Also by Fay Sampson:
Prayers for Dementia: And how to live well with it
Prayers for Depression: And how best to live with it
Prayers for OCD: Understanding and Healing
PRAYERS
FOR ANXIETY
And how best to cope with it
FAY SAMPSON
First published in Great Britain in 2018 by
Darton, Longman and Todd Ltd
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140142 Wandsworth High Street
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2018 Fay Sampson
The right of Fay Sampson to be identified as the Author of this work has been asserted in accordance with the Copyright, Designs and Patents Act 1988.
ISBN 978-0-232-53370-5
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ABOUT THIS BOOK
All of us experience anxiety at some time. It can be useful in helping us rise to a challenging situation.
For some people, the fear goes far beyond what the situation requires. Instead of sharpening our responses, it becomes disabling. This is anxiety disorder.
Its commoner than you might think. One in ten of the population will suffer from it at some point. It can have a serious effect on your life. Take heart; there are things you can do to help.
In this book you will find information and advice about different aspects of the condition: causes, symptoms, managing the illness, treatment, how others can help. Each is accompanied by a prayer.
The book is divided into two sections. Part A is for, or on behalf of, those with anxiety disorder. Part B is for family, friends and the wider community.
I have used terms like the one you love and they. You may wish to substitute a personal name, or the pronoun he or she.
At the end you will find a list of resources. I am deeply indebted to these organizations for their help, and to the many people with anxiety disorder who have described their experiences.
Half the royalties from this book will go to the charity Mind.
There are also blank pages where you may wish to add prayers you have written or discovered for yourself, and notes of other resources you have found useful.
Peace I leave with you;
my peace I give to you.
John 14:27
PART A
For the use of, or on behalf of, those with anxiety disorder
ANXIETY
Anxiety can be good.
You need to be keyed up before an exam, a job interview or performing in public to hit the top of your ability. If you are too laid back, the result can be lack-lustre.
Anxiety becomes a disorder when the symptoms are out of proportion to the cause and the resulting condition is disabling.
You may find yourself shaking uncontrollably. Your heart is racing and you are breathing too fast. You are afraid to go out, because you fear others are watching to see you fail or make a fool of yourself. You are too tensed up to eat. You have panic attacks, and are then afraid of another attack. You cant sleep.
When you are in the middle of anxiety, it can feel as if there is no way out. It can make you feel unworthy, a failure.
Take courage. Anxiety is an illness, just as much as a physical condition like anaemia. There are things you can do to help yourself, and there are healthcare professionals who can treat you. You can find ways to cope and lead a normal life.
But its still a frightening condition. This book explores ways to help.
Christ the Healer,
You know how desperate I feel. My life is falling to pieces. I cant control my anxiety. The world has become a hostile place.
I feel so shut in, as though others are laughing at me and judging me. Comfort me with your presence and your loving arms.
I bless you that you reach out to take me by the hand. Assure me that this is not my failure, that I am genuinely ill.
I marvel at the Gospel story which tells me that I am uniquely precious in your sight. You love me and value me enough to die for me. Help me to take the first few faltering steps to begin to believe in myself again. Guide me out of the wilderness I find myself in and back to a normal life.
A HOSTILE WORLD
Anxiety disorder distorts the way we see the world. Things that other people take in their stride seem threatening to us. We feel that we are losing friends, that we dont measure up to others standards.
Anxiety destroys our confidence in ourselves. We fear they may be right.
The cause may lie back in childhood. If those who brought us up saw the world as dangerous, even hostile, they may have passed on that fear.
We may have been bullied, verbally or physically. That fear can carry over into later life.
There is no quick-fix way to turn your outlook around, but there are steps you can take.
Seek out a friend who has a sunnier disposition, whom you can trust. Confide in them how you feel. If they are a good friend, they will take you under their wing and stand beside you as you face the world. You may find yourself sharing a little of their optimism. You will feel less afraid to go out. Some of the warmth they evoke in others may rub off on you.
Play music and enjoy art and nature that makes you feel happier. Allow some sunshine into your life.
Friend of the Friendless,
The world seems such a hostile place that I feel my stomach screwing up when I go outside. Ive lost all confidence in myself. Im anxious about every small encounter. Im afraid to pick up the phone.
You led your disciples through popularity and rejection. All that mattered to you was that you were pleasing in your Fathers sight. Fill me with the same courage. May I no longer fear what people think of me.
Help me to raise my eyes above my own situation and concentrate on living out your kingdom. Assure me of the deep love of our Father, which never fails.
You were sensitive to the loner, the outsider. You saw the despised Zacchaeus watching from a tree, and invited yourself to his house.
Reach out to me, in all my feelings of unworthiness. Smile on me and remind me how deeply I am loved.
PANIC ATTACKS
We have an inbuilt fight or flight reaction to danger. Hormones are released that make our hearts beat faster and our breathing quicken. Taken to extremes, this can develop into a panic attack. We feel faint. Our limbs turn to jelly. We either cant breathe, or we hyperventilate.
Added to the fear which triggered this, we now fear were going to die.
Understanding your anxiety can be part of the solution. Can you recognize situations that are likely to cause a panic attack? If so, you can prepare yourself by paying attention to breathing and relaxation.
But it may happen at random. Its quite common to have a panic attack when you are asleep. You wake up soaked with sweat and panting.
Tell yourself that panic attacks may be frightening, but they only last a short time about five to twenty minutes, usually peaking after ten. This can seem like an eternity if you are afraid you are going to die, but tell yourself it will pass.
Once you have had a panic attack, you will be afraid of another one.
There are routines which can prepare you: breathing exercises, relaxation techniques.
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