Xandria Ooi - Be Happy Always: Simple Practices For Overcoming Lifes Challenges and Living Each Day With Joy

Simple Practices for Overcoming Lifes Challenges and Living Each Day with Joy

Xandria Ooi

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Be Happy, Always: Simple Practices for Overcoming Lifes Challenges and Living Each Day with Joy

Library of Congress Cataloging
ISBN: (p) 978-1-64250-039-4 (e) 978-1-64250-040-0
LCCN: 2019944140

BISAC category code: SEL016000SELF-HELP / Personal Growth / Happiness

Printed in the United States of America

To my mother , who is my most treasured gift and absolute blessing in life .

Content by Chapter

Content by Title

Introduction

Chapter 1 - Understanding Happiness and unhappiness

People Can Cause Us Pain, But We Can Choose
Not to Suffer

We Can Always Choose, but Never Control,
Our Happiness

We Cannot Find Happiness, Because It Has Never
Been Lost

Chapter 2 - Fulfilment in Love and Relationships

Our Expectations Are Our Standards Imposed Upon
Someone Else

Are Your Subconscious Expectations Hurting
Your Relationship?

When Someone We Love Gives Us What We Need, It
Is a Gift, Not Our Entitlement

Everyone Has Their Own Journey and Nobody is
Obligated to us

We Dont Find Fulfilment in Other People; We Find
Fulfilment by Looking Inwards

But its Only Fair! is a Concept That Brings A Great
Deal of Misery

Expecting Someone to Have No Expectations Is An
Expectation in Itself

Creating Positive Change Requires Us to See the Best
and not the Worst in Someone

To Help Someone Change, We Must Genuinely
Accept Them

Chapter 3 - Communicating Positively with Difficult People

Its Not about Negative People, Its about Not Being
Negatively Affected

Do People Make You Unhappy? Or Is Your Belief
Making You Unhappy?

The Person Is Not Difficult; the Person Is Just Very
Different from You

If You Expect a Dog to Meow, Youre Definitely Going
to Be Disappointed!

Dont Let the Concept of Fairness Make You Lose Sight
of Your Objectives

When Solving Problems, Ask, Is My Reaction Part of
the Problem?

When a Person Triggers You, Thank Them for Teaching
You Something about Yourself

Do You Recognize the Voice of Your Ego and Your
Self-Esteem?

Offence Can Certainly Be Given, But It Doesnt Have To
Be Taken

When People Take Advantage of Us, We Dont Need to
Blame or Anger to Stand Up for Ourselves

Chapter 4 - Letting Go of Anger and What Doesnt Serve Us

People Dont Do Things to Us, They Do Things
to Themselves

Letting Go Is Never for the Person Who Wronged
UsIts for Ourselves

Dont Let Your Pain of the Past Stop You from Fully
Living in the Present

Righteous Anger Is Not Self-Preservation, Its
Self-Sabotage

Do We Seek to Empower Ourselves or to
Control Others?

When Were Not Driven by Our Ego, We Can Lose
the Battle to Win the War

There Are No Good or Bad Emotions, Only Those
That Serve or Dont Serve Us

Hate Spills Over to the People We Love, Especially
Our Children

To Let Go of the Big Things, Practice Letting Go of the
Small, Everyday Things

Chapter 5: Living with Joy, Positivity and Gratitude

For When You Want to Grow: Practice the Three Stages of HappinessThe Rehearsal, the Performance, and
the Review

Fo r When You Have Been Hurt: Keep the Doors to Your
Heart Open to Let Amazing Things In

For When Your Heart Is Broken: Take Your Happiness Back
into Your Own Hands

For When Youre Having a Bad Day: Choose Happiness,
because Choosing Misery Is a Lot Harder

F or When Youre Having A Difficult Time: Remember That
Life Doesnt Happen to Us, It Happens for Us

Content by Subject

Acceptance

Creating Positive Change Requires Us to See the Best
and Not the Worst in Someone

If You Expect a Dog to Meow, youre Definitely Goin
to be Disappointed!

Letting Go Is Never for the Person Who Wronged
UsIts for Ourselves

For When Youre Having a Difficult Time : Remember
That Life Doesnt Happen to Us, It Happens for Us

Awareness

Do People Make You Unhappy? Or Is Your Belief
Making You Unhappy?

Perspective

When Someone We Love Gives Us What We Need,
It Is a Gift, Not Our Entitlement

Everyone Has Their Own Journey and Nobody Is
Obliged to Us

SELF-Love

For When Your Heart Is Broken : Take Your Happiness
Back Into Your Own Hands

Understanding

When People Take Advantage of Us, We Dont Need
Blame or Anger to Stand Up for Ourselves

Righteous Anger is not Self-preservation, its
Self-sabotage

Do We Seek to Empower Ourselves, or to
Control Others?

To Let Go of The Big Things, Practice Letting Go of
the Small, Everyday Things

For When you want to Grow: Practice the 3 Stages of HappinessThe Rehearsal, the Performance and the
Post-Mortem

When I first started writing this book, my intention was to write about happiness. However, the more time I spent on developing the chapters and titles, the more I realized that perhaps the book is about unhappiness, for it is when we know how to navigate through the unhappy moments in life that we can truly be happy. This is why all five chapters in this book delve deep into heartache, pain, hurt, depression, communication problems , and relationship difficulties. These are all challenges that every single one of us is likely to experience at one time or another, and its hard to not feel frustrated and upset when life isnt going the way we hope it will.

The objective of this book is to help you build the skills and strength to work through the challenging, difficult, and uncomfortable times in life, because it is only then that you can find peace.

Even when we have a great career and a wonderful relationship, we might feel like something is missing or that our life isnt fulfilled. Sometimes, we can start off incredibly happy with our lives , and then after some time goes by, the problems that creep in make our life feel incredibly exhausting. We all understand that perfection doesnt exist, yet often we cant help but despair when life is far from perfect. This is why its so important for us to understand how to take responsibility for our happiness even in the toughest of times, because we dont want our happiness to always be at the mercy of what happens to us. This is why many cannot find fulfilmentwe will only learn how to be fulfilled through the ups and downs of life.