Endorsements
In Growing With , Kara and Steve approach the topic of parenting with sound biblical wisdom and valuable practical tools. As a mother of two, I will be applying these insights to my own parenting in these rapidly changing times.
Christine Caine , bestselling author; founder of A21 and Propel Women
There is no joy or challenge or burden like that of parenthood. Were drowning in information; we crave wisdom. Growing With has both. It is an outstanding book.
John Ortberg , senior pastor of Menlo Church; author of I d Like You More If You Were More Like Me
As a dad of two teenagers, I couldnt wait for this book! The mix of real research and real families makes it a valuable addition to any parents toolbox.
Jon Acuff , New York Times bestselling author of Finish
Growing With is bursting with good news for all parents of teenagers and young adults: you dont have to feel alone, and you dont have to guess what to do next. Through groundbreaking research on families like yours, this book gives you the best answers to your toughest questions about your maturing childs relationship with you, God, and our world.
Neil Clark Warren , chairman and cofounder of eHarmony.com
At a time when the generation gap feels wider and the parenting journey more confusing, Growing With offers a way forward through practical resources, thought-provoking questions, and real-life stories. This is a must-read guide for those wanting to grow and to see their children thrive.
Tom Lin , president and CEO of InterVarsity Christian Fellowship
Kara and Steves research is helping a generation of parents know how to raise kids who are healthy, loved, and ready to face the challenges of this world. This book is a must-read for parents everywhere.
Margaret Feinberg , author of Taste and See
We all sense that everythings changing, especially when it comes to parenting and raising the next generation. Thats why Im so thankful for Growing With . Kara Powell and Steve Argue combine top-notch clinical research, their personal parenting journeys, and a wealth of experience gleaned from helping thousands of parents into an incredible book that will guide parents as they navigate the journey ahead. If youre looking for expert guidance at a critical time because the stakes are high, youll find it here.
Carey Nieuwhof , founding pastor of Connexus Church; author of Didn t See It Coming
What an incredible book! With one teenager and one twentysomething, we feel like Kara and Steve wrote it just for usand we couldnt be more grateful. Growing With is chock full of compelling, inspiring, and practical help. Well be recommending this book to every parent we know.
Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott , #1 New York Times bestselling authors of Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts
As pastors, my colleagues and I have countless counseling sessions with parents and their adulting children in which both generations have to learn fresh ways to engage each other. I couldnt be happier that Kara Powell and Steve Argue have given leaders and parents a map to navigate this critical space!
Bryan Loritts , pastor of Abundant Life; author of Insider/ Outsider
If you are looking for a fresh perspective on parenting, this is the book. Kara and Steve offer a paradigm-shifting approach that feels both empowering and practical. If you want to connect with your kids in more meaningful ways, are curious about the changing landscape of adolescence, or want revolutionary ideas for how to help raise empowered adults who are connected to their family and faith, Growing With is the resource you have been searching for.
Mandy Arioto , president and CEO of MOPS International
Every parent I know (including me) feels overwhelmed and underprepared! Im so grateful that this well-researched and easy-to-read book offers parents a lifeline. Growing With is deep enough to help you adjust to your maturing child, authentic enough to fill you with the courage you crave, and practical enough to guide your next conversation with your teenager or young adult. Not just you but your whole family will be glad youve read this book.
Doug Fields , author of Intentional Parenting ; cofounder of Downloadyouthministry.com
Growing With thoroughly arms parents by providing heartfelt and necessary insights regarding strategies for the holistic development of youth. As a parent of two young adults and a trainer of youth workers, I found Growing With to be a welcome addition to my training tool kit. This guide will rescue many parents as they navigate through difficult spaces and will bring new supports to the needs of the ever-changing family.
Virginia Ward , assistant dean of the Boston campus and assistant professor of youth ministry and leadership, Gordon-Conwell Theological Seminary
In Growing With , Kara and Steve help parents, teachers, pastors, leaders, and mentors understand the power of walking alongside their adolescent and young adult children and friends. Their focused research and practical advice provide knowledgeable and actionable steps that each of us can take as we enter into the lives of young people in hopes of being a blessing to them and seeking Gods best for them as they move toward adulthood.
Newt Crenshaw , president of Young Life
No two families are alike, no two parents are alike, and no two phases are alike. Kara and Steve give you all you need to know and do to have a winning relationship with your ever-changing teenager or twentysomething. If youre like me, youre going to recommend this book to every parent you know.
Reggie Joiner , founder and CEO of Orange
As a parent, Im always looking and listening to people I trust. I trust Kara Powell and Steve Argue because Ive known them both as people and as leaders. Their hearts to raise up godly young people are on display in Growing With . Parents, we need this research and insight because the culture our children are growing up in changes daily. Im so thankful for this great project!
Tyler Reagin , president of Catalyst; author of The Life- Giving Leader
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2019 by Kara Powell and Steven Argue
Published by Baker Books
a division of Baker Publishing Group
P.O. Box 6287, Grand Rapids, MI 49516-6287
www.bakerbooks.com
Ebook edition created 2019
All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted in any form or by any meansfor example, electronic, photocopy, recordingwithout the prior written permission of the publisher. The only exception is brief quotations in printed reviews.
Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data is on file at the Library of Congress, Washington, DC.
ISBN 978-1-4934-1529-8
Authors are represented by WordServe Literary Group (www.wordserveliterary.com).
Dedication
To Nathan, Krista, and Jessica Powell;
and Kara, Elise, and Lauren Argue.
Growing with you is one of our greatest joys and privileges.
Your love, laughter, and perspectives
animate these pages and our lives.
Contents
Cover
Endorsements
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Copyright Page
Dedication
Acknowledgments
PART 1 GROWING WITH PARENTING
1. Growing Up Today: How Our Kids Paths Are Different from Ours
2. Pursuing the Growing With Posture: Parenting in Real Time
PART 2 THRIVING IN FAMILY: WITHING
3. Getting Warmer: Everyday Steps That Build Withing
4. Walls of Support: Withing That Repairs and Reorients Your Relationship