Amy Ransom - The Soul-Soaring Virtues of Separation

What a beautifully simple but profound book where was it when I needed it! Its like a scroll through Instagram that leaves you feeling hopeful and strong. Each part of it will help every woman who reads it, especially if they are going through the painful process that surrounds the ending of a relationship or marriage. Its one to keep in your bag, by your bedside, and turn to when you need that little reminder that it will all be okay.

ANDREA MCLEAN, #1 SUNDAY TIMES BESTSELLING AUTHOR, BROADCASTER AND CO-FOUNDER OF FEMALE EMPOWERMENT SITE WWW.THISGIRLISONFIRE.COM

This is a breathtaking book deeply galvanizing and empowering. Amy expertly provides real, practical and relatable wisdom in such an easily digestible way. You will feel wrapped up in a warm embrace, like you are being softly guided through the challenge of loss and grief into glorious rebirth. This book will help you find your truth, your clarity and the energy to see you through to a fresh new purposeful chapter of life.

SUZY READING, PSYCHOLOGIST AND AUTHOR OF SELF-CARE FOR TOUGH TIMES

Powerful and moving. This is a very special book.

ZOE BLASKEY, FOUNDER OF MOTHERKIND

Amys book shines a light on all the ways that we can embrace a challenging situation like separation as a huge opportunity for growth and positive new beginnings.

ZO DESMOND, FOUNDER OF FROLO, THE SINGLE PARENT COMMUNITY APP

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Text Amy Ransom, 2021

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Tradepaper ISBN: 978-1-78817-514-2

E-book ISBN: 978-1-78817-547-0

Audiobook ISBN: 978-1-78817-595-1

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To Donna and Claudia, for soaring.
And to Sarah, for helping me fly.

I never imagined I would write about separation, following my own in 2016 at the age of 39, after nine years of marriage, three children and 14 years of being together. Its such a personal experience.

Then one day, during my daily run, I was listening to Oprahs Super Soul podcast with Sarah Ban Breathnach, author of The New York Times bestseller, Simple Abundance. She shared how she wrote the book for her, never once thinking about the effect it might have on others.

Right there and then, I knew I wanted to write this book. Not to dwell on what went wrong, blame, mourn or overshare, but to put into words what Ive been shown about myself during this time.

Because for me, separation while occasionally challenging and painful has been my greatest opportunity yet to really and truly get to know myself. I believe it can be one of the most positive experiences in life and the gateway to fulfilling our true potential. If we choose and allow it to be so.

Separation, in its many forms, is a heady mix of conflicting emotions, often hitting all at once. But I know that you can fly. That you will learn to accept these emotions and learn from them. And that, some days, your soul will soar higher than ever before.

This I have been shown, over and over again.

You have the ability to quickly change your patterns of thought, and eventually your life experience.

ABRAHAM HICKS

Shortly after I separated, I was introduced to the concept of the Law of Attraction: the theory that we draw everything (manifest them) into our lives with our thoughts, energy and vibration (the energy we emit). We attract the positive. Likewise, we attract the negative. The ultimate state of being is to be in alignment with ourselves an energetic match for whatever it is that we desire. We have to feel like the person we want to be without actually being it (yet).

The timing of my discovery seemed to me to be pure chance. In time, I was to learn that it was no coincidence. Nothing ever is.