Martin Dasko - I Like You As a Friend: How You Can Avoid The Friend Zone Forever

I Like You As a Friend

I like you.

My crush responded to me. I got all excited. I was so proud of myself for telling my crush how I felt after all of this time had passed. It took me a while to build up the courage to get to this point because I kept delaying out of fear of what would happen. I was so worried about the outcome that I kept creating excuses in my head. I postponed this encounter until I could no longer delay what I had to do as a man.

This was the moment of truth. I was finally going to escape from the friend zone and start courting this sweet young lady that I had been in love with for so long. My cheeks beamed with joy. I was the man. I was about to embark on a journey to a new world. She liked me and I was going to tell all of my friends on MSN Messenger that I had a girlfriend. I couldnt wait to show off how cool I was suddenly going to become.

I like you as a friend.

The girl I was crazy about clarified.

A dagger went through my heart. The air was sucked out of me. I couldnt breathe. I felt like a loser. I had just made a jackass of myself. I secured my full-time position in the friend zone.

Of course she liked me as a friend! You want to know why? I was always there for her, I listened to her complain about other guys, and I chatted with her all night when she needed a shoulder to cry on.

Being liked as a friend is like being told that you have heart by your coach when you try out for the basketball team. It means that you suck, arent good enough to make it, but can stick around if you please since youre a loser with nothing better going on.

This little story either made you laugh or cry.

If you laughed, its because you were reminded of one of your epic fails when it comes to making a move.

If you cried, it was because you never made the move, or your experience was much more horrifying.

There are two depressing situations that occur when youre in the friend zone with a girl that you like.

1. You get excited because you think she likes you and wants you. So you finally make a move and find out that she just sees you as a friend.

OR

2. You never ever make a move because you get stuck in the friend zone. You spend the rest of your life wondering about what 'could have been' . You were too scared to make a move. You have to live the rest of your life with this shame. You have to put up with this torture until you finally move on and realize that you have absolutely no chance.

Whatever your situation might be, this book is for you.

Not only are you going to escape the friend zone, youre never going to enter this dreaded territory again.

That statement is huge and a lot goes into it. Dont worry because were going to cover every single detail of this undesirable situation.

Youre going to figure out how to deal with the following:

Being placed in the friend zone.

Why youre in the friend zone.

Social media and the friend zone.

Leading a fun life without worrying about never escaping the friend zone.

Other guys who are trying to cut your grass while you valiantly try to make a move on the lady of your dreams.

The signs and symptoms of being in the friend zone.

Tips for never entering the friend zone in the first place so that you can avoid this torment.

How to get over a friend-zoning.

And much more!

Now that I am my late-20's, I never get into the friend zone. Im not saying this to brag. Im saying it to piss you off, to inspire you, and to help you.

This book was inspired when a friend (whose name I wont mention) asked me the following question.

Why am I in the friend zone?

The simplest and obvious answer is always time . You took too long. Nothing happened. She got comfortable around you. She found another guy. You slacked off. You got nervous. Time passed. You never made a move. She has a boyfriend now. Shes moving in with the guy now. Theyre getting married. The happy couple is expecting a baby. Now youre living in the friend zone.

Were going to go through this journey together.

Lets get started!

Twenty years from now youll be more disappointed by the things you didnt do than by the ones you did. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.

~ Mark Twain

by Dating Expert Carmelia Ray

Consultant: www.carmeliary.com

Blog: www.datingloveandsextips.com

How do I avoid the friend zone?

As a veteran matchmaker and certified dating coach, Im often presented with this question. A big challenge for most guys is that they often dont know how they got there. The friend zone is the last place you want to be when you like a woman. Essentially, youve fallen in love or you are in deep infatuation with a woman who only sees you as a friend. Sometimes its about physical looks, but most times when youre friend zoned, it has more to do with how you show up for her and the way she views you.

Shes just not into you. Youll be able to identify this by the way she treats you which is usually more like a brother, sister, co-worker or a stranger at the check counter. When youre in the friend zone, shes not looking at you as boyfriend material or as potential for a serious romantic partner.

If youre someone whos in a FWB (friends with benefits) scenario and wants to move it to a relationship, this is also being stuck in the friend zone when she just wants to remain as friends. If shes totally cool with just sleeping together and NOT interested in you as a romantic partner, its pretty much the same thing. Dont think that just because youre having sex with your female friend that youre NOT in the friend zone. You could get stuck here too if she doesnt view you as boyfriend material.