Endorsements
Motherhood is one of the most rewarding jobs on earth, but it can also be very isolating. Don t Mom Alone is a vision to do motherhood with your people! It is a practical guide that will help you find those teammates in the exciting mission of mothering.
Jennie Allen , New York Times bestselling author of Get Out of Your Head and founder and visionary of IF:Gathering
Heather MacFadyen is the mom friend youve been looking for your entire life. Shes not going to make you feel like youre behind or like youre messing it upbut shes also not going to try to pacify your fears, desires, or vision for your family. Shes a kind leader, an amazing writer, and a faithful friend. This book is a gift from God to us, and I cannot suggest it enough!
Jess Connolly , author of You Are the Girl for the Job and Breaking Free from Body Shame
As a counselor to kids and families for almost three decades, I believe weve never walked through a season where moms feel more exhausted, more defeated, and more isolated than today. For years, I have been deeply grateful for Heather MacFadyens voice. Ive spoken with moms all over the country who have learned and laughed and grown with her through her podcast. Im so grateful that voice is now in written form. And Im so grateful for the truth that she shares in the words of her book, Don t Mom Alone . I believe this book will help you feel more known, more hopeful, freer to be honest, and certainly less alone in your courageous and transformative journey as a mom.
Sissy Goff , MEd, LPC-MHSP, director of child and adolescent counseling at Daystar Counseling Ministries, speaker, and author of Raising Worry- Free Girls
Heather is the friend you need in your parenting corner who isnt afraid to join you in the trenches and offer encouragement and hope. Wise, warm, and relatable, Heather will guide you to truth every step of the way. Don t Mom Alone is the book for moms that you want to get for yourself and your best friend!
Alli Worthington , business coach and bestselling author of Standing Strong
With deep insight, sympathy, and a healthy dose of humor, Heather puts her finger on the heartbeat of motherhood with grace and wisdom. She leads her readers to breathe in peace as they learn to leave the burden of motherhood in the hands of the One who companions them lovingly through their journey.
Sally Clarkson , bestselling author, host of the At Home with Sally podcast, and mother and best friend of four adult children
Whether you have a newborn or a couple dozen grown children, every mother needs to read this book. From the priceless freedom found in chapter 1, Heather gently lifts the unnecessary burdens we carry, wraps her arms around our shoulders, and reminds us that we are never alone in this journey of motherhood. With vulnerability and laugh-out-loud humor, Heather shares practical wisdom and insight to help us trade lies for truth and isolation for connection. If youve ever wondered how to find the village thats supposed to help raise your child, this book is the map that will make sure you dont mom alone.
Kat Lee , author of Hello Mornings and founder of HelloMornings.org
For as long as Ive known Heather, she has been inviting parents into community. An honest, life-giving community that is likely to involve laughter and tears, conversation and challenge, help and hope. This book is an extension of the rich community she has long created. The deeper you get into the pages of this work, the less alone you will feel and the more grace you will begin to extend to yourself. I want both of those things for every parent I spend time with in my counseling practice.
David Thomas , therapist and coauthor of bestsellers Wild Things and Are My Kids on Track?
Heathers creative energy, grace, challenges, insights, and humanness leap off every page of this journey through real-life parenting. She weaves the bigness of Gods grace and the richness of Gods truth into everything from a thirty-foot-high bathroom accident at the museum to the grief of losing her father. Through it all, she draws on the wisdom of the Bible and her many mentors (she really doesnt mom alone!) to remind us of truth that connects us to each other, to God, and to our privileged calling as parents. Two thumbs up!
Lynne and Jim Jackson , cofounders of Connected Families
Title Page
Copyright Page
2021 by Heather C. MacFadyen
Published by Revell
a division of Baker Publishing Group
PO Box 6287, Grand Rapids, MI 49516-6287
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Ebook edition created 2021
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ISBN 978-1-4934-3197-7
Unless otherwise indicated, Scripture quotations are from THE HOLY BIBLE, NEW INTERNATIONAL VERSION, NIV Copyright 1973, 1978, 1984, 2011 by Biblica, Inc. Used by permission. All rights reserved worldwide.
Scripture quotations labeled ESV are from The Holy Bible, English Standard Version (ESV), copyright 2001 by Crossway, a publishing ministry of Good News Publishers. Used by permission. All rights reserved. ESV Text Edition: 2016
Scripture quotations labeled MSG are taken from THE MESSAGE , copyright 1993, 2002, 2018 by Eugene H. Peterson. Used by permission of NavPress. All rights reserved. Represented by Tyndale House Publishers, Inc.
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Dedication
For my dad,
who left this earth before he could
read his favorite authors first book.
Thank you, Pops, for making it easy
to believe in a heavenly Fathers love.
And for instilling purpose in my motherhood
with regular reminders
that the world needs more godly men.
Miss you tons,
Your Heather-bean
Contents
Endorsements
Title Page
Copyright Page
Dedication
Foreword by Chrystal Evans Hurst
Preface
SECTION ONE: EMPOWERED BY GOD
1. Let Him Be a Jerk
Isolating Idea: I am fully responsible for my childs outcome.
Connecting Truth: I am important but not essential in Gods plan for my child.
2. Mother of the Year
Isolating Idea: I am falling short of the good mom formula.
Connecting Truth: I embrace my intention and release fear of imperfection.
3. Hole in My Bucket
Isolating Idea: I have nothing left to give.
Connecting Truth: I am a limited human being, dependent on a limitless God.
4. Seeing Is Believing
Isolating Idea: I am an outsider.
Connecting Truth: I am seen, valued, and free to welcome others.
5. No Mom Is an Island
Isolating Idea: I have to figure out motherhood on my own.
Connecting Truth: I deepen relationships when I allow others to help me.
6. Cleaning Muddy Purses
Isolating Idea: I avoid conflict if I disconnect from others.
Connecting Truth: I can disagree with you and stay united.
7. All Working Moms
Isolating Idea: I dont belong because of my career choices.
Connecting Truth: I have a unique mom brand and you do too.
8. Keep the Candles Lit
Isolating Idea: I need a more helpful parenting partner.
Connecting Truth: I value connecting to a parent who is different from me.