"Self defense is not about learning a whole bunch of cool physical tricks. Self defense is an attitude that is backed up by a few very simple practical strategies and tactics. There are no guarantees and it is as much about acknowledging your limitations as it is about developing your strengths."
There is a lot of wrong information out there on self-defense. Look around YouTube, and the myriad blogs and websites that exist on the web, and what you will find are an awful lot of people who proclaim to know all about good self-defense, but in fact, havent got a clue what they are talking about most of the time. Indeed, the information they are putting across might do more harm than good.
If you are new to self-defense and have never done any training before, it can seem that most of the fighting systems and arts out there look effective for self-defense. A quick trawl through YouTube will reveal countless videos of people teaching what appears to be cool and useful moves that could work against a real attacker.
The truth about most of these cool moves is that they are little more than neat little physical tricks, like magic tricks designed to wow spectators and people who dont know any different.
And most people dont know any different. To understand what works and what is useful in a physical confrontation requires one to have some experience in these things (or to have at least trained with other people who have). Most people dont have that experience because most right-thinking people avoid violence like the plague.
Others, like me, actively sought violent situations in order to know them better and to find out the best ways of dealing with them. I went into the bouncing game for precisely that reasonI wanted experience, and I wanted to see what worked. And what I found was, the vast majority of the information being taught as self-defense had no bearing on real life.
Self-defense is not about learning a bunch of cool physical tricks. Self-defense is an attitude that is backed up by a few efficient strategies and tactics. There are no guarantees, and it is as much about acknowledging your limitations as it is about developing your strengths.
This book will not teach you how to do all those physical tricks beloved of martial artists and self-defense practitioners the (web) world over. Instead, this book will give you something far more valuableit will give you a sound game plan and the tools to help you develop the right attitude, which will not only help you take responsibility for your personal safety but also help you prevail in any conflict situation.
The information I have chosen to include in this book is designed to be of real practical value. There is next to no theory in it. I want to give you information that you can use right away to formulate your own self-protection game-plan, information that will help you prepare yourself mentally and physically should you ever have to defend yourself in a conflict situation.
All the information here is taken from my thirty-odd years of experience in the martial arts and self-defense worlds, and also the practical experience I gained from working doors for many years.
Read each chapter and let the information sink in. Let it color your developing attitude towards your own personal safety. To stand any chance of developing a good game-plan, you have to start thinking in a certain way. At points in the book, I will explicitly explain this attitude. At other times, you will have to read between the lines for yourself.
By the time you have finished this book, you will be far better equipped to protect yourself and your loved ones than what you were in the beginning, as long that is, as you put what I tell you into practice. Even if you dont, you will still find a change in attitude, and sometimes, thats all it takes.
So lets crack on and look at some self-defense fundamentals, beginning with the most important thing: how to take responsibility for your own personal safety.
Take Responsibility For Your Own Personal Safety
I don't even call it violence when it's in self defense; I call it intelligence.
Malcolm X
Making a full commitment to taking responsibility for your own personal safety is paramount when it comes to self-defense.
One of the main barriers to personal safety that many people have in todays society is that they believe they have no need for any self-defense skills or general self-protection game plan.
There is much violence in the world that it is never far away from our own doorstep. If you watch the news or read the newspapers regularly, youd be forgiven for thinking our society is more violent than it is. Even though there is much violence in todays society, the times in which we live are actually not as dangerous and violent as many believe they are, despite the impression that the mainstream media puts across. As hard as it is to believe, the levels of criminal violence in our society are less than what they were in recent years and beyond. Yes, there is still much violence out there, but not as much as people believe.
Im reminded of the late great comedian and social commentator, Bill Hicks, talking on stage about the news media and how it paints a vivid picture of this frightening and horrible world filled with death, violence, war, famine, destruction, disease, etc. And then you look out your window and...nothing, just the sound of silence or crickets chirping in the background. To quote Bill: Where is all this shit happening?!
My point here is that the world is not as horrible and violent as some would have you believe. Lots of self-defense instructors have a vested interest in making people think the world is a scary place and that you could get mugged, raped, or killed at any time.
While this may be true to an extent, the world is nowhere near as bad as these unscrupulous instructors would have you believe. Thats just marketingscare tactics to get people to sign up to their classes and expensive courses.
So am I saying that the world is some peaceful paradise where violence and street crime dont exist? Of course not. Obviously these things exist. What Im saying is that you need to maintain a healthy psychological attitude towards all the bad in the world. Acknowledge that it exists, but dont let it affect your life in any adverse way. Dont allow fear or paranoia to stop you from living your life to the full.