Raychelle Cassada Lohmann, MS, LPC, is a national board certified counselor and a licensed professional counselor. Lohmann has worked as a school counselor at the middle school and high school levels, and has helped hundreds of teens deal with feelings of frustration and anger. Raychelle has participated in extensive research on anger and specializes in individual and group counseling for anger management. She is the author of The Anger Workbook for Teens and Staying Cool...When Youre Steaming Mad.
Julia V. Taylor, MA, is author of Perfectly You, G.I.R.L.S. (Girls in Real Life Situations), and Salvaging Sisterhood. She speaks nationally about relational aggression, body image, media literacy, and other teen topics. Taylor has experience working in middle and high school settings as a professional school counselor.
Foreword writer Haley Kilpatrick is the founder and executive director of Girl Talk, a national nonprofit organization through which high school girls mentor middle school girls to help deal with the trials and triumphs of the tween and early teen years. She is also the author of The Drama Years. She lives in Atlanta, GA.
The Bullying Workbook for Teens is a remarkable, relevant resource for both teens and professionals. The activities are engaging and offer practical strategies to help teens work through and cope with bullying situations, while also raising their self-confidence. As I read it, I found tools to implement in my own work with teens. This book offers eye-opening insights and will be useful to any teen who has been victimized by bullies.
Rosalind Wiseman, author of
Queen Bees & Wannabes, the book that inspired the motion picture,
Mean GirlsThe Bullying Workbook for Teens is a non-judgmental companion, reflection aid, and an aha moment-maker for isolated teens. Its also a much-needed tool for clinicians. I recommend it highly and look forward to using it myself.
Rachel Simmons, author of
Odd Girl OutPublishers Note
This publication is designed to provide accurate and authoritative information in regard to the subject matter covered. It is sold with the understanding that the publisher is not engaged in rendering psychological, financial, legal, or other professional services. If expert assistance or counseling is needed, the services of a competent professional should be sought.
Authors' Note
The Bullying Workbook for Teens is intended for use in conjunction with a counseling professional.
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Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data
Lohmann, Raychelle Cassada.
The bullying workbook for teens : activities to help you deal with social aggression and cyberbullying / Raychelle Cassada Lohmann, MS, LPC, and Julia V. Taylor, MA.
pages cm
ISBN 978-1-60882-450-2 (pbk. : alk. paper) -- ISBN 978-1-60882-451-9 (pdf e-book) -- ISBN 978-1-60882-452-6 (epub) 1. Aggressiveness in adolescence--Juvenile literature. 2. Bullying--Prevention--Juvenile literature. 3. Cyberbullying--Prevention--Juvenile literature. I. Taylor, Julia V. II. Title.
BF724.3.A34L64 2013
302.34'30835--dc23
2012047505
Contents
foreword
When I learned that Raychelle Lohmann and Julia Taylor were collaborating on a workbook to help teens better cope with bullying and cyberbullying, I was immediately so grateful and so excited.
Im grateful because these two truly get it. As highly respected professionals in their fields, they get what it is like to be a teen in todays world, and they are committed to being part of the solution. They have clearly poured their valuable resources into this book to provide you with the tools to know how to handle being bullied, how to cope, and how to heal. Their commitment to improving the lives of middle and high school students through relevant, practical strategies has already helped thousands of school counselors, administrators, teachers, parents, and students.
Im excited to share this workbook with the thousands of girls I work with through Girl Talk, a national organization that pairs middle school girls with high school mentors. Like me, Raychelle Lohmann and Julia Taylor are frustrated by the problem, and our frustration has led us to our passion. We are committed to developing resources that empower you to be a key part of the solution.
What I love most about this book is that it meets you precisely where you are and empowers you to take action. It is clear that the authors know that bullying is not limited to a select few or happening only in school hallways. They know its happening through various forms of social media, and yet they get that it is sometimes what isnt said or done that hurts. They know that at some point we have all felt like we were the only ones. They also know that there are millions of young people who want to put a stop to bullying, and that is precisely why this book was written. I wish it had been available when I was a teenager! I know it would have helped me through my own experience as a victim of bullying, cyberbullying, and relational aggression.
A quote from Lily Tomlin reminds me of their efforts. I said, Somebody should do something about that. Then I realized, I am somebody. I am thankful that Raychelle Lohmann and Julia Taylor have chosen to be somebody, and I am confident that what you learn in this workbook will inspire you to be somebody, too.
Haley Kilpatrick Founder and executive director of Girl Talk Author of The Drama Years: Real Girls Talk about Surviving Middle School Bullies, Brands, Body Image, and More
introduction
Dear Reader,
When you walk into class, do you automatically feel like your peers hate you because they laugh at you or whisper to one another? When you sit down in the cafeteria, do you feel lonely and undeserving of friendship? Do others refuse to look at you, speak to you, or include you in their circle of friends? If you ever feel miserable because of bullying, know that you are not alone and that there is help for you.
My name is Victoria, and Im twenty years old. In the sixth grade, a group of girls in my class made the decision to socially isolate me. They spread mean rumors and mocked me, and they made fun of my hair and clothes. I thought their bullying would never stop. As a result of their constant harassment, I repeatedly broke out in hives. The stress often caused me to pass out, and I coughed constantly. I was diagnosed with post-traumatic stress disorder and began to have suicidal thoughts at the age of twelve. When I went to high school, things didnt get much better. Some of the same bullies from middle school were at it again, and I became the target of cyberbullying.
When I was being bullied, I felt like my life was out of control. I didnt have friends. I was hopeless and frequently sick. I thought life was not worth living. But today, life is completely different! I am happy, healthy, and free from the effects of bullying. I am a successful college student, and I travel around speaking out against bullying.
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