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bhadr a payemabhir-yajatr .
vyaema devahit a yad-y u .
May we hear only good with our ears and see only good with our eyes. O Divine, may we lead a life of contentment and health and sing thy glories during the life span granted to us.
(Rig Veda. 1.89.8)
Prologue
We are a rather strange species, if you ask me. Strange because, almost always, we want something different from what we already have. Our capacity to be selfless is as immense as our potential to be selfish. I can vouch for this because I saw myself as a kind person, and didn't think I had it in me to cause pain to my loved ones. Yet, when propelled by my desire, I inflicted it upon them effortlessly.
One morning, I got up, got ready, went to work and did not go back home in the evening. Instead, I boarded a train to take me away from all my certainties, from the people I loved and the wealth I owned. Giving my family no warning, no indication even, I simply walked away although I knew full well it would be a point of no return.
Its not that I didn't think about their feelings. I did, but chose to ignore how they might have felt because I couldnt postpone my inner calling any further. I no longer wanted to get up every morning, work the entire day, come home in the evening, eat my dinner and go to sleep just because everyone else was doing it, because it was considered normal. Who decided what was normal anyway? If I had to live my life by the rules and conditions set by others, what was the goal of my life, what was my individual purposeif there was any?
Before me lay the material wealth I had earned painstakingly over the last decade. But cars, properties and a bank balance were lifeless things at the end of the day. They had always had been. I wasn't born with these possessions and they certainly wouldn't go with me after I died. What was the struggle of life about then? And, whatever it was about, was it worth it?
Countless times, I had given myself the consolation that I would find the purpose of my life one day, but this consolation was wearing thin while my questions beat like muffled drums in my head. With each strike, the sound was getting louder, getting closer. It began to drown out all the music around me : the melodious songs of the birds, the pouring rain, th e compassionate words of my mother and the caring ones of my father; nothing was audible anymore, let alone joyous.
Leaving behind everything I had worked towards, razing all that I had built and abandoning everyone I had ever known, I felt indifferent towards my own past. An uninterested stranger. Just as the advancing dawn erases the existence of the night, my departure from the material world wiped away my life as I had known it.
From an Internet cafe, I sent emails to my family and close friends, saying I was going away and didnt know if and when I would return. No emotions, no sentiments tugged at my heart when I deleted my email account, destroyed the SIM card, gave away my phone and broke up with my material life of three decades. Casting away the labels that defined meson, brother, friend, CEO, MBA, colleagueI walked out of the store and into a new skin.
This new existence was utter nakedness; no, not in physical terms, but in being nothing, having nothing, not even an identity or a namethe life of a monk. It was only in this state of emptiness, as it were, that I could be filled by what I sought most desperately: a true inner life.
The First Step
I checked out of my lodge and stepped out onto the crowded street. Spotting a cycle rickshaw, I waved it down.
'Where to?' said the rickshaw driver.
'Ghat.
'Which ghat? There are so many here.'
I wasnt prepared for this. How was I to know there were many ghats in Varanasi?
'Just take me to any ghat.'
'I cant take you to just any ghat, sir. Then you will say this is not where you wanted to go.'
'Alright, name a ghat.'
'Dashashvamedha Ghat.'
'Fine, take me there.'
I hadnt been on a rickshaw since 1995. Back then, fifteen years ago, I was a teenager attracted to, and working towards, materialism. Now, at thirty, I was doing exactly the opposite. The vehicle hadnt changed but the direction had; the person hadn't changed but the priorities had.
I presumed I was headed to a quiet riverside but I couldnt be more wrong. The ghat was crowded beyond description, like an agitated mind crowded with thoughts, like ants gathered on a dead insect.
India was hardly new to me; I had spent the first eighteen years of my life in this country. But, rather naively, I had expected a different India in Varanasi. An old image was locked in my head, an image I hadnt seen but conjured up while reading medieval texts: Kashi by the Ganges, an ancient town full of scholars, saints, tantriks, yogis and other spiritually inclined people.
I roamed about for a while, not knowing where to go. A long time ago, I had heard about Telang Swami, a realized soul who had lived in Kashi more than a century ago. There was supposed to be a monastery at the site of his samadhi. I visualized a quiet monastery by the Ganges, where noble sadhaks sat under the shade of old banyan trees and focused on their sadhana under the guidance of a venerable guru. I enquired, but no one knew anything about the monastery.
I thought of visiting the only other place I'd heard of in this cityManikarnika Ghat, a cremation ground by the river where dead bodies were burnt round the clock. I hoped to meet some tantrik, sitting there and performing esoteric rituals by the burning pyres. I marched back to the main road and stopped another cycle rickshaw. It was nearly noon and the heat was biting me. I tried to tell myself that it was only mid-March, but this intellectual balm failed to soothe my body.
Will you take me to Manikarnika Ghat?
'Yes sir, but I cant go all the way there. I can drop you at the nearest point.'
'How much?'
Rs 20.'
I hopped into the rickshaw, which moved slowly but steadily on the busy road. Several times, the rickshaw driver had to actually get down to manoeuvre it through the crowd. I noticed he was barefoot even though the sun was spewing fire and the road was like a field of burning coalit just exuded heat.
'Why arent you wearing any slippers?'
'They got stolen at the temple the day I bought them.'
'I dont know this area. Please stop by a footwear shop. Id like to get slippers for you.'
Ill manage, brother.'
What is your name?
Mahesh Kumar.
'Dont worry, Mahesh, Ill still give you the money for the ride.'
A little later, I spotted a small shoe shop. Mahesh wasnt keen on stopping, so I practically had to order him to halt. Getting off the rickshaw, I gestured to him to follow me into the shop. He came in after me sheepishly.
'Hello, sir,' the shopkeeper said, and asked me to sit down. I beckoned to Mahesh, who was hovering near the entrance, to join me on the sofa. He did so extremely reluctantly.