Laura Berman - Its Not Him, Its You!

We all want the perfect relationship. Since childhood, we have learned about soul mates, destiny, and happily ever after, and we want those early fairy-tale dreams to become a reality in our adult lives. Unfortunately, we assume this idealized relationship will come to us simply and easily, just as it does in our favorite childhood tales or in the movies we watch over and over again.

Then, when Mr. Right doesnt fall into our laps, or our relationships dont pan out in this idyllic manner, we become disillusioned and angry. We look for someone or something to blame, whether it is our partners, our jobs, or the entire male species. Unfortunately, placing the blame on others does nothing to improve our relationships. Instead, it acts as a toxic force that prevents us from taking control of our lives and finding the love, sex, and intimacy we so want.

The first step in doing this is to put away blame and step into your own power. Only then are you able to change your life in the ways you long to do. In contrast, when you point the finger of blame at yourself, your environment, your situation, or your significant other, you are stuck. You cant make the changes you want, and you cant attract positive people into your life. When you are stuck in a negative and unproductive mindset, all of that pessimism follows you like a dark cloud, poisoning your relationships and preventing you from getting and growing the love you want. My goal in this guide is to give you the tools to stop the negative cycle that we all get stuck in from time to time, and help you take control of your love life.

In the following sections of this guide, you will learn how to let go of blame and initiate necessary change, how to embrace your own power without always having to be in control, and how to create all the love and intimacy and joy and sex you long forall by yourself. If you follow my advice, I can promise you will feel safer and clearer and more powerful than you imagined. You will have more romance, more spontaneity, and more passion, along with improved communication and self-esteem.

Each section will teach you different tools to help you get and grow the love you want. First, youll learn how to identify the toxic blame games that trap you, and how these can prevent you from picking the right mate or maintaining a healthy relationship. Then, you will discover how your past might be playing a role in your present love life, and how to break unhealthy dating and relationship patterns that you might not even know you have. From there, you will learn to start creating the emotional and physical changes you want, whether youre hoping to build a stronger connection with your partner, manage maternal guilt, or simply make your daily life more sensual and fulfilling. You will discover how to be fully present in life and in relationships in a way that empowers both you and your partner. And, you will learn how to inspire your partner to be more attuned and connected to you, and to give you the love and intimacy you deserve.

In this guide, you will also learn how to take the reins of your own sexual pleasure and create the romance and passion you crave. From intimate new positions to erotica and sex toys that spice up your bedroom routine, the techniques youll learn are guaranteed to make your time in the bedroom a lot more exciting. Most importantly, you will learn that you dont have to sit around and wait for a great sex life to sprout up overnight. You can plant these seeds yourself.

Every happy couple has one thing in commonthey know that they have to work to keep their bond strong and their passion sizzling. The more you work at your relationship and spend time creating the love you want, the more naturally it will happen. The most important step is getting over the idea that great relationships are effortless, or that the perfect man will simply drop into your lap. The second most important step is realizing that your partner cant be responsible for making your relationship change, nor can he read your mind and simply give you what you want. Only you can do that. Keep reading to learn how to create and maintain the love you want. All you have to do is open your mind and come along for the ride!