Lora Cheadle - FLAUNT!: Drop Your Cover and Reveal Your Smart, Sexy & Spiritual Self

FLAUNT! is a reassuring reminder to us gals that we are not alone in this crazy journey to become fulfilled and self-actualized. If you are searching for insight, wisdom, logic, intuition, emotion, and humor, read this book. Get out your highlighting pen youll need it!

Lannie Garrett, singer/entertainer and Colorado Music Hall of Fame inductee

In order for each of us to fully express our gifts in the world, we must combine the masculine and feminine parts in ourselves the drive, on the one hand, and what Lora Cheadle calls the sparkle, on the other. Whatever you desire to create in your life, Loras combination of practical insight and contagious enthusiasm will help you get there.

Kelly Notaras, author of The Book You Were Born to Write

FLAUNT! is a fabulously important book for all women! Too many wonderful women underestimate themselves and need more self-esteem. Lora Cheadle has hit it out of the ballpark with her glorious book!

Stephanie Blake, actor, two-time Miss Exotic World Pageant winner, and burlesque legend

Sage and refreshingly honest, Lora Cheadles FLAUNT! provides a playful path for women to unapologetically integrate all of themselves to live and work with more passion, creativity, and freedom. Whether youve defined your self-worth by what youve achieved, youve squashed your own dreams in order to support someone elses, or you want to shed self-judgment and rewire your brand (and your body!) to choreograph a different kind of life for yourself, youre going to love this book!

Alexia Vernon, author of Step into Your Moxie

Reveals tips on how burlesque will empower womens lives.

Leslie Zemeckis, actress, author, and award-winning documentarian

Written like youre talking with your best, wisest, and funniest girlfriend, FLAUNT! is a must-read for all women (and men) who need new tools and a path forward to be their best and happiest selves.

Kathleen Nalty, founder of the Center for Legal Inclusiveness

Copyright 2019 by Lora Cheadle

All rights reserved. This book may not be reproduced in whole or in part, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted in any form or by any means electronic, mechanical, or other without written permission from the publisher, except by a reviewer, who may quote brief passages in a review.

The material in this book is intended for education. No expressed or implied guarantee of the effects of the use of the recommendations can be given or liability taken. The authors experiences used as examples throughout this book are true, although identifying details such as names and locations have been changed to protect privacy.

Life Choreographer and Life Choreography are registered trademarks of Lora Cheadle. Naked Self-Worth is a pending trademark of Lora Cheadle.

Text design by Tona Pearce Myers

Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication data is available.

First printing, November 2019

ISBN 978-1-60868-621-6

Ebook ISBN 978-1-60868-622-3

Printed in Canada on 100% postconsumer-waste recycled paper

10987654321

To all the women who have cried in the shower,

smiled when they wanted to scream,

and couldnt wait to get home and unhook their bra.

FLAUNT! Step 1: Finding My Fetish

FLAUNT! Step 2: Laughing Out Loud

FLAUNT! Step 3: Accepting Unconditionally

FLAUNT! Step 1: Find Your Fetish

FLAUNT! Step 2: Laugh Out Loud

FLAUNT! Step 3: Accept Unconditionally

FLAUNT! Step 4: Navigating the Negative

FLAUNT! Step 5: Trusting My Truth

FLAUNT! Step 4: Navigate the Negative

FLAUNT! Step 5: Trust Your Truth

Ibelieve that women deserve to be seen.

And I believe that universally women want to be seen. For who they are. Not for what they do. Not for who they are in relation to others, or what they can give. But for themselves. For who they are inside, at their most raw, authentic, vulnerable, and naked core.

I believe that when women are not seen, they cannot be accepted for who they are. When women are not accepted for who they are, they cover their power, dim their light, hide their beauty, and reject uninhibited joy. They lose what I like to call their sparkle, which is everything inside that makes them uniquely, authentically, and spectacularly themselves. When we lose our sparkle, we lose touch with our hearts, we suppress our personal desires, and we fall out of love with our bodies. In short, we fall into a state of chronic self-judgment, and we stop enjoying life fully.

I can hear you saying, Oh, come now, Lora! Everyone gets those self-deprecating voices in their heads once in a while! Its not like Im a pathetic, sniveling, groveling creature lying in a puddle on the floor. Im a successful, happy adult.

And I say, Yes, you are right! To a point. Its deeper, and more insidious, than that.

If you are anything like me, its not the moments of Oh gawd, I am such a freaking fat and out-of-shape loser that send me spiraling down; its the fact that nobody notices the things I do each and every day of my life that are, objectively, pretty incredible. Its the fact that for many others, I do, in fact, keep everything together. Yet nobody really sees me. They see only whats not done.

As cartoonist Bob Thaves said about Fred Astaire, Sure he was great, but dont forget that Ginger Rogers did everything he did...backwards and in high heels.

We are so used to dancing backwards and in high heels that we lose sight of the fact that what we do, day in and day out, is extraordinary. We have been fighting for our rights, for our status, for recognition, and for our voice for so long and we are so stunningly capable of molding ourselves into our high-heeled, backward-stepping dance that we forget it is our right to turn around, take off our dysfunctional (but admittedly supercute and sometimes-totally-worth-the-pain) shoes, and dance our own dance. Our way.

Sure, as the song says, we can bring home the bacon, fry it up in a pan, and never let you forget youre a man, but is that even what we want? I dont know about you, but as a little girl, I dreamed of being a sparkly fairy princess or a ballerina. I dreamed of things that made me happy. I didnt dream of mainlining coffee so I had enough energy to power through my days or of being more focused on completing my never-ending to-do list than on grounding into the joy of the present moment and actually enjoying my life. I didnt dream of sacrificing myself so that others could shine. Or of constantly molding myself into some unattainable idea of perfection.

So I ask you, what happened to pursuing our dreams and desires?

Its my guess that, like me, you have lived your life covering your body, your brains, and your beliefs, somewhat terrified that someone, somewhere, might (gasp!) get the wrong idea about you. Its time to reveal yourself. To find what I like to call your Naked Self-Worth, which is the ability to value yourself for who you are instead of what others believe you should be, without seeking to please or conform, and to stand unapologetically in your raw truth, knowing that who you are is more than enough. Through the five steps of FLAUNT! you will develop your Naked Self-Worth, expose the authentic woman you are underneath, and find your sparkle, so you can waltz into a deeply satisfying life that is happy, healthy, and burnoutfree.