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Advance praise for Crazy Little Thing
Each day science teaches us more and more about love and attraction. In highlighting some of the most unusual love stories around, Langley shows us brain chemistry and neuroscience in action, providing insight into why, how, and who we love.
Sarah Forbes, curator of The Museum of Sex
If youve ever uttered the words what the hell was she thinking, read this book. Liberally spiced with Liz Langleys trademark humor and curiosity about the human condition, Crazy Little Thing is a tour de force of scientific info (this is your brain on love) and real-world examples of how our brains trick us into landing on the evening news, if not The Jerry Springer Show. Plus its proof that truth is, indeed, stranger than fiction.
Lara Dien, author of Heat Index
Liz Langley balances along the tightrope between love and sex with considerable thoughtfulness, compassion, and wit. Applying the precision of a skillful surgeon, she probes the mysteries and myths of mating and marriage alike. But who knew that reading about the role of brain chemistry in romantic relationships would give me an intellectual hard-on?
Paul Krassner, author of In Praise of Indecency
Like Mary Roach in Bonk, Langley takes you behind the scenes of the Love Lab, run by mad scientists mixing up bittersweet brain cocktails that will leave you thirsting for more. From circus freaks to morgue rats, Crazy Little Thing takes you on a fascinating leaky loveboat adventure that will leave you feeling incredibly and refreshingly sane. Langley affectionately pulls no stops in her quest to uncover the bewitching reasons why love drives even the best of us batty. Buckle your life vest and join her in this madcap journey that will have you sipping dopamine tea with Romeo and Juliet at Heartbreak Hotel under the twinkling lights of the Eiffel Tower.
Kendra Holliday,
writer and editor of The Beautiful Kind
Like a hearty cabernet sauvignon, Liz Langleys writing is a pleasingly complex combination of earthy flavors accented by subtle notes of humor and piquant insights. Whether paired with meaty discourse or just desserts, her work is the perfect complement to both sweet and savory, and delivers a full-bodied mindfeel that will leave readers with a long, rewarding finish.
Judy Cole,
editor emeritus, Playgirl and SexIs magazines
In the decade that Liz Langley has been writing for AlterNet, shes developed a cult following. Her work is smart, witty, and wild. Shes piqued our curiosity, opened our hearts, and vigorously stirred the pot of ideas when it comes to love, relationships, and sexuality.
Tara Lohan, senior editor, AlterNet
Crazy Little Thing author Langley has applied the burgeoning field of neuroscience to romantic love. She has done it with cutting-edge science, insight, andmost importantlya sense of humor. The science is backed up with real research studies, referenced in 14 pages of endnotes, but Langley describes it all with phrases like big new brain, love is a painkiller, love drugs whizzing through our veins, the cuddle hormone, and Gandhi neurons. The book is creative, very readable, comforting, and a standout in an e-detached world which is trying to replace human contact with electronic networking. It will not only make readers who are struggling with the symptoms of unrequited love feel more in control of their lives, it will also encourage everyone to take a new look at old-fashioned, in-person socializing.
Anna Jedrziewski, New Age Retailer
In Crazy Little Thing, Liz Langley takes one of our most complicated emotions, love, and explains it in a way that is factual, entertaining, and sometimes downright funny. We may never ultimately solve the puzzle of who we choose to love but now we understand how and whyand Liz reminds us that even though the low points make our stomach feel funny, the thrill of the roller coaster ride called love will keep us coming back for more.
Deborah C. Beidel, PhD, ABPP,
author of Abnormal Psychology
This book is simply irresistible! With wit like a machete, Liz Langley clears a path through the jungle of neurological research investigating why we fall in love and what happens to our brains when we do. Hilariously funny, Langley goes beyond neurologists to talk to lovers of all kinds, mingling science and unexpected sexual scenery. Insightful, compelling, beautifully written, filled with eye-opening facts and extraordinary people, Langleys Crazy Little Thing will make you appreciate the truth of Bryan Ferrys song Love is the Drug in whole new ways.
Lev Raphael, author of Rosedale in Love
Liz Langley says shes written a book about crazy love (is there any other kind?) you can read on a flight across the country, and shes done it. A fun, freaky surveywith a dash of science, a soupon of nuttiness, and best of all, Langleys charming voice that can make necrophilia sound like a prom date.
Brian Alexander,
author of America Unzipped: In Search of Sex and Satisfaction
When it comes to love and sex, everyone seems to be trying to find answers to the eternal questions. But in Crazy Little Thing, Liz Langley instead decides to question all of the answers, and its a heck of a lot more satisfying. Lets face it, the Hes just not that into you, you complete me stuff is only making all things love and sex more confusing. So Langley skips the easy road and the clichs and gets to the heart of things. From incestual love and necrophilia to freaks and the divine, Langley dives in and goes straight to the source, not to finish the conversation, but to further it. She talks to the experts. She talks to the people who have been there. (As well as those who have done that) And she talks to her readers like the intelligent knowledge seekers that we are, looking for a little help when it comes to better understanding this crazy little thing called love.
Jenny Block,
author of Open: Love, Sex, and Life in an Open Marriage
If Baudelaire and Tina Fey had a kid, they might give birth to Liz Langley. In Crazy Little Thing, she combines a journalists eye and knack for pointing out naked emperors with prose packed with more zingers than an express lane at Walmartthe whole time with tongue planted firmly in cheek.
Curtis X Meyer, poet, author, and essayist
To my friend Doug Rhodehamel
for putting up with (fill in the blank)
and to anyone who has a broken heart right this minute.
Acknowledgments
Special thanks to Sam Singhaus, Elizabeth Levensohn, Charles Martin, Lu Chekowsky, the Rhodehamel and Sisk families, Queen, Richard Torres, Jeff Truesdell, the pharmacy staff (especially Raj and Sofie) at Target on E. Colonial Drive, Orlando, for being so nice when I was so sick, and everyone who allowed me to interview them for this book.
Preface
As long as the world is turning and spinning were gonna be dizzy and were gonna make mistakes.
MEL BROOKS, IN THE 2000 YEAR OLD MAN
When I was a kid in the 70s Engelbert Humperdinck had a huge hit with a song called After the Lovin. It was the cheesiest thing you could find outside of an actual cheese shop, the kind of industrial-strength 70s smarm that would make people deny that the 70s ever happened until the90s, when it was far enough away to feel safe.