Table of Contents
Other Books in the Whats Happening to My Body? Series
The Whats Happening to My Body? Book for Boys
My Body, My Self for Boys
The Whats Happening to My Body? Book for Girls
My Body, My Self for Girls
Ready, Set, Grow!
A Whats Happening to My Body? Book for Younger Girls
My Feelings, My Self: A Growing-Up Guide for Girls
For Big Al
My name is Lynda Madaras.
I write books about growing up and going through puberty for boys and girls. I also teach puberty classes and workshops.
(Chances are, you already know what puberty is. But in case you dont, Ill give you a quick idea. Puberty is a time of changing. It lasts only a few years. But during this time your body changes from a childs body into a mans body.)
I wrote my first puberty book with my daughter, Area. (Its called The Whats Happening to My Body? Book for Girls.) Area was going through puberty at the time. She helped me know puberty from a girls point of view. My second puberty book was written for boys. Boys in my puberty classes helped a lot with that first boys book. They helped me understand puberty from a boys point of view.
Quite a few years have gone by since those first two books. Area grew up, went to college, and got a job. She fell in love. She got married, and now has two young daughters.
During these years, Ive continued to write and teach about puberty. Ive written more books about puberty. Ive taught quite a few puberty classes. Ive gotten thousands of letters from readers. My readers and kids in my classes have helped me with all these books. In fact, many of the quotes in my books come from them.
When I was starting this book, I called up some of the boys who had been in my first puberty classes. Of course, they are grown up now. They had all gotten through puberty. But, as boys, they had helped me with my first boys book. It was fun to get in touch with them. Some of them are now married and have sons of their own.
Many boys think they need to seem macho to their friends, even though they dont feel that way.
Besides the fun of talking to them, I got a chance to ask for some help. I asked them to take a minute and remember their puberty years. I wanted to hear what they had to say as adults. I asked them what they now thought was the hardest part of going through puberty. Many described the same thing. They remembered needing to be macho in front of their friends. At the same time, they needed to deal with inner feelings. Often, their inner feelings were not macho. So these two needs pulled in opposite directions.
Of course, many years of teaching puberty classes have taught me about boys. Ive seen the macho side of boys. Ive also learned that boys have many different feelings. Now I was hearing about these same issues from some of my very first students. As adults, they were looking back on puberty. They were telling me that dealing with these two issues had been hard. In some cases, it was the hardest part of going through puberty.
Puberty has a way of bringing up strong feelings. You might be scared about changes that are happening to you. You might be confused about how youre supposed to act. You might feel the pressure of being pulled in two directions. You might be discovering romantic feelings.
Puberty has a way of bringing up strong feelings.
Puberty may also increase the need to be macho. But its pretty hard to live up to the macho, or real man, image. According to this image, real men dont show their feelings. They are never confused, or uncertain, or afraid. But, of course, none of this is true. Real boys and real men do sometimes get confused. They do sometimes feel uncertain. They do sometimes feel afraid. And the truth is, hiding our feelings doesnt make them go away. In fact, it just makes them harder to deal with. Thats why talking about feelings is important.
I hope this book will help you talk about puberty and your feelings about growing up. Maybe it will help you talk with your mom and dad. Maybe you can read it with them. Maybe you and a good friend can read the book together. As you read, you can talk about it.
Ive been writing puberty books and teaching classes for more years than I want to say. During this time Ive talked to a lot of boys. Most boys dont hold back. They tell me just what theyre thinking and feeling. They ask questions about what happens during puberty. They also tell me how they feel. Many of the things they say are here in this book. Many of their questions are here, too, along with my answers. So, in a sense, boys like you helped write this book. So have boys like you who are now grown up.
I hope you like this book. I hope it helps you understand your changing body. And I especially hope this book makes you feel good about yourself and your feelings.
Puberty Is About Change
Youre growing up. Of course, thats nothing new. After all, youve been growing up all your life. Ever since the day you were born, youve been growing in many ways. Year by year, youve been growing bigger. Youve been getting taller and heavier. But this growing up is different.
Puberty is the time when you are changing from a boys body to a mans body.
Maybe youve noticed that your sex organs are getting larger. Maybe youre seeing some hairs in places that were bar before. Hair may be growing around your sex organs. This hair is called pubic hair. Or maybe youre getting erections (hardons) more often.
Has any of this stuff happened to you? If so, you may be asking, Am I weird?
The scrotum (SKROW-tum) is a loose bag of skin that hangs behind the penis.
No! You are not weird. You are 100% NORMAL! Youre just starting puberty.
What if none of this has happened to you yet? Does that mean youre weird?
No! You are not weird, either. You are 100% NORMAL, too! You havent started puberty yet, but you will. Sooner or later all of us start puberty.
Puberty is a special time in a boys life. During puberty, a boys body changes into a mans body. This doesnt happen all at once. Puberty takes time. From start to finish, puberty may take anywhere from two to five (or more) years.