Fusselman - Savage park : a meditation on play, space, and risk for Americans who are nervous, distracted, and afraid to die

Copyright 2015 by Amy Fusselman

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Fusselman, Amy.

Savage park : a meditation on play, space, and risk for Americans who are nervous, distracted, and afraid to die / Amy Fusselman.

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ISBN 978-0-544-30300-3 (hardback) ISBN 978-0-544-57020-7 (trade paper) ISBN 978-0-544-30329-4 (ebook)

1. Fusselman, Amy. 2. Authors, American21st centuryBiography. 3. PlaygroundsJapanTokyo. 4. Play (Philosophy) 5. SpacePhilosophy. 6. Risk-taking (Psychology). I. Title.

PS3606.U86Z46 2015

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All photos courtesy of the author unless otherwise noted.

Part opener illustrations by Patrick Barry

Parts of this book have appeared in different forms in The Rumpus, Two Serious Ladies, and the Columbia Journal.

To the players in playgrounds everywhere

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Early one spring morning several years ago, I received an e-mail from my USSR-born, New York Citybred theater-director friend Yelena inviting me and my family (which then consisted of my husband, Frank, and our two sons, King and Mick, ages five and two) to visit her and her family (which then consisted of her husband, R, and their two sons, Chuck and Gen, ages four and one) at their new home in Tokyo, with the understanding that if we chose to come, we would stay for at least a month.

I do not believe the English language contains a word that expresses all that this gesture was. Her invitation to us was a feat. She inhabited her space with such generosity that she enlarged it. And then, from that expanse, she called to us: Come in.

She summoned us without much consideration, it seemed, for the space between us. The distance between New York City and Tokyo, after all, is almost seven thousand miles. It was as if she didnt view the journey we would have to take to get to her as daunting, formidable, or even, really, interesting.

The distance was just space, for her. And she did not see space as an enemy. She was not worried, as I was, about what it would be like to fly thirteen hours with small children, never having flown longer than two and a half hours with them before. She did not regard space as a thing to be crossed in a belabored, linear way, like Columbus suffering for months, sick and arthritic, in his leaky, worm-rotted ship as it bobbed unevenly toward an unknown continent.

Space, for her, was like a toy. It was a thing that could and should be manipulated; a medium to be expanded, contracted, and fiddled with. As far as she was concerned, we would get on a plane, which was not a machine for crossing space but a machine for contracting time, and we would be here/there in the blink of an eye.

When we got the invitation, my husband, Frank, and I looked at each other: When would we ever have an opportunity like this again?

Frank and I told the boys we were going on a journey to Japan. I pointed out New York on the globe. From here, I said, dragging my finger across the world as I simultaneously spun it, to there, I said.

They glanced at us, unfazed, and continued pushing their smiling toy trains around the figure eight of wooden track that was set up on the train table.

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Nervous about the long flight from NYC to Tokyo, I decided that we would fly from NYC to LA first and then stay over there for a night in order to cut down on the number of hours per flight and get used to the time change.

Of course, this only made the whole transition worsemore drawn out, and thus more nerve-rackingbut I had not yet wrapped my brain around the concept that traveling across space was not a thing to be suffered through.

Naturally, the journey was long and arduous. After arriving in LA, we dropped our luggage at a hotel, visited a train museum called Travel Town, returned to the hotel and slept, fitfully, and then woke up groggy the next morning, only to pack our bags and head to the airport again. Then we flew.

When we finally loaded our sweaty, sleepy selves into a cab outside the Tokyo airport, I dropped my head back on the pristine white doily placed like a pressed flower on the top of the seatback and slept like a drooling drunk, if drooling drunks can still be nervous. I was nervous in particular because I wasnt sure if we had accurately communicated our destination to the driver; he spoke no English, and we spoke no Japanese. With no idea where we were or where we were going, we couldnt even tell if we were lost.

I rode like this, almost unconscious, my head flung back, my mouth open, my eyes half closed, passing indecipherable signs in the dark. When we pulled up in front of Yelenas apartmenthow long did it take to get there? A minute? An hour?she was sitting on her stoop in a witchs hat. It was Halloween. Her four-year-old son, Chuck, who was dressed as a skeleton, stood beside her holding a bowl of candy.

I hugged Yelena. Trick or treat, I said.

Frank and I shouldered our heavy bags and our sack-like, sleeping children and carried them up the steps and into Yelenas apartment, the chocolate Chuck had just given us melting in our mouths. I set Mick down on one of the two foldout couches that were to be our beds for the next three weeks and then lay down beside him. Yelena tried to convince me to stay awakeit was about six in the eveningbut I could not.

Sure enough, at three in the morning, Mick and I were up. We snuck out of the apartment in order not to wake anyone, and I put him in his stroller and strolled him through the dark, silent streets, talking nonsenseit was the Day of the Dead, I remember informing him helpfullytrying and failing to find the logic of Manhattans crude but reliable grid in Tokyos delicately unfolding swirl.

We ended up sitting in the deserted, lit-up parking lot of an all-night convenience store at four thirty in the morning, sharing a chocolate steamed bun. Mick washed it down with some strawberry milk. I drank hot coffee out of a can.

Yelena was right, I understood then, in her dismissal of what it took to get here. What was harder was this other thing she was encouraging me to do, which was to call her home my home and, beyond that, to call wherever I was my home; to view space not as a place that is mine here, and yours there, but as a venue that is ours and that we are in together.

Being exhausted and, I thought, out of my element, I continued to resist her and her big ideas.

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Among the first things we learn about space, as infants having very recently arrived in it, is that we cant just leave it. We can move ourselves around in it, and we can be transported in it, but the fact is, we are here.

Years go by. We grow accustomed to this strange and interesting situationthis hereness. And, as adults, what we end up saying to our children about space and our human place in it is mostly a long and complicated narrative of how to move our bodies safely and respectfully in relation to other people and things.

This adult-generated stream of languagewhich basically completely ignores the idea that space is a medium that can be experienced and responded to sensitivelyis like a darkly magical incantation, in that it makes space disappear.