Alexandra Roxo - F*ck Like a Goddess : Heal Yourself. Reclaim Your Voice. Stand in Your Power

THIS BOOK IS DEDICATED TO my mom and dad, to my teachers, and to all those hearts that have the courage to heal, to stand up, to question, to share, and to be beacons of change and love, paving the way for this awakening world.

CONTENTS

INTRODUCTION

CONGRATULATIONS. WELCOME. You made it. I know it probably wasnt easy to get here.

You may have grown up in a country where you were told that being you wasnt enough or perhaps that sex was bad, either directly or indirectly. Where you had to hide your sexuality or wildness or magical practices and keep them all behind closed doors, to be spoken about in whispers.

You may have been taught about a masculine version of the divine, a god, but not about a goddess or about the divine spark within you.

You may have grown up with a strict religion.

You may find the word fuck triggering.

You may find the word god triggering.

Whatever you are feeling in this moment is perfect, and...

I am so, so glad that youre here.

This means you are ready to experience a deeper layer of living and loving. Perhaps you are ready to be reunited with your sacred essence. Perhaps you are asking for more, because you know there is more to life than what youve been fed by the world. Perhaps you have shit you want to shake up.

We all have fears that keep us small. Traumas that we have endured, big and little, the imprints of which keep us afraid and stuck. Maybe youre sick of feeling anxious. Or of secretly hating your body. Perhaps youre feeling confused about what direction to take in life or how to share your voice with the world. Maybe youve sucked at romance. Or your experience of sex has been mainly not so great. Or your childhood wounds are annoyingly showing up in every relationship. I feel you. I know its not easy.

The tough news is that we have each inherited a ton of stuff from our parents, not to mention the culture at large, and guess whatif we dont bring awareness to it, it aint going nowhere! But the good news is that we each have the innate power to change those old patterns and, in doing so, to reclaim our bodies, the way that we love, our relationship to sex and to the divine, and so much more.

Sadly, its not like we were given a how-to manual on how to get through it all (except that unspoken Keep calm and carry on contract you dont exactly remember signing). But trust me, you already have in you all the tools you need to have a rich, deep, magical life. Theyre inherent to your operating system. Theyre laced into your DNA. Its a matter of uncovering those hidden treasures using the arts that perhaps were not taught to you. The sacred arts of self-healing and of transformation. And this is what we are going to begin to do together.

Not that it will necessarily be easy or happen overnight. After all, uncovering your full essence is a radical act. It could take lifetimes. But why not begin to dive into the depths of your spirit now and transform anything inhibiting you from experiencing the depth of your love?

For transformation to occur, there must be a container, a substance to be transformed (a pattern, belief, fear, et cetera), and the energy or heat to make it happen. In this book I will lead you through the creation of your container, guide you to the awareness to see the patterns or fears dictating your life, and provide practices to help you create the energy for their transformation.

It is the act of taking your healing process into your own hands. It is standing up and saying:

I am willing to show up even when its uncomfortable,

to claim the freedom to become all that I want to be.

To shine brightly even amid the dark.

To love as big as I possibly can.

To make love to life.

To the present moment.

To myself.

To a lover.

To the sky.

To let myself be the ever evolving who-I-am and let that discovery be my lifes art.

To reclaim my body, my voice, my power,

And when it hurts

I will not give up!

Because I will be thinking of Mama Earth and how she needs me to shine

And I will be thinking of little boys and girls who are not free

And I will let my battle cry be:

I will find courage to face my fears.

I will love big even when it hurts.

I will not avoid the tough stuff, but take as many breaks as I need.

I will open to this life.

I will awaken.

For the sake of all beings everywhere.

And so it is.

Let this be your anthem. Or write your own. Read it aloud to yourself, under your breath. And any time you feel anxious or catch yourself going to say, Nah, Im good. Life is fine, or you spiral into self-hate or shame or guilt or fear, or you numb out with TV or wine, or you bury yourself in being busy and forget about your heart, come back to this anthem. Make it your manifesto of awakening. Your statement of loving intent. For the earth, your family, your parents, your babies...

But most of all... for you.

Because the world needs your wholeness now. And dont you want to feel a return to the infinite you in this life? A sweet reunion with your full, wild heart?

You are a vitally important piece of the ecosystem and well-being of this planet. Do not forget it. And when you heal yourself, reclaim your voice, stand in your power, and show up to the world more alive and vibrant and ecstatic as a result, you will inspire others to do the same. Ive seen the ripple effect... in effect! And it is amazing. This is when you begin to wake other people the fuck up with your spirit. By simply being you.

The messy, wild, weird, nerdy, silly, deep, multifaceted, ever-changing you.

My wish is that you use this book as a manual for reclaiming anything and everything that you feel has been taken from you and that you commit to a spirit of magic and discovery, a life of deep and open living and loving.

That you use this to feel alive and in your body every day, to put down the heavy baggage youve inherited from your family, and to shine full-megawatt bright in the world, owning your wholeness and not dimming your light for anyone or anything.

Promise yourself that you wont give up and that youll keep unraveling and unpeeling and deep diving into the gorgeous being that you are.

Every.

Mother.

Fucking.

Day.

My Story

Before we embark on this journey together, let me tell you why I am here. Why I care so much about love, healing, art, fucking, and awakening. And why I am so passionate about showing you that anything is possible and that there is a deeper level to living and loving that is accessible to us all.

Ive overcome some things in my life. Ive danced the good dance with my fears and woes, just like you. Ive found magic in dark caverns of my being, turning wounds into allies, foes into friends.

My own karmic material in this life, which I have used as fuel for transformation, has included sexual traumas and the symptoms arising from those experiences; childhood imprinting due to separation from my parents; feelings of abandonment and of being unloved and unlovable, as well as the emotional patterns that emerged from those feelings, including anxiety, depression, disordered eating, and body dysmorphia; patterns of lack around money; codependency from growing up with traumatized and depressed parents... the list is seemingly endless. All this has been the material I have brought into my transformational work. I have graduated from these patterns and symptoms preventing me from loving, living, embodying truth, and I have reached a place where they do not dictate or shape my reality. Some of them I havent seen in years. Others echo here and there, yet I have changed my relationship to them, and I no longer fear them. This is the power of personal transformation. We have the capacity to change our deepest fears, patterns, and neuroses into sources of love and power.