Praise for
The Happiness Prayer
One of our truly thoughtful and charismatic young leaders, Evan Moffic provides in captivating prose the wisdom and comfort of Jewish teachings for Jews and Gentile alike.
David Ellenson, chancellor, Hebrew Union College-Jewish Institute of Religion
The true goal of religion, of union with the Almighty, is not order, or a legalistic life, or even worldly success, but something more elusive, and more valuable: joy. In his delightful new book, Rabbi Moffic reveals the hidden elements of Jewish wisdom and prayer that can lead us to a happy life. Blessed are those who are happy! might be Rabbi Moffics entirely ancient and beautifully new beatitude.
James Martin, SJ, author of Jesus: A Pilgrimage
The longer I live, and the more Im faced with the inescapable reality of pain in life, the more I search for and surround myself with people who exude joy. Men and women who know how to dance in the rain. My friend, Rabbi Evan Moffic, is a shining example. Its impossible to be in a bad mood when Im with him. And this book delivers that joyful spirit directly to you.
Michele Cushatt, author of I Am: A 60-Day Journey to Knowing Who You Are Because of Who He Is
Rabbi Moffic has written a beautiful book about what Jewish wisdom can teach us all about how to lead a more meaningful life. Full of moving stories and wise advice, THE HAPPINESS PRAYER shows that true happiness lies in serving others and cultivating our best selves. This is a book that encourages reflection and offers hope.
Emily Esfahani Smith, TED speaker and author of The Power of Meaning
Want to know where to put your energy for a life that has maximal meaning, connection, and opportunities to grow as a person? Read THE HAPPINESS PRAYER. Rabbi Evan Moffic masterfully takes us on a powerful journey through the wisdom of our tradition and the complexities of the human heart. This happiness isnt about quick fixes and instant gratificationrather, its the recipe for something much more long-lasting and sustaining.
Rabbi Danya Ruttenberg, author of Nurture the Wow: Finding Spirituality in the Frustration, Boredom, Tears, Poop, Desperation, Wonder, and Radical Amazement of Parenting
With sensitivity and insight, Rabbi Evan Moffic offers ancient wisdom to give us meaning and mooring amidst the challenges of our daily lives.
Rabbi David Stern, president, Central Conference of American Rabbis
A much needed reminderin a culture of seekingthat happiness can be a return to something ancient; Evan Moffics insights and humanity fill the pages of THE HAPPINESS PRAYER, shining beauty and affirmation on the wisdom of a two-thousand-year-old prayer, and making it accessible to anyone yearning for a more meaningful life.
Dan Ain, founder of Because Jewish and former rabbi in residence at 92Y
Rabbi Moffic captures a primary contemporary pursuithappinessand refracts it through anecdotes, rabbinic wisdom, and popular culture to remind us that that the path to happiness is right before us at all times. Its wisdom is like the prize inside of a box of crackerjacksa simple pleasure.
Rabbi Lori Shapiro, The Open Temple
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Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data
Names: Moffic, Evan, 1978 author.
Title: The happiness prayer : ancient Jewish wisdom for the best way to live today / Rabbi Evan Moffic.
Description: First edition. | New York ; Nashville : Center Street, [2017]
Identifiers: LCCN 2017016321| ISBN 9781478918066 (hardback) | ISBN 9781478918080 (ebook)
Subjects: LCSH: JudaismEssence, genius, nature. | HappinessReligious aspectsJudaism. | Jewish way of life. | Mishnah. PeahMeditations. | Moffic, Evan, 1978 | BISAC: RELIGION / Judaism / General. | SELF-HELP / Personal Growth / Happiness. | RELIGION / Judaism / Reform. | RELIGION / Judaism / Conservative.
Classification: LCC BM565 .M583 2017 | DDC 296dc23
LC record available at https://lccn.loc.gov/2017016321
ISBNs: 978-1-4789-1806-6 (hardcover), 978-1-4789-1808-0 (ebook)
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To Congregation Solel for trusting me to be your rabbi, and for giving me the opportunity to lead, write, speak, and grow.
I have learned much from my teachers, more from my colleagues, and the most from my students. (The Talmud, Tractate Taanit, 7a)
A few years ago my friend started a ritual in her home. When she got home from work, she would ask her two kids the following: On a scale of one to ten, how would you rate your day? The first time she did it, the oldest daughter thought for a while. Then she answered, 6.125. She recounted what her teachers and friends had said to her, what shed learned, whom shed sat with at lunch, and how she had been late for dance practice. Delivering the answer took about five minutes.
The second daughter responded with a question. What is the highest, Mom? Ten. Well, she said with a smile, it was a ten! Then she skipped out of the room.
Some of us seem wired for happiness. We make smiley faces on our papers. We see a glass half-full. We answer the phone with a cheerful hello. Others of us are more like the older daughter. We evaluate every conversation. We always imagine what might go wrong in an upcoming meeting. We look up at the sky and see the clouds.
Which one are you? Do you tend to look for the good? Or do you worry about what might go wrong? This book will give you a clearer picture of yourself. It will also give you a path for uncovering a deeper happinessa sense of meaning and purpose in your life. It will do so by exposing you to the words of a special Hebrew prayer called Eilu Devarim (pronounced ay-lu deh-var-eem). The name means These are the words. It was written two thousand years ago and consists of ten short verses. It has been a part of Jewish worship for several hundred years, and I have been saying it every morning for most of my life.
I discovered its real power, though, during a painful time. I had gone through most of life with the attitude of my friends younger daughter. I had loving parents. Id studied at my dream college. Id found my ideal calling as a rabbi. Most days had been tens. My wife had said my constant smiles were the thing that most attracted her. Sure, there had been setbacks, but even those had seemed to lead ultimately to something better.
Then age thirty brought the opportunity of a lifetime. I became the lead rabbi of a large and historic congregation. I felt lucky and blessed, and I knew I could help the community do amazing things. But the initial excitement quickly turned into a recognition of the reality of my new situation. Two thousand people turned to me for help with the pains and tragedies of lifebroken marriages, problems with their children, the deaths of parents and grandparents, and much more. In my earlier positions, Id always had a backup. Now I was supposed to have all the answers. Did I really have what it took? Did I have enough experience and empathy to help with life-and-death choices? Judaism rarely offers easy answers to hard questions. It is a faith that values debate and struggle over dogma and certainty. I wondered whether I could really guide the congregation looking to me for wisdom and truth.