Matt E. Jaremko - 14 Dec

This book is remarkable. The authors have, more effectively than anyone Ive read before, brought the patients experiences to life at the same time theyre teaching about the conditions and ways to cope. Im not just moved by the patient profiles and stories, but I can feel them; thats something the manuals completely lacknot just clinical pearls, but the experience of the patient on all levels. Most important, this is a book about hope. The entire book is about hope. Matt and Beth make a great team.

Dr. Anne Marie Albano, author and professor of medical psychology in psychiatry at Columbia University School of Medicine

A writing style that is sincere, empathetic, and engaging, the authors respective experiences as therapist and patient, and the breathtaking use of music to augment the recovery process will make readers come on in and stick around to see what happens. This book should be in every trauma therapists office and placed in each of their patients hands.

Jennifer Mathieu, award-winning author of Moxie and The Truth About Alice

The profound therapeutic bond between co-authors Dr. Matt Jaremko and Beth Fehlbaum is the generous heart of Trauma Recovery: Sessions With Dr. Matt. In this road map, an engaging mix of clinical expertise and fictional therapy sessions, they offer survivors and families practical tools necessary for healingand an essential element: hope.

Steven Parlato, survivor of Childhood Sexual Abuse and author of The Namesake and The Precious Dreadful

This uniquely structured book shares stories and strategies for rebuilding shattered lives after trauma. Trauma isnt something one chooses. The helplessness in its wake can feel permanent, enduring, and completely disempowering. Despite what you might think prior to reading this book, you will come to see that indeed, you still have choicesabout your response! Tender and skillful methods exist to support you to move you beyond coping and into thriving! Using personal stories combined with teaching research-based methods of emotional healing, Beth and Dr. Jaremko gently and lovingly help you to restore hope, one song at a time.

Pam Garcy, Ph.D., clinical psychologist, author of The REBT Super-Activity Guide: 52 Weeks of REBT for Clients, Students, Groups, and YOU!

First published by Ayni Books, 2018

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Text copyright: Matt E. Jaremko and Beth Fehlbaum 2017

ISBN: 978 1 78535 888 3

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Other books by Beth Fehlbaum

Big Fat Disaster, ISBN 978-1440592676

The Patience Trilogy:

Courage in Patience, ISBN 978-0997387100

Hope in Patience, ISBN 978-0997387124

Truth in Patience, ISBN 978-0997387148

Permissions

Quote from Chinese Handcuffs (1989) by Chris Crutcher is used with permission.

Cognitive Processing Therapy Session Materials, including the Challenging Questions and Challenging Beliefs Worksheets, are used with permission from Patricia A. Resick, Monson, C. M., & Chard, K. M. (2014). Cognitive processing therapy: Veteran/military version: Therapists manual. Washington, DC: Department of Veterans Affairs.

What If You Fly? from Reverie: The Poetic Underground (2014)

by Erin Hanson, the poeticunderground.com, is used with permission.

Dedicated to the scientists who have devoted their lives to figuring this stuff out, especially the ones I have been fortunate enough to call my friends and colleagues: Donald Meichenbaum, Patricia Resick, and Anne Marie Albano. It is people like these who have offered the most hope to the traumatized.

There is freedom waiting for you,

On the breezes of the sky,

And you ask, What if I fall?

Oh, but my darling,

What if you fly?

Erin Hanson

You cant laugh when you lie because lies signify shame and there is no laughter in shame.

Chris Crutcher, Chinese Handcuffs

Fear. Raw, exhausted, angry and anguished. Fear.

Im here. If hell exists, it surely feels like this.

I called this doctor because if I didnt, I wasnt sure that I would still be herethat is, alivetodayto be parked outside this psychologists office, staring through my rain-spattered windshield, catching random glances of the steps that will transport me from where I am, in the darkness of the pit, to hope.

My hands are shaking so hard that I may not be able to open the car door, and the bones in my legs seem to have disappeared along with the courage I had this morning when I was looking forward to this, to relief, to the possibility of hope. All day, I have thought of nothing but this appointment, and with every passing hour, my chest tightened and my stomach churned. My arms feel heavy. My nerves are shot. My chin quivers even though Ive made up my mind not to cry anymore, because thats a joke, and both my chin and I know it.

I unfold the paper with the appointment info on it and look at it for thenth time today: Scott Matthews, Ph.D., Clinical Psychologist. Todays date, 15 minutes from now.

The papers starting to look like its been in the rain: the day I made the appointment, my teardrops smeared the ink, and new ones threaten to make Matthews look like Mattwhich is kinda weird since thats what my friend told me she calls him: Dr. Matt.

I wonder if its possible to throw up when fear is all I have inside me?

What is he going to ask me, and should I tell him everything? What will he think of me if I do? He may not even want to help me once he gets to know meif I tell him everything. But if I dont, how will the hurting stop?

Maybe my friends are right; maybe my mother-in-law is right; maybe that article I read about getting over bad stuff is right; maybe I dont need to be here after all: I can just think about something else and make up my mind that it wont hurt anymore andanddammit, if I cry, Im gonna have to go in there looking like Ive been crying and nobody walks into his office while theyre crying, do they?

The thing is, none of those people telling me Just get over it know what its like inside my head. They dont, and it pisses me off that they all think its that easy; that I can just snap my fingers and it will stop hurting to beme.