Introduction
Does this sound familiar? Fear tries to keep you up at night, shouts when you pursue something new, whispers as you hear the latest headlines. It stalks you at the doctors office, stares you down in important meetings, or messes with your most significant relationships. It challenges your faith and throws punches at your prayers.
Maybe youve believed life will always be that way. But what if you dont have to let fear hassle you anymore? What if you can take back your peace, confidence, and courage? Fear can be an annoying bully, but its not the boss of you.
Ive learned that dealing with fear is inevitable, but letting it control your life is optional. God promises to help us overcome fear.
Dont be afraid, for I am with you.
Dont be discouraged, for I am your God.
I will strengthen you and help you. (Isa. 41:10)
Ill do this fear-fighting challenge with you. As a licensed counselor, life coach, and bestselling author, Ive connected with thousands of people who are battling fear. Its actually the most common struggle I see. Youre far from the only one.
As someone who has struggled with anxiety most of her life, Im also familiar with fear personally. Ive discovered what helps defeat it, and Ill share empowering spiritual truths, psychological insights, and practical tools with you. Some of what youll read is new, but I also gathered the most helpful insights on this topic from my work as a writer, life coach, and counselor.
Fear actually has a helpful purpose in our lives. We sometimes just give it too much power. Fear warns us of danger, tells us what matters most to us, and prepares us to act. We wouldnt survive without it. But fear was never meant to dominate our emotions, minds, or lives. The goal of our time together isnt to get rid of fear completely but to take back our God-given control over it.
When we say were over something, it means were tired of it. I imagine you feel that way about fear. But the word over also means that something no longer has an emotional hold on us. It means were in a position of authority over it.
Notify your fear that things are going to change. It doesnt get to push you around anymore. Its not allowed to steal your peace. It cant hold you back from all God has for you.
Youre stronger than you know, braver than you feel, and loved more than you can even imagine. Its time to tell your fear, Im over you!
PS: For more resources that go with this ebook, visit www.holleygerth.com/fearchallenge.
Day 1
How Our Brains Respond to Fear and Stress
Let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think.
Romans 12:2
Im writing this from my upstairs office on a spring day. Outside, everything looks the same. The Canadian geese that come to our pond every year have built their nest in the usual spot. The dogwood tree on the corner is in bloom. The turtles are lined up in the sun like teenagers at the beach. But, really, nothing is the same. Because Im writing this in the beginning stages of the COVID-19 pandemic. School is virtual. Restaurants are closed. Social distancing is suddenly the norm.
When I ventured to the grocery store for a few necessities, I could feel the fear like electricity in the air. When I looked at social media later that day, I could sense it too. In times like this, how do our brains respond?
Most of us are familiar with the fight-or-flight response. Its necessary for our survival. If a bear came charging out of the woods at us, we would react instantly by fleeing or becoming aggressive. I see versions of this response now, as some people buy all the toilet paper even though someone else might need it (fight) or ignore whats going on (a form of flight).
But are fight and flight our only options? Thankfully, no, our brains have two other responses to stress that can prove much more helpful.
The first is the challenge response. Think of a time when you were afraid but also preparing for action. Examples would include an athlete before a big game, a presenter preparing to give a speech, or a parent handling a crisis involving their child. The difference in the challenge response is that we tell ourselves, Ive got this or, as believers, Ive got this because Gods got me.
Health psychologist and author Kelly McGonigal says,
Like a fight-or-flight response, a challenge response gives you energy and helps you perform under pressure. Your heart rate still rises, your adrenaline spikes, your muscles and brain get more fuel, and the feel-good chemicals surge. But it differs from a fight-or-flight response in a few important ways: You feel focused but not fearful. You also release a different ratio of stress hormones, including higher levels of DHEA, which helps you recover and learn from stress. This raises the growth index of your stress response, the beneficial ratio of stress hormones that can determine, in part, whether a stressful experience is strengthening or harmful.