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An innovative psychotherapist tackles the overlooked stage of Quarterlifethe years between adolescence and midlifeand provides a fascinating guide on how to navigate and thriverather than just survivethese odd years (PureWow).
Quarterlife is an insightful, revealing look at the messy and uncharted paths to wholeness, and a powerful tool for anyone navigating early adulthood.Tembi Locke, New York Times bestselling author of From Scratch

Im stuck. Whats wrong with me? Is this all there is? Satya Doyle Byock hears these refrains regularly in her psychotherapy practice where she works with Quarterlifers, individuals between the ages of (roughly) sixteen to thirty-six. She understands their frustration. Some clients have done everything right: graduate, get a job, meet a partner. Yet they are unfulfilled and unclear on what to do next. Byock calls these Quarterlifers Stability Types. Others are uninterested in this prescribed path, but feel unmoored. She refers to them as Meaning Types.
While society is quick to label the emotions and behavior of this age group as generational traits, Byock sees things differently. She believes these struggles are part of the developmental journey of Quarterlife, a distinct stage that every person goes through and which has been virtually ignored by popular culture and psychology.
In Quarterlife, Byock utilizes personal storytelling, mythology, Jungian psychology, pop culture, literature, and client case studies to provide guideposts for this period of life. Readers will be able to find themselves on the spectrum between Stability and Meaning Types, and engage with Byocks four pillars of Quarterlife development:
Separate: Gain independence from the relationships and expectations that no longer serve you
Listen: Pay close attention to your own wants and needs
Build: Create, cultivate, and construct tools and practices for the life you want
Integrate: Take what youve learned and manifest something new
Quarterlife is a defining work that offers a compassionate roadmap toward finding understanding, happiness, and wholeness in adulthood.

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Quarterlife is a work of nonfiction. Some names and identifying details have been changed.

Copyright 2022 by Satya Doyle Byock

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Published in the United States by Random House, an imprint and division of Penguin Random House LLC, New York.

Random House and the House colophon are registered trademarks of Penguin Random House LLC.

Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data

Names: Byock, Satya Doyle, author.

Title: Quarterlife: the search for self in early adulthood / by Satya Doyle Byock.

Identifiers: LCCN 2021042256 (print) | LCCN 2021042257 (ebook) | ISBN 9780525511663 (hardcover) | ISBN 9780525511670 (ebook)

Subjects: LCSH: Young adultsLife skills guides. | Quality of life. | Self-actualization (Psychology)

Classification: LCC HQ799.5 .B95 2022 (print) | LCC HQ799.5 (ebook) | DDC 646.70084/2dc23/eng/20211108

LC record available at https://lccn.loc.gov/2021042256

LC ebook record available at https://lccn.loc.gov/2021042257

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What is to come will be created in you and from you. Hence look into yourself. Do not compare, do not measure. No other way is like yours. All other ways deceive and tempt you. You must fulfill the way that is in you.

Carl Jung , TheRed Book

Authors Note

E ach client portrayed in this book is a composite story from my psychotherapy practice. No character represents a single client, and all identifying details have been changed. In a professional field rooted in the sacredness of confidentiality, there are few ethical guidelines on how to capture clients experiences as case studies. My goal was to offer stories that honor a strict adherence to confidentiality, without oversimplification or a reliance on tropes. I can only hope I have succeeded.

The COVID-19 pandemic is not discussed in this book. Most of the manuscript was written before the virus, when I was still working with clients in a physical office. As it was always my intention for this book to be relatively timeless in its makeup, I chose not to alter the content to reflect recent changes in my psychotherapy practice or in the world. The pandemic has affected the lives of everyone alive today in one way or another, and I have no way of knowing what the world will be like when these pages are finally in readers hands. And that was always the point: to write this book so that Quarterlifers in any era might read it and find direction.

Introduction

Why do I feel lost?

Why is my life such a mess?

Why am I stuck?

