Surviving Sexual Violence
LIZ KELLY
Polity Press
Copyright Liz Kelly 1988
First published 1988 by Polity Press
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Surviving sexual violence.(Feminist perspectives).
1. England. Sex offences
I. Title II. Series
364.1530942
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Acknowledgements
Whilst breaking the silence has become a feminist clich in the past few years, it encapsulates an important fact. Feminism has provided a context in which many women, throughout the world, have been enabled to name their experiences of violence and abuse and to speak openly about them. This book was made possible by 60 women who chose to be part of this process. It is dedicated to them and all survivors of sexual violence.
As with any book and/or research project, there are many others to whom I am in debt for their support, advice and critical comments. I thank all of the following for their particular contributions: Catriona Blake, Louise Dunne, Annabel Farraday, Sophie Laws, Su Kappeler, Emma Kelly, Mick Kelly, Mary Macintosh, George Okey, Kathy Parker, Jill Radford, Isobel Ros-Lopez, Penny Snelling, Betsy Stanko, Michelle Stanworth, Marga Suvaal, my local refuge support group, the British Sociological Association working group for women doing research on sexual violence, the Incest Survivors Campaign, the Rape in Marriage Campaign, and the Trouble and Strife Collective.
Guide to transcription of interviews
Whilst transcribing the taped interviews on which this book is based I became aware of problems involved in transposing the spoken to the written word. Meaning in the spoken word is often conveyed through gesture, tone of voice and emotional expression. Surprisingly little attention has been paid to this issue in the research literature; the methods used in linguistics and conversational analysis are far too detailed for a number of in-depth interviews (in this case over 160 hours of tape). In order to retain some of the meaning that is lost in transcription, I developed a method for coding tone of voice and emotional expression. This guide explains aspects of this transcription coding which appear in the quotations from interviews:
A dash () indicates a jump; the spoken word is seldom as coherent as the written.
Three dots () indicate a passage of speech has been deleted.
Six dots () indicate a long pause.
Italics indicate that the word or words were stressed.
Emotional expression is recorded in brackets after the passage of speech it refers to: for example (angry), (ironic), (upset).
Introduction
As I was thinking about the introduction to this book, two statements on the radio drew my attention. A woman speaker at the 1986 British Trade Union Congress urged trade unionists to take the epidemic of cervical cancer seriously. In a commentary on international terrorism a male reporter stated that something must be done about the plague of violence that threatens our basic human rights. When the incidence of cervical cancer is defined as an epidemic, what word could adequately reflect the vastly greater incidence of sexual violence in the lives of British women? When the impact of international terrorism is represented as a threat to basic human rights, what words could illuminate the fact that it is domestic terrorism which more directly threatens countless womens lives across the globe?
These examples do not simply illustrate the power of rhetorical speech. They highlight a deeper, more fundamental point: that it is only in relation to certain issues that such forms of argument are considered to be justified. When radical feminists point to the appalling incidence of sexual violence we are seen by many as hysterical and, even by other feminists, as placing too much emphasis on womens victimization. Most men and many women do not want to acknowledge the extent of sexual violence in, and its impact on, womens lives. It is still illegitimate for us to refer to it as being of epidemic proportions, threatening womens basic human rights. Yet a cursory reading of the UN Declaration on Human Rights in the light of recent feminist studies of the prevalence and impact of sexual violence highlights how many of these basic human rights are still to be secured for women.
Surviving Sexual Violence is part of a growing body of feminist scholarship, primarily undertaken in but not restricted to first world liberal democracies, which documents the extent to which womens and girls rights to life and liberty are threatened daily. That such a fundamental assumption of liberal democracy is tenuous for the majority of the population yet not a major source of concern, suggests that there are vested interests at stake here mens interests.
During the six months I was writing this book, a number of instances, or consequences of, sexual violence occurred to women in my social network: for example, an incest survivor attempted suicide twice in a week after a BBC Television Childwatch programme triggered her memories; a womans life was temporarily devastated when her ex-husband raped her; two women were attacked near to their homes; a students sense of safety was so undermined by a peeping tom that she left college; an incest survivor discovered her sons girlfriend was being abused; during rag week, a woman teacher was pinned to the ground by several young men in masks and then photographed; three women were beaten up by their husbands/male lovers and, in just one week, in the refuge for battered women I work in one woman had a miscarriage and another her leg amputated as direct consequences of the violence they had experienced.
Despite feminist campaigns and actions in many countries which have, to a greater or lesser extent, made sexual violence a public issue, the prevalence and impact of sexual violence in womens lives is still not publicly acknowledged. In this context it is vital that the extent and range of sexual violence continues to be documented. Limiting our work to this, however, can result in women being seen as inevitable victims. This book also records the other side of womens experiences: our resistance and strength in coping with and surviving abuse. Any woman who has gone through this process (and any woman who has supported another woman through the pain and despairing moments) will recognize the connection between victimization and survival. This book attempts to validate that knowledge and make some of it accessible to those without it.
Surviving Sexual Violence is based on a feminist sociological research project and has two basic aims: to present the findings of the study; and to validate and give voice to womens experience and understanding.