Eichenstein Rita - Not what I expected : help and hope for parents of atypical children

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Not What I Expected

A superb book. Chock-full of arresting insights as well as warmth and wisdom.

Edward Hallowell, MD, author of The Childhood Roots of Adult Happiness

Full of relatable stories and accessible grounding science, Not What I Expected offers parents validation, empathy, and practical tools. A deeply personal read. Readers may feel as if theyre sitting with Dr. Eichenstein, who is all at once understanding them, challenging them, and leading them to acceptance and empowerment in their roles as parents.

Dr. Tina Payne Bryson, coauthor of the New York Times bestselling books The Whole-Brain Child and No-Drama Discipline

At last, a book that speaks directly to parents of children who are atypical, as well as to their teachers. Easily digestible and offering insight, support, warmth, and a touch of humor, Not What I Expected will enhance your parenting toolbox and enrich your parenting life.

Betsy Brown Braun, MA, child development and behavior specialist, and bestselling author of Just Tell Me What to Say and Youre Not the Boss of Me

A gem of a book. Dr. Rita Eichenstein has written with remarkable insight and compassion about the rarely focused on problems of the parents and family members of learning disabled or atypical children. A must-read for practitioners as well as parents.

Marion Solomon, PhD, author of Lean on Me and The Wonder of We in a Culture of Me

Clear, practical, and filled with hope, the ideas and practices in this book offer a science-based common-sense approach that any parent or practitioner working with an atypical child will be benefit from. What better gift can we give these children!

Elisha Goldstein, PhD, author of Uncovering Happiness and The Now Effect

With an enormous amount of experience, and mastery of the atypical brain, Dr. Eichenstein provides a road map for understanding and thriving alongside your atypical child. Not What I Expected is a must-have for any parent who has an atypical child and/or any professional who works with special needs families.

Dr. Charles Sophy, psychiatrist and medical director for the County of Los Angeles Department of Children and Family Services

Where other resources are content to focus on a childs condition, Not What I Expected takes the critical next step in guiding parents through these difficult times. And it does this brilliantly, combining clinical rigor with a deep empathy for every member of the family and each ones special challenges. The result is a book that is an indispensable partner for parenting the atypical child and helping families live full, loving lives together.

Michelle Miller, MD, pediatric cardiologist and associate professor of medicine at the Florida State University School of Medicine

An excellent guide that offers a well-rounded approach and holds a treasury of great information.

Lance Steinberg, MD, assistant clinical professor of UCLA (Geffen) NPI and pediatric/adolescent psychopharmacologist

This is a wonderful, well-written book that helps parents of atypical children deal with the wide range of emotions such a parenting journey brings. Ultimately, the book guides parents toward greater self-awareness, mindfulness, and compassion for self and their unique child.

Lidia Zylowska, MD, psychiatrist, cofounder of the UCLA Mindful Awareness Research Center, and author of The Mindfulness Prescription for Adult ADHD

This is the go-to book for all who are raising atypical children. The genius of the book lies in its relatable vignettes struck through with unique insight and incomparable warmth. Dr. Eichensteins experience-based understanding and empathic lens offer all of us parents hope!

Jan Goldstein, bestselling author and award-winning educator

I urge any parent who is struggling with an atypical child to pick up Not What I Expected. Youll be fortified to savor the rewards, and sustained to withstand the challenges, in dealing with your surprising, unexpected child.

Zo Kessler, BA, BEd, author of ADHD According to Zo

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