Mehow - How to Talk to Hot Guys: The 9 Secrets to Getting and Keeping the Guy of Your Dreams

HOW TO TALK TO

HOT GUYS

HOW TO TALK TO

HOT GUYS

The 9 Secrets to Getting
and Keeping the Guy of Your Dreams

Mehow

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Copyright 2014 by Mehow

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First e-book edition: September 2014

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Mehow.

How to talk to hot guys : the 9 secrets to getting and keeping the guy of your dreams / by Mehow.
pages cm

Includes bibliographical references and index.

ISBN 978-1-940363-20-2 (paperback)ISBN 978-1-940363-47-9 (electronic)

1. Dating (Social customs) 2. Mate selection. 3. Single menPsychology. 4. Single womenPsychology. 5. Man-woman relationships. I. Title.

HQ801.M517 2014

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2014009061

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OK now he was close, tried to domesticate you
But youre an animal, baby its in your nature
Just let me liberate you

Robin Thicke, Blurred Lines, 2013

One rock star romancing you up isnt liberation.
No one will domesticate you.
Hes a man-imal.
Taming him is in your nature.
This is dedicated to all the women who are
flipping the script.
Allow me to really liberate you...

Part One:
The Nine Elements of Sexy Conversations

Part Two:
The Phases of Seduction

Weve all heard tales of slick pickup artists charming women and having more sex than a man reasonably deserves. But what if the tables were turned? What if women could use the same techniques that pickup artists use and transform those players into partners, shy guys into fun one-night stands, and macho men into marriage material?

Ladies, Im here to tell you: It can be done.

For the past ten years, Ive been teaching conversation, seduction, dating, and romance techniques to men, sharing my insights about how to create serendipity and sexually supercharge a conversation. The results speak for themselves. Thousands of guys have read my books, taken my workshops, and implemented the strategies, resulting in marriages, love, and babies (not to mention lots and lots of hot sex).

So why not let the girls have their fun, too?

This is why.

There has always been a belief in the pickup community that women dont need to know pickup because they are naturally and instinctively good at Game. They dont need to learn how to approach guys because guys approach them. They dont need to know how to steer a conversation because thats a guys job, and if a woman does learn how to do these things, then a guy will be turned off by her because he wont feel in control. Hell be emasculated by her actions and not only will he lose interest, she will too because shell sense that hes weak and unable to take charge.

This has been the prevailing myth in pickup for more than a decade. It is a myth that has become dogma. Girls dont need pickup. They wont use it. Theyre not interested in it at all.

Im calling bullshit on this myth.

Turns out, women are interested in pickupand not only are they interested, they are excited about it, and they want actionable advice they can use to improve their love lives immediately. They just dont know what Game really is.

Most women think pickup artists are just players trying to get laid every night, guys who have no interest in long-term relationships, guys who will treat them with disrespect in order to manipulate a situation in their own favor. They think pickup artists are those guys who peacock, meaning they wear crazy hats or black eyeliner and walk around like celebrities demanding that everyone in the room pay attention to them.

And yeah, unfortunately some of that is truebut not all of it. I know there are guys out there looking for true love because I coach them. I know that pickup can be a powerful tool for real connection because Ive seen guys get married and have babies by using pickup to meet their wives. But pickup has a real public relations problem with women, which makes it harder to bring this wisdom to them.

Im trying to change all that because, lets face it: 90 percent of the guys out there are totally unimpressive at first glance. They cant sweep a woman off her feet because most of them are paralyzed at the notion of even starting a conversation with a woman, let alone having a relationship with her. And that means youre stuck talking to the one guy in the bar who is drunk enough or brave enough to hit on you. Dont you want more options than that? Wouldnt you rather have your pick of ten hot guys that youre already physically attracted to instead of Mr. Obnoxiously Drunk or Mr. Bore Me to Death?

You have to learn how to turn the odds in your favor and stop waiting for Mr. Right to find you. Stop waiting for serendipity and your meet cute moment. You have to stop lighting candles, visualizing your Dream Guy, and putting talismans under your pillow in the hopes that some magical moment will bring him into your life.

Waiting will get you nowhere.

Its not your fault. Youve been fed this fantasy from childhood, from the fairy tales where the princess is saved by the knight and they live happily ever after to every romantic comedy that has ever rolled across the big screen. You think that successful romantic connections happen magically. You think that there is that one special guy out there for you and that when you meet him, youll just know and it will be effortless and easy. Conversation will just flow. Love will be obvious. It will all seem like a happy accident.

I cannot stress this more profoundly: You are wrong.

Love isnt an accident. Its work. That magical meet-up moment? You have to create it. The physical escalation toward sex, you create. The deep romantic connection, you create. You create the love.

You need the ability to create numerous serendipitous moments. You have to spend time with enough good-looking dudes to make an informed choice about the one you want to develop a long-term relationship with, maybe even marry. Whether youre looking for a friendship or a fling, a one-night stand or a marriage, its time to broaden your options and start meeting some guys.

But how? How can a woman instigate the first connection without coming on too strong or taking away the fun of the chase for a guy? How can she ensure that men are captivated by her presence? How can she have her pick of several hot, amazing guys and keep the sex and/or relationship sexy, fun, and romantic for the long term? And what if shes not supermodel materialdoes it even matter?