2022 by Kara E. Powell and Brad M. Griffin
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Contents
Half Title Page
Title Page
Copyright Page
Introduction: Asking the Right Questions
Part 1: WHO AM I?
The Big Question of IDENTITY
1. Who People Expect You to Be vs. Who God Expects You to Be
2. How Does God View You?
3. What to Do When Being Labeled Holds You Back
4. What It Means to Be Fearfully and Wonderfully Made
5. Gods Intentional Design for Your Ethnicity
6. How Who You Are Is Shaped by Where You Live
7. When You Feel Like a Misfit
8. When You Struggle with Perfectionism
9. When You Feel Underestimated
10. Why Cant You Be Like Them?
11. You Are More Than Your Failure
12. You Are More Than Your Success
13. You Are More Than Your Stuff
14. You Are a Child of God
15. Unplugging to Notice God
17. Your Voice Matters
18. Whats More Important Than What You See in the Mirror?
19. You Are Enough Because of Jesus
20. Union with Christ
Part 2: WHERE DO I FIT?
The Big Question of BELONGING
21. Belonging to a Safe Space
22. What Do Real Friendships Look Like?
23. What Does It Mean for God to Be Your Friend?
24. When You Feel Like an Outsider
25. The Power of With
26. Who God Is Reveals What Belonging Looks Like
27. Welcoming Like Jesus
28. When Family Gets Complicated
29. How to Be a Peacemaker
30. Why Authenticity Matters
31. How Can Empathy Fuel Belonging?
32. People-Pleasing Belonging
33. When You Are Dating
34. How to Get the Mentoring You Need
35. Being a True Neighbor
36. Finding Unity While Keeping Diversity
37. Belonging in a Digital World
38. Lamenting Our Losses Together
39. Celebrating with Others
40. Connecting with Gods Presence Anytime
The Big Question of PURPOSE
41. First Things First
42. Asking the Right Questions to Find Your Purpose
43. No Purpose Is Better Than Another
44. What If God Wants You to Make a Different Choice?
45. Gods Purpose for You Is Up to God
46. Putting Faith into Action
47. Know Gods Story so You Can Go in Gods Story
48. What Is Discipleship?
49. Our Steady Companion in an Unsteady World
50. On Purpose and for a Purpose
51. Our Storiesand PurposesAre Interconnected
52. Were Better Together
53. Making a Difference by Helping Others
54. Navigating Americas Complicated Racial Past and Present
55. Building Cultural Bridges
56. How Whats Tough Can Transform You
57. Knowing When to Say Yes and When to Say No
58. How to Bring Good News with Our Feet
59. Finding Contentment
60. The World Needs You to Come Alive
Conclusion: Your Next Faithful Step
Acknowledgments
Notes
About the Authors
Back Cover
INTRODUCTION
Asking the Right Questions
Life is all about questions.
And wow, there are so many questions .
Questions about the world.
Questions about the past.
Questions about the present.
Questions about the futureand more pointedly, about your future .
Maybe you feel the pressure to have everything figured out. Maybe youve thought the point of life is actually to find all the answers. Maybe you have adults around you who make it seem like thats your job, which feels stressful.
We want to let you in on something up front: this is not that kind of book.
Embracing the Questions
We may not know you personally, but weve spent a lot of time with young people like you. We are youth leaders who serve in churches and researchers who listen to teenagers talk about life and faith. We hear a lot of questions, and we ask a lot of questions.
This book is about embracing the questions.
Because the answers arent the whole point. Questions take us on a journey, and the act of exploring, wondering, seeking, even wrestling our way toward answers changes ussometimes as much as the answers themselves.
Over the course of this book, well each share a few of our own stories of wrestling with big questions. Since there are three of us, well clarify whose story is whose by adding our names in parentheses the first time we say I in a post. One thing you should know though: asking a lot of questions is what landed each of us where we are today.
Brad used to get in trouble for asking too many questions in school. He couldnt help asking questions that started with But what about... ? Yes, he drove his teachers crazy.
Kristel is naturally curious and would always ask her parents Why... ? She wanted to know how and why the world functioned as it did and what it all meant. Shes still looking for answers.
And Kara especially used to love asking questions in church. All the better if she could stump her youth pastor and small group leader.
So if youre a question asker already, were here to say youre not alone . If, on the other hand, you tend to shy away from questions, or if asking questions stresses you out, youre also not alone. Weve written this as a guide you can use wherever you are in your journey.
Heres more good news: questions arent new to God. By one count of the four Gospels, Jesus was asked 183 questions.
Thats remarkable, but whats even more remarkable is that Jesus himself asked 307 questions. If he was comfortable with questions then , hes comfortable with questions now .