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Brave is the New Beautiful
In Brave Is the New Beautiful , Lee Blum invites you to join a girls club of a new kind: one that encourages each member to move beyond the shallow waters of insecurity and strive toward a place of depth, courage, and authenticity.
Gwen Smith, cofounder of Girlfriends in God and author of I Want It All and Broken into Beautiful
Bravery looks different on all of us. Maybe for you, bravery is facing your fears so you can step out in faith. Maybe for someone else, its the willingness to give others access to her story or the courage to leave a job that props up her identity. We all have mountains to climb and giants to face, but we never go it alone. Jesus is with us, and bravery originates from him. He continually calls us upward and onward. If youre in a season of life where you need a new brand of courage and a deeper sense of Gods faithfulness, read Lees beautiful new book. Youll be reminded afresh that you are not alone and that you get to be a work in progress, without the condemnation. Isnt that the best news ever? Were cheering for you!
Susie Larson, national speaker, talk radio host, and author of Your Powerful Prayers
All of us strive to be beautiful, but even on days when the image in the mirror shines, we still dont feel pretty because of the pain, shame, hurt, and loss we carry inside. Lee Wolfe Blum shares womens stories, including her own, to peel back the layers. This book is a beautiful representation of the hope that follows the compassion, care, and bravery of sharing our stories. A worthy read!
Tricia Goyer, author of more than sixty books, including Life, In Spite of Me with Kristen Jane Anderson
The notion that anyones life is easy is a mirage, wrote Lee. This is a timely message for all who need reminding that our most enduring beauty often lies just beneath the surface of our brokenness.
Constance Rhodes, founder and CEO of FINDINGbalance and author of Life Inside the Thin Cage
In Brave Is the New Beautiful , Blum deftly dismantles the barriers that keep us from being our true selvesfrom being vulnerable and real with others. Without clichs and with real impact, Blum reminds us that life is messy and that we need one another. You will find yourself in these pages, and you will find your friends. And you will find your unique courage.
Shayne Moore, founder of Redbud Writers Guild and author
Though age has eroded my addiction to the culture of youth and beauty, I still sigh for wrinkle-free skin from time to time. Lee Blum has nailed the healthy alternative for women of any age: courage to go deeper. Her heroines are women who rose above disfiguring accidents, who tore themselves away from destructive relationships, who endured the death or illness of a child. I especially resonated with the chapter on reinvention, a path I have traveled and highly recommend. Read this book and be inspired to find your own brave beauty.
Carolyn Miller Parr, MA, JD, retired judge and coauthor of In the Secret Service
Lee Wolfe Blum helps her readers understand that courage is not denying, coping, or white-knuckling it but is accepting our brokenness as a gateway to joy. She skillfully guides us through narratives of loss, disappointment, and pain so that we might develop a more authentic faith and become the beautifully brave women God created us to be.
Dorothy Littell Greco, author of Making Marriage Beautiful
In this refreshing and beautiful book, Lee guides readers to embrace their authentic selves, noting that its not as easy as it sounds and takes tremendous courage. Full of first-hand experience and dozens of anecdotes, Lee paints a vision for how powerful women can be when they embrace life fully and freely.
Kirsten Haglund, community relations specialist at Timberline Knolls Treatment Center and Miss America 2008
BRAVE IS THE NEW BEAUTIFUL
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LCCN 2016954686
ISBN 978-1-4347-1030-7
eISBN 978-1-4347-1038-3
2017 Lee Wolfe Blum
The Team: Alice Crider, Erin Healy, Amy Konyndyk, Nick Lee, Abby DeBenedittis, Susan Murdock
Cover Design: Emily Weigel, Faceout Studio
Cover Photo: Stocksy and Shutterstock
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To the brave and beautiful women in this world:
may we know them; may we raise them; may we be them.
Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a battle you know nothing about.
Wendy Mass, The Candymakers
Contents
Foreword
No, God! Please dont ask me to tell THAT story!
Id shared the sexual skeletons in my closet through the Every Womans Battle series, but they paled in comparison to this horrid secret.
I had killed someone by my own negligence, because of my own vanity.
I was a sixteen-year-old junior in high school, driving to my first-period class. Id driven fewer than two miles from our country home when I remembered that I hadnt yet put on lipstick. As I adjusted the rearview mirror and quickly applied the lipstick, my car jolted. Hard. Really hard . My first thought was that maybe Id hit a farm animal. But I had a sinking feeling it was much worse.
That feeling was confirmed when I ran back to the point of impact and discovered a curly-headed woman lying facedown in the grass next to a mangled bicycle. I was the one who did this to her. The realization almost took me to my knees. I desperately wanted to bolt and pretend it didnt happen, but I knew it was entirely up to me to get this woman the emergency help she needed. I ran toward the nearest house as fast as my jelly sandals allowed, but no one was home and the door was locked. So I ran back to my car, drove to the next nearest house, and frantically dialed 911.
A whopping forty-five minutes passed before an ambulance finally arrived. But looking right past me, the paramedic coldly explained, Im sorry, but youll have to call a funeral home. There is nothing we can do here.
That was August 27, 1984. Her name was Marjorie Jarstfer, and her grieving husband, Gary, soon proved to be the bravest, most beautiful image bearer of God that Ive ever encountered. He invited me over the night before Marjories funeral to tell me about her life and their work as missionaries with Wycliffe Bible Translators. After holding me oh so tight for the longest time and letting me cry all over his flannel shirt, he sat me down in the bay window of their living room, where I gazed hollow-eyed at numerous family photos displayed on a nearby table. I saw how lovely Marjorie was, how much in love she and Gary must have been, and how they obviously were very proud of the family theyd created together. As hard as this was for me, I could only imagine how much harder all of this had to be on Gary and their three adult children.