Whats wrong with me?

I hear it all. From subtle doubts to unrelenting panic, there is undeniable, epidemic suffering among people in their late teens, twenties, and thirties. Crippling anxiety, depression, anguish, and disorientation are effectively the norm. Suicide rates are unspeakably high, as are overdoses. Compounding the problem, the common diagnoses and solutions being offered to those suffering frequently add to the chaos and stress, as if this stage of life has caught individuals and the healthcare system by surprise. Its not just a question of mental illness. At root, there is not a deep understanding of what is unfolding in this time of life. There isnt even public consensus on what to call these twenty years or so following adolescence.

I call this stage Quarterlife, derived from the term Quarterlife crisis, originally coined by Abby Wilner in 1997, and on the rise when I was entering adulthood in the early 2000s. Quarterlife is a distinct period of human development in need of its own road map and soulful guidance. It neednt be a time relegated to expectations of cascading crises, familial hand-wringing, and personal shame. Nor should it be a time during which problems are primarily attended to with medical solutions.

This book is about the alternative.

I became a psychotherapist focused on working with people in this stage of adulthood because I lived through disorientation during these years myself. When I went looking for insight and answers about why I felt so emotionally overwhelmed, I found very little information or support. The life that Id been raised for through years of school did not seem to align with the life I was expected to be living on my own. Like most people in this age group, I was sent up the ladder of academic development: first grade to second grade, fifth grade to sixth, all the way through high school and college. Then I was released into the world as if Id been trained for a life beyond academia. But I hadnt been. I hadnt been taught how to cook healthy meals or change a tire, let alone how to ask myself who I was or what I wanted out of life. Moreover, I hadnt been offered tools to make sense of living in a world beset by countless overlapping social and environmental catastrophes. As much as my peers and I had been led to believe that life is a tidy, incremental staircase toward certain goalscareer advancement, marriage, home ownershipat some point we each discover that it is not. The linear impression of adulthood is based on antiquated, heteronormative gender roles and racial and economic hierarchies that suggest that a fulfilling life can be achieved through the checking of boxes. It cant be.

Quarterlife is not a sterile journey. It demands the gathering of experiencesmessy, embodied, uncharted experiences. Full psychological development cannot be accomplished without complex relationships, failures, risks, longings, and adventure. Indeed, despite Western cultures desire to mitigate mess and chaos, psychological development in Quarterlife doesnt follow a simple plan. Experience is the basis of finding ones own life, a life that, by nature of it being entirely unique, does not have its own map or clearly defined path. As the mythologist Joseph Campbell said when reflecting on the journey of life: If there is a path, it is someone elses.

But there are common patterns that can serve as guideposts along the way.

The chapters that follow will offer some insight into the timeless journey of Quarterlife, first through exploring some historical depictions of this time of life in literature and memoir, and then through the stories of four clients from my psychotherapy practice: Mira, Conner, Grace, and Danny. These stories, beginning in Part II, will model how four very different Quarterlifers learn about themselves and start to find their way.

Understanding this time of life begins with identifying the two types of Quarterlifers, their goals, and what I call the four pillars of growth. Ill present Meaning Types and their search for stability through the stories of Grace and Danny, and Stability Types and their search for meaning through the journeys of Mira and Conner. Whether youre a Quarterlifer primarily in search of meaning, or one primarily in search of stability, the ultimate goal is to have bothan experience of wholeness and ease within ones own life.

The four pillars of growth are like wayposts of development: Separate, Listen, Build, and Integrate. These are not linear stages or tasks to be accomplished, but areas of important psychological work in Quarterlife that can lead to significant shifts in well-being and satisfaction. This work requires both receptivity and dedication. It is not easily accomplished, and there are countless structural, systemic obstacles that add to the difficulty and disorientation. And yet, remarkable transformation, even from egregious traumas and suffering, can happen, and knowing some of the patterns of development can help.

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