Helping you define how and with whom you want to live out your later years years filled with companionship and security, infused with a profound sense of home. Chances are, if you have picked up this Guidebook you have entertained the idea of living in community.
Marianne Kilkenny has laid out steps for you to take, questions that need answering, and ideas to ponder all to help you define and then create the Community you want to live in. Full of exploratory exercises and powerful content, this Guidebook is a necessary companion for anyone who is seeking out their Happily Ever After.
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Table of Contents
To my mom, Betty Jane Martin, who was a woman before her time. She was my hero and she continues to inspire me to find new ways to help others age with grace and dignity.
Chances are if you downloaded this Guidebook you are wondering if living in Community is right for you. Or at the very least, you have wondered what its all about.
This Guidebook begins to answer that question for you. It will assist you in defining what kind of Community would meet your needs, and it will help you go out there and create it.
The original Guidebook allows you to write down your thoughts and answer the questions on the pages of the Guidebook itself. Obviously, you cannot do this on your reader. For this reason, I strongly suggest that you get a journal to keep alongside you as you read. There are many activities that will require you to write things down. Doing this will enable you to get the most out of reading Your Quest for Home.
It was a true honor to be with my parents as they aged and as their lives drew to an end. They were independent and proud people. But despite having two loving and attentive daughters who lived nearby, they were unable to bypass having to live in a nursing home. It was not the way any of us had envisioned their last years.
Experiencing this with my parents caused me to fear my own aging and final years. But unlike my parents, I had no spouse or children to lean on. I began to fret about what would happen to me. I was determined to find an alternative to the nursing home. This fear, and my desire to find a better way, was the beginning of my Quest to find new and different ways to age gracefully.
That was many years and many workshops, seminars, and conversations ago, all bringing me to the point of writing this Guidebook. My hope is that you find this Guidebook a helpful resource, a time-saver and a companion as you work to find your Happily Ever After.
Your Personal Journey
In and through community lies the salvation of the world.
SCOTT PECK
HOW TO USE THIS GUIDEBOOK
If you bought this Guidebook then it is likely you are on a Quest. A Quest to define and find where you want to live and, perhaps more importantly, how you want to live.
Like all Quests, it will not always be straightforward. There will be some twists and turns, some unexpected obstacles and perhaps even times when you wish you had never started out on it at all.
That is where this Guidebook comes in. I have assembled tools here to help you find your way. Its a sort of map, yet where it leads will be totally up to you.
Trust you are meant to be on this journey. Carry this book along as your guide and believe that you will find your Happily Ever After.
Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didnt do than by the ones you did.
MARK TWAIN
WHATS IN YOUR KNAPSACK?
Lets talk about the kinds of things you need as you begin your journey.
The Guidebook
This Guidebook is filled with information but it also has places for you to take notes, make summaries of the material and record your feelings. In other words, chronicle your journey. We call these sections the Travel Log. You can use the Travel Log sections or your own journal; either way, I highly recommend you make notes.
A Notebook or Binder
You will be collecting information all along the way and youll need somewhere to put it. The ability to reference this information from time to time is just as important as collecting it. This is why I like a 3-ring binder. I find it more versatile than a spiral notebook. In a 3-ring binder you can add things and move things around as needed. I also recommend using the clear plastic sleeves that have 3 holes in them so you can add pictures and miscellaneous odd-shaped items in your notebook.
Blank Journal
This is optional, but there will be many times during your Guidebook reading when I will suggest you write down or journal some things. You can do it in the Guidebook (Ive given you plenty of space) but some people find it easier to have a blank journal to record all of their thoughts in one place.
Cork Board on the Wall
If you are a visual person, you might consider having a place on a wall in your home to pin up pictures, ideas or your to-do list.
Computer File
Internet research will be a part of your journey, and I suggest you save things along the way. So before you get into your research I recommend setting up a file folder to keep all your goodies. There are excellent ways to do this with Evernote, Dropbox, the Cloud and others being developed all the time. You might even set up a bookmark file in your browser to save all the cool websites you find. The key here is making it easy to go back to things that you find.