Table of Contents
For Zachary David
All clients are composite characters drawn from my experience and clinical work. Names and details are changed to preserve confidentiality.
Introduction
This is not a dream dictionary. Dreams will not sit still for that. They are neither disciplined nor singular. They wiggle and tease and stamp their feet and change shape. They wont be trussed in alphabetical order like words.
Dreams dont give themselves away easily. They like to be courted. They want us to spend time with them, to think less and feel more, to imagine and to play.
So, this is not a dictionary. It is an invitation to dream, to spend time in that instinctive world and to learn to move freely between it and what we call the real world.
Everyone dreams. Every night. Several times a night. But not everyone remembers the dreams. That can be remedied. Just reading a book about dreams can stimulate dreaming and remembering! In these pages, Ill suggest ways to teach yourself to remember and benefit from your dreams.
Well enter many dreams and practice speaking their metaphorical language. We will look back at ancient dreams and myths and acquaint ourselves with some of the dreamers who have gone before us. Well also look at where our dreams originate and how weve come to believe what we do about their meanings.
We will consider the emotionally charged dreams that visit us from time to time: the terrifying, the comic and the blissful. Well spend some time with that powerful tool, the daydream. And Ill describe ways to integrate the richness of dreams into waking life.
Mostly, I would like to remind you that dreams are real experiences. They take up energy and space in consciousness and are the instinctive point of view in a world where the answer is always expected to be outside: in a leader, a pill, a product, a promise or a doctrine. Dreams draw us down into our mysterious underworld where our humanity has its source, and there, they nourish and change us.
Tonight or tomorrow night or next week, you will have a dream. The images will seem obscure, mad and maybe rude, like the babblings of a fool. Youll be tempted to grab that dream dictionary from the shelf and put all the mystery to rest with a bit of research. Or maybe youll be tempted to shake off the dream and get on with your life. This book gives you another option.
Love them, hate them, be baffled by them. Your dreams are you.
Emma Mellon, PhD
Treetops, Berwyn, PA
March, 2006
The Lure of the Dream
Dreaming is a nightly dip, a skinny
dip, into the pool of images and feelings.
James Hillman
Perchance to Dream
Picture this dream scene in monochrome gray.
Massive boulders edge this portion of the beach. I see a Neanderthal man motionless in a squat, his eyes fixed on a configuration in the sand of five straight, parallel lines extending into the distance. Small iron balls lie in the gullies between the lines.
Im there too, thinking all this has nothing to do with me. I feel alone, far from home and anxious about being among people who dont look like me. I am afraid of the primitive human. In my hurry to get away,
I walk diagonally across his design. It occurs to me that I am ruining the field by tracking across it, and I worry Ill be punished.
I awoke feeling bewildered. In my daytime life, Id just begun writing this book, and Id gone to sleep wondering what my dream-life would have to say about it. But this? Id expected something more contemporary and more colorful. Maybe some advice about the book. Yet this brief, puzzling scene was what I got. It was my dream, conjured out of my own body and soul, experiences, beliefs and unconscious depths. And I had no idea what it meant.
And so it goes with dreamers. We awake with a puzzle, much like fairy-tale characters begin a journey with a dilemma and find their way through a more-than-ordinary world to a resolution. The expedition changes them just as being with a dream alters the dreamer. Its the journey, the joining with the story that creates new life in the fairy-tale characters and in the dreamers.
Meaning emerges from the encounter. Say you have a dream about picking strawberries. Dont ask what strawberries stand for. At least not yet. First, in your imagination rejoin the dream. Notice how the ripe red strawberries are tucked under leaves in the cool morning. Touch the sturdy leaves and enjoy the scent that rises as you push the leaves aside. Pick a strawberry, look into its pocky red face, taste it. Notice your reaction. What are you feeling and thinking? The dream leads you to the strawberry, and the berry engages all your senses. Meaning comes out of that encounter. That intimate contact, that time spent with night and daydreams, enriches and enlarges our humanity.
You and I are descendants of a 140-million-year-old family of dreamers. Though we now understand the physiology of dreams, we, like our ancestors, are confounded, entertained, frightened and inspired by these images of sleep. Dreams offer entre to a realm beyond the rational, a nonmaterial reality or spirituality. They feed the human hunger for mystery, adventure, amazement and guidance.
Dreams perform a survival
function in all mammals.
Anthony Stevens
The usual rules of time and space do not apply. Dreams reveal the timelessness at our core. I can be dreaming of a contemporary scene and suddenly I am looking at myself as a fifteen-year-old sitting in my bedroom with that familiar light coming in the windows and family sounds rising from downstairs. Past, present and future mingle, and even the boundary of death yields so that we meet lost loved ones and others who have not yet arrived in waking life. Time is an idea we live in, and dreams give us the opportunity to escape time. The fluidity of dreams shows us the essential undividedness of existence.
For the people of the past...
myths and dreams were among
the most significant expressions
of the mind, and failure to
understand them would have
amounted to illiteracy.
Erich Fromm
Dreams suspend physics, and we fly and travel great distances with less effort than it takes to walk in waking time. The customary rules of ethics and manners lose their authority and dreams move beyond political correctness, censorship, custom and taboo. Aspects of ourselves emerge that are disallowed in daylight. We are rude without remorse, seductive, impish and irresponsible. We can lose control with no lasting consequence, get perspective on our daytime selves, our habits, assumptions and fears. Anything is possible and we cant know what will happen next. Its like watching home movies shot in secret and projected on the screen at the back of our eyelids. Over the course of a lifetime, dreams fill in the gaps in our understanding of who we are. They are our nightly storytellers.
Dreams come as gifts, as learnings, as gossip. They can entice like an amusement park on a warm summer night or draw us into deep-sea terrors. In dreams we seem to live other lives; we find companionship and sometimes magic. They offer us mystical experiences, jokes, surprises and warnings. Dreams draw us, too, because they bring answers and sometimes salvation.
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