Brad Lea - The Hard Way: Lessons I Learned the Hard Way, So You Dont Have To

The Hard Way

Lessons I learned the hard way,

so you dont have to.

Brad Lea

Copyright 2021 Brad Lea

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I dedicate this book to the only two people that matter. Me for writing it and you for reading it.

Life is what you make it. I learned that the hard way.

Its simple, yet we complicate it. Its easy, yet we make it hardat least most of us do. The question is, why? Why do we seem to put difficulty into living when living is so damn easy? I always told myself, when I get rich, Ill... [fill in the blank]. I would always think about what I would do and how I would act when I got rich.

Technically, I still do, but thats not really germane to my point. Heres what is:

After many years of making crucial mistakes and learning everything The Hard Way, I stumbled upon one of the most valuable lessons I never learned... until much later in life.

Its Always Better to Learn From Someone Elses Mistake.

I wish I knew this when I was younger! I would have saved myself a ton of pain and a lot of money over the years. I, for some reason, had to learn everything The Hard Way.

Anyway, thats why I wrote this book. These are the lessons I learned the hard way, so you dont have to.

They say, Leopards cant change their spots. I say, Who gives a shit?

Im not a leopard and neither are you. People can change. I have and so can you never forget that.

The Bottom Line is, if you want to succeed in life you must change. Change is inevitable and absolutely necessary to create Real Success in life.

The problem is most people refuse to do it, dont know how, or even realize that its necessary which is why most people spend their entire life chasing their dreams and searching for happiness when in reality, we build our dreams and choose happiness.

I have always been one to question things, especially authority. I never liked being told what to do, how to do it, or what to think. Im not sure why, I just never liked it. Thats why I had to learn The Hard Way.

If you randomly came upon this book or perhaps a friend gave it to you, allow me to introduce myself. My name is Brad Lea, I have been learning the hard way for most of my life. For whatever reason, Ive always had to figure things out for myself, and it has cost me dearly. Looking back, the part that pisses me off the most is that I didnt have to pay the prices I paid or waste as much time as I did to learn how to make millions of dollars, build my dreams, and become a good human. Trust me, there is no honor in overpaying.

I was the type of kid that if you told me the fire was hot, I wouldve had to get burned to believe you. You would think that after a few times of getting burned I would have gotten a little smarter and started to take peoples word for it, but that was not the case.

I spent the next 40+ years learning everything the hard way; getting burned over and over. This includes losing friends, losing money, losing time, losing opportunities, and most of all losing myself. Regretfully, it did not only cost me, it cost everyone around me.

I must admit Ive learned a lot, and everything Ive learned I know to be true. I wont say I regret paying the prices Ive paid because it has helped shape who I have become, but I will say that I regret not asking for help, seeking advice, and investing my money more wisely along the way.

I guess I was too stubborn, too proud, and too insecure to realize that the solutions and answers I needed were readily available...all I had to do was ask. It took me way too long to understand that.

Thankfully, I finally learned that I could avoid many of the costly mistakes, wasted time, pitfalls, scrapes, bumps, and bruises (as well as few heartaches and divorces) simply by asking for help, seeking advice, and investing money more wisely. Trust me, that is the easy way and there is no shame in making things easy for yourself. In fact, I highly recommend it. We get taught to believe that life is hard and/or unfair, but its not. Life is what you make it. The goal is to create Real Success as fast as you can so you can spend most of your life on easy street. To do this, you will need to learn some things, but ironically, youll most likely need to unlearn some things too. Youll need to reprogram yourself and reboot the hard drive. It will be uncomfortable and require you to change, so if you are like most people who really dont want to change and give up at the first sign of discomfort, I advise you to close the book and write off the 25 bucks you wasted. However, if you are willing to pay the price (far less than I did) and do what it takes to build your dreams, create real success and end up with everything youve ever wanted, read on

I realize there is a certain value and feeling of accomplishment in learning things the hard way but if you ask me, its not worth it. According to statistics, you wont make it anyway, unless youre extremely lucky like I am, so why pay such a high price if you dont have to? Its too risky, time consuming, and quite frankly, painful. As long as you learn and end up where you want to be there is no reason that it needs to be hard. Anyone who tells you otherwise is wrong. I am fortunate and have many multi-millionaire and billionaire friends, clients, and acquaintances that are happy as hell and living the life of their dreams and every one of them would agree.

Thats what this book is about. Its lessons Ive learned The Hard Way, so you dont have to.

All I ask is this. If you get any value out of this book, plaster that shit all over the internet.

Death is the best teacher. The problem is we cant afford the lesson unless youre extremely lucky like I am.

I can almost guarantee that you were taught to believe that patience is a virtue. Well, so was I, and so has pretty much everyone else on this earth. Its wisdom thats been passed down for generations. The problem with this wisdom is it can be deadly, especially when it comes to building your dreams and getting what you want out of life. Now, dont get me wrong. There are times when patience is great advice. Like if you are getting to know someone and feel like jumping in the sack with them, or when a girl says, wait here while I slip into something more comfortable. By all means, be patient

But, when it comes to creating success and building the life you want, do not be patient.

Patience is extremely dangerous when it comes to achieving goals and getting what you want out of life. In fact, its not only deadly to your goals and dreams, it can actually kill you or somebody else.

When I was about two years old, I was extremely curious. I would always want to investigate everything. I would constantly be walking around getting into things and tearing things up. I wish I could remember it for myself but I cant so I can only go on what I was told.

As the story goes, one day I was curious to see what was underneath the kitchen sink. This wasnt the first time I wanted to investigate what was in there, but it was the first time I successfully accomplished my mission without parental supervision. As luck would have it, there were cleaning supplies, dish soap, a few Brillo pads, and a bottle of turpentine. I still wonder why anyone would have turpentine underneath the kitchen sink or even what it was used for, but it was there, and I was determined to see what it was, and apparently what it tasted like. I was told several times to stay out of there but didnt listen. I remember growing up getting spankings anytime I did something wrong, so you would think I would have learned, but I didnt. Dont feel bad, I wasnt abused but when I got spanked it was usually with a leather belt that my dad had on. He would take it off, grab me by the hand and proceed to blister my ass. I would try to evade by running and ended up just going in a circle trying to cover my ass with my hand. It never worked, not once. I had no choice but to take the very painful consequences of not doing what I was told. Perhaps this is what started my dislike of being told what to do.