincidence - your job, your friends, whatever. And occasionally you take them for a spin - sometimes a short one, and sometimes a long one that ends in marriage. But think about your past. How often have you met a beautiful woman - the girl of your dreams - and let her walk away? Most of your relationships have been the result of chance encounters rather than aggressive pursuit.

But before we can understand women, first we need to think about games. Heres a question: What do championship poker player Phil Hellmuth and notorious pickup artist Neil Strauss both have in common? The answer to this riddle unlocks the biggest mystery of seduction.

Turkey Trouble

Scientists say our closest living relatives are chimpanzees, sharing almost ninety-eight percent of our DNA. But forget apes. Men and women are more like turkeys.

Behaviorist M.W. Fox described an experiment involving a mother turkey and a stuffed polecat. The polecat is the turkey moms natural enemy whose approach is typically greeted by squawking, pecking and clawing. General pandemonium. Even a stuffed polecat on a string enrages a mother turkey. Psychologists like to play games; they inserted a small recorder that played the cheep cheep sound of baby turkeys in a stuffed replica of a polecat. The mother turkey took the approaching stuffed polecat beneath her as if it was her own baby. When the machine was turned off by the experimenters, the turkey went nuts, savagely assaulting the stuffed polecat.

Biologists call this programmed response to a stimulus a fixed action pattern. Fixed action patterns can be as simple as responding to a stuffed polecat or as complex as intricate mating rituals. The main characteristic of a fixed action pattern is that the same behavior occurs over and over again in response to the same stimulus. It is almost like animals are running computer programs causing them to behave in specific ways when certain buttons are pushed. Cheep, cheep.

Animals and computers are more similar than you might think. DNA is fundamentally information; a blueprint to build an organism which is good at replicating. If DNA is the operating system, then fixed action patterns programmed behaviors are the software programs which help the organism survive and reproduce. Whether a mother turkey is responding to a charging polecat (stuffed or otherwise), or whether a human female is reacting to your confident sexual advance, the origins of the behavior remain the same; both animals are responding in a pre-programmed way to a specific environmental stimulus. Human beings are no more immune to fixed action patterns than mother turkeys.

Biologists have a fancy word for all this; genetic determinism. This is a gentle way of saying that humans are a lot like robots. But this is a book about seduction, not a discourse on the philosophy of free will. All you need to know is that women respond with predictable, programmed behaviors to certain sexual stimuli, not so different from mother turkeys. Understanding how to trigger female fixed action patterns will enable you to seduce women. Free will be damned.