For the last fifteen years, I have been treating eating disorders as a part of practicing family medicine. The frequency, intensity, and scope of these disorders have progressively increased. Many modalities of treatment have been suggested through time, but the results have not been very encouraging. Many of these treatments focused on the symptoms that the patients present, but dealt very little with the pain, anger, and sensation of hopelessness these precious people feel.
In You Are Not What You Weigh , Lisa precisely deals with those feelings that are the root of the problem. She unveils the lies we choose to live and gives alternatives for change. She presents this information in a very nonthreatening way. At the same time, she is very concrete, effective, and powerful. Her testimony is a window through which to look, learn, and follow as a role model.
Those that are hurting, for any reason, will find an oasis in the middle of their wilderness when they read this book. I challenge you to change and come to the knowledge of the truth and be free!
I include this book as an essential part of the treatment of eating disorders in my practice. If you are dealing with the pains, anger, and frustration, if you are tired of failing, I challenge you to be different and walk toward your healing. This book is a great tool that will direct you to success.
L UIS E. M ORALES , MD
D IPLOMATE A MERICAN B OARD OF F AMILY P RACTICE
F ELLOW A MERICAN A CADEMY F AMILY M EDICINE
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Y OU A RE N OT W HAT Y OU W EIGH by Lisa Bevere
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Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data
Bevere, Lisa.
You are not what you weigh / Lisa Bevere.
p. cm.
Includes bibliographical references.
ISBN-13: 978-1-59979-075-6 (trade paper) 1. Body image in women. 2. Overweight women--Psychology. 3. Obesity in women--Psychological aspects. 4. Obesity--Religious aspects-Christianity. 5. Self-esteem in women. I. Title.
BF697.5.B63B48 2007
248.843--dc22
2006030086
E-book ISBN: 978-1-59979-638-3
Every year more than a thousand women die senseless, hopeless deaths. They die trying to win approval that will never be granted. These are determined and strong women with wills of iron. Yet their very wills are used against them and honed into weapons of self-destruction. Perhaps you know someone with an eating disorder. Perhaps even now she is holding this book.
This book is dedicated to every woman who has ever struggled with her physical image. It is penned to each of you who found yourself encumbered and entangled inwardly to your outward physical self. This is a book of truth to dispel the lies that have held you captive for far too long. It is a sword placed in your hand to cut the tethers and ties that bind you. I have fought on this battleground and won. I will be a true friend and share with you the Truth that set me free.
A CKNOWLEDGMENTS
To my husband, Johnyou have never reduced me to what you saw or what I weighed, and I love you for it. I am so blessed to have a husband like you to support me and remind me of Gods unconditional love for me. You are my best friend.
To my four precious sonsAddison, Austin, Alexander, and Ardenthanks for all your help. I love you all more than words can say. May you always know true beauty. Stay strong and free!
To Tinayou are one of the most beautiful women I know.
To my heavenly FatherYour Son has been the truth that set me free. You delivered me from a dungeon of sin and darkness and set my feet on the pathway of light. Forever I will praise Your name.
C ONTENTS
This book has radically changed my life! About ten days ago, I was talking to God and crying about my weight, and God told me to work through Lisas book with Him! The more I worked through the book, the more I felt myself changing. Working through this book was like having coffee with Lisa and being counseled by her. I prayed all the prayers that she gave, and I found myself realizing deep down that there was a lie going on that was keeping me fatbut I didnt know what that lie was. I asked God to reveal it to me, and a couple of days after finishing the book, He did ! Thank you, Lisa, for revealing the truth to me. I am now free at last!
KIM
This book is not about information;
youve had enough of that.
Its about transformation.
W hy would I feel drawn to write a book on the subject of weight? Because I have experienced both ends of the spectrum: Ive been overly thin, and Ive been overweight. I remember and can keenly identify with the frustration and pain of those who suffer from eating disorders. I will share an in-depth account of my struggle. But first let me introduce myself.
I do not come to you as an expert on diet, nutrition, or exercise. Im sure you have already amassed enough knowledge in these three areas. Nor do I address you from the vantage point of an aerobics instructor, beauty queen, or critic. Im sure you have had encounters with all of these. I come just as a friend.
I fought this battle alone. It was my secret struggle for years. I waged a silent inner war, afraid to tell others... afraid they might mock me if they knew. I never realized how many others wrestled with the same fears and failures until I had already come out on the other side.