Its easy to think cyberbullying is out of everyones control. This book will show teens how they can use their power and influence to stem the tide of cruelty and replace it with a culture of kindness. These authors know everything there is to know about cyberbullying, and their strategies are realistic and smart. Read this book!
Rachel Simmons, author of the New York Times best seller Odd Girl Out: The Hidden Culture of Aggression in Girls
There couldnt be a more effective book when it comes to understanding, identifying, and combating bullying in any form.
Kevin Curwick, creator of @OsseoNiceThings and founder of the Nice It Forward movement
Words Wound is the first book that has been specifically written for teens to help them confront cyberbullying. Whether they are being targeted, see cyberbullying happening to others, or want to promote kindness within their schools, this book provides practical and proven advice.
Dr. Michele Borba, bullying expert and author of 22 books including Building Moral Intelligence
This powerful resource teaches students effective social networking skills and provides educators with insights to help teens manage their online reputations and lives.
Patrick Mott, teen social media expert
Words Wound is the most important book you can purchase today!
Sue Scheff, author of Google Bomb and Wits End
Copyright 2014 by Justin W. Patchin and Sameer Hinduja
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Patchin, Justin W., 1977
Words wound : delete cyberbullying and make kindness go viral / by Justin W. Patchin, Ph.D., and Sameer Hinduja, Ph.D.
pages cm
Includes index.
Summary: Two expert researchers on bullying prevention speak directly to teens about how they can end cyberbullying. It provides them with numerous peer anecdotes and strategies they can use to help create kinder schools and communities Provided by publisher.
Audience: Age 13 plus.
ISBN-13: 978-1-57542-451-4 (pbk.)
ISBN-10: 1-57542-451-7 (pbk.)
1. CyberbullyingPreventionJuvenile literature. 2. BullyingPreventionJuvenile literature. 3.
Computer crimesJuvenile literature. 4. Internet and teenagersJuvenile literature. I. Hinduja,
Sameer, 1978- II. Title.
HV6773.15.C92P38 2013
302.34302854678dc232013035968
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This book is dedicated to teensto the ones who shared their stories with us for this book and the ones whose stories have yet to be told. We believe in your abilities to make the world a better, kinder place, and we hope Words Wound helps you in this pursuit.
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Contents
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You may download these pages at www.freespirit.com/wordswoundactivities. Use the password deletebullying .
Introduction
When I was in 10th grade, I was cyberbullied. Girls would send me threats in texts and leave me voicemails saying, Im going to run you over with my truck, and you might as well die, nobody likes you. They would also post on my Facebook wall saying things like youre ugly, and nobody likes you, move away nasty anorexic psycho.
I didnt know how to handle these posts, texts, and voicemails. I was so scared to go to school every day, because I knew that the girls would do something to me. And it was not only one girlit was a big group of girls. They would follow me around the school and say things to me, and I tried to ignore it the best I could, but at times it got so hard to do that. I would sometimes not even go to lunch, because I felt like I had no friends.
I would go home and cry to my mom. She didnt understand what was going on until I finally decided to tell her. She went to the principal. She told him, My daughter will not be going back to school anymore because of the bullying. They said I had to. Then my mom took me to a doctor, who wrote the school a letter saying, Maria is mentally and emotionally too unstable to attend school. My mom convinced the principal to let me go to school for a few hours after the normal day ended so I could do my homework without students terrorizing me each and every day.
Bullying is a horrible thing. Nobody really knows what its like until they are put through it themselves.
Please, never bully someone.
Maria, 17, Wisconsin
We hear stories like Marias all the time. All the time . And behind all of these stories are teens who just want to be left alone to make their way through school, to pursue their interests, and to have people care about them. Really, thats all that most of us want out of life: To have friends and family who are always there for us, who love and support usand to be treated with basic respect by everyone else. Even if you have these things, though, sometimes life isnt easy. Things dont always work out the way you want them to or hope they will. It can get really rough sometimes as you deal with all your day-to-day stresses and responsibilities: homework and tests, extracurricular activities, relationship troubles, disagreements at home, arguments with friends, andon top of all thattrying to figure out who you are and who you want to be.
You cant ignore or avoid these challenges. But you can try to prevent other problems that affect many teens, and bullying is one of them. Despite what some people might say, bullying is not a rite of passage. It is not something that everyone just has to deal with. Its never okay to be bullied or to bully others. Never. And physical bullying isnt the only painful type of harassment. Of course, pushing, shoving, punching, tripping, and all other physical forms of bullying are wrong, and everyone knows it (even though these things still happen). But just because cyberbullying does not leave visible marks doesnt mean it should be dismissed. Words wound . And the pain that words can cause often pierces much deeper than the pain of physical bullying. Naima, a 14-year-old from New York, told us, They say sticks and stones may break my bones but names will never hurt me. That quote is a lie and I dont believe it. Sticks and stones may cause nasty cuts, but those cuts and scars will heal. Insulting words hurt and sometimes take forever to heal.
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