Pure genius! Say yes to this delightful and insightful study of no. It may very well change your life!
L EE S TROBEL , author, The Case for
Christ and The Case for Miracles
This outstanding book is really not about saying no. Its about saying yes to what matters most. A gracious no is the gateway to purpose and priority.
J EFF M ANION , senior pastor, Ada Bible
Church; author, The Land Between
This book reclaims the power of the most underappreciated word in the English language. This is a training manual on how to focus your life and priorities on the things that matter most.
J OSHUA R YAN B UTLER , pastor, Redemption
Church; author, The Skeletons in Gods Closet
This book is easy to read, its fun to read, and it hits so close to home. Im innately terrible at saying no, but Kevins chapters have convinced me I can be saved! I highly recommend it.
J OHN G ROOTERS , director, writer, producer,
Tortured for ChristThe Movie
Finally, somebody says what so many of us need to hear. Our most precious resource is time, and priorities are the way we decide how to spend our time. And that means having the heart and mind to say no.
M ARK H ORSTMAN , cofounder, Manager
Tools; author, The Effective Manager
Reading this book has given us insight on how best to say no to others and also to each other without ruffling marital feathers. We have already put many of the nos to use, and they work!
T ERRY AND B ETSY D AVIS , Tri-California Events
This book has easily made my list of top ten leadership books of all-time. Kevin digs into the issue that will have the greatest impact on your ability to maximize this one life.
G REG K ELLEY , CEO, World Mission
Kevin lives what he leads. In this book, he guides us into the secret of saying yes to a meaningful life.
A DAM T. B ARR , pastor; author,
Compassion without Compromise
This book is a critical read for anyone who struggles with busyness. It will inspire and encourage you to say yes to what really matters.
B OB B OUWER , senior pastor, Faith
Church; author, U-Turn Church
Kevin Harney brings a fresh, creative, and long-overdue perspective on the power and importance of saying no. A must read for leaders and managers at all levels.
S HAWN A. S TROUD , colonel, US Army (retired)
Kevins gentle queries and challenging ideas helped me make adjustments to live into the power of thoughtful choosing.
S COTT B OLINDER , executive director,
Institute for Bible Reading
What an incredible book! After reading it, I found I had more time for Jesus.
M ARK R ISLEY , CEO and owner, Peninsula Sports
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To my father, Robert Terrance Harney, who said no to me more than any human being on this planet but also taught me the glory, power, and wisdom of a strategic yes
A retired man I met spends hours every day sitting in a coffee shop. He told me of a curious phenomenon about how people order coffee differently in the morning than they do in the afternoon.
What do you mean? I asked.
In the morning they come in and say, I need a double espresso, or, I need a skinny cappuccino. In the afternoon, they say, I want a vanilla Frappuccino, or, Can I please have a green tea without sweetener? When it comes to caffeine, in the morning its I need. In the afternoon its I want.
No Is a Beautiful Word is a book I need, not just want, and I suspect that will be true for many other readers as well. At first glance, learning to say no sounds so simplejust do it! Why do I need to read a book about it? But most of us know there are spiritual realities that make saying the word no a legitimate struggle. Kevin Harney resets the context of saying no by placing it inside a life filled with many beautiful yeses. He dissects the process of saying no so that youre equipped to discern when and how to apply the brilliance of saying no strategically and effectively. Youll find yourself saying, Oh, thats a good idea, or, I think I could say no that way.
After reading this book, I realized how essential learning to say no truly is. We will have happier, more fulfilling, more productive, more peaceful, and more God-honoring lives in direct proportion to how well we learn to say no. And we will open wide the door to numerous beautiful, enriching, and God-inspired yeses.
You will reap hours of time for every minute you invest in reading this book. You cant afford not to read it. The chapters fly by, but none of them will waste your time. They are laden with wisdom, biblical truth, and hard-won experience.
No Is a Beautiful Word is like that desperate morning cup of coffee. Its not just something we want. Its something we need.
G ARY T HOMAS , author of Sacred Marriage
PREFACE
A THOUSAND NOS
I love words.
I enjoy writing. Its not my full-time job, but its a delightful hobby. I can write for hours and have an absolute blast. Do you remember the dinner scene in the movie What about Bob? The main character, the likable but neurotic Bob Wiley, has crashed his therapists vacation and family dinner. While they are eating, Bob makes loud noises of satisfaction with each bite of food. He cant help himself. He is in heaven.