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Selfishness and entitlement have never been more prevalent. What About Me? will help readers discover what role selfishness is playing in their relationship while helping them better understand what drives their partner to behave selfishly.
Abstract: Selfishness and entitlement have never been more prevalent. What About Me? will help readers discover what role selfishness is playing in their relationship while helping them better understand what drives their partner to behave selfishly

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Copyright 2010 by Jane Greer

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Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data

Greer, Jane.

What about me? : stop selfishness from ruining your relationship / by Jane Greer.

p. cm.

1. Interpersonal relations. 2. Man-woman relationships. 3. Couples. 4. Selfishness. I. Title.

HM1106.G744 2010

646.78--dc22

2010027319

Table of Contents

To my husband Marc

for that defining Sunday

and for all the days of sharing your love

Acknowledgments

The essence of this book is about sharing. I want to share my gratitude and profound thanks with the people who, because of their willingness to give an unlimited amount of their energy and time, made this book possible.

Heres the short list:

Heidi Krupp-Lisiten, for your expertise and certainty that started everything and connected me to exactly the right person who could help me craft a book.

Lisa Berkowitz, you have been and remain amazing. This book happened only because of your creative vision, remarkable ability, savvy wisdom, and dedication and unwavering belief in and support of me from start to finish.

Colleen Oakley, it was truly your dream team tenacity and steadfast perseverance that launched this project and got it off the ground.

Elizabeth LaBan, from the very first sentence, your stroke of genius brought this book to life. Collaborating with you has been an exhilarating cosmic experience and an absolute joy. Thank you for your talent, your words and music, and for always going the distance.

Uwe Stender, for finding the right house to be the perfect home.

Shana Drehs, for giving me your hands-on support and clarity throughout the book, along with your sharp editorial smarts.

Maria Papapetros, for your astounding title vision and our ongoing unique connection.

Joanie Lienwoll, for streamlining my life, running the show, and giving me breathing room. You are a real gift.

I want to thank my patients for sharing their trust and letting me help. And I want to thank my incredible family, personal manager Carol April, and equally incredible family of friends who always see me throughyou know who you are.

Special thanks to Kathy Pomerantz Feldman, for always being there in all the moments big and small, and to Dr. Josie Palleja, for all the years of love and friendship.

Authors Note

As a psychotherapist, I consider it my first priority to safeguard the confidentiality of my patients and interview subjects. In the interest of protecting their privacy, I have changed the names of all persons mentioned in this book, except for those in my family. I have also altered the details of peoples livestheir professions, backgrounds, and other potentially identifying circumstances.

Introduction

Lydia and Jake havent had sex in two months. Lydia cant figure out how they reached this point. Jake, on the other hand, blames it on the makeup mirror in their bathroom. About six months ago, he told Lydia to please push the extending arm of the mirror back against the wall when shes done with it, because he was constantly bumping into it as he got ready for bed. But she never remembers! So every night Jake hits his head, sometimes hard, realizes she forgotor that she chose not to do this simple thingand feels immediately angry. By the time he gets into bed, hes seething, and the last thing he wants to do is be nice to his wife. He doesnt turn to her the way he used to do, with his head on his pillow, and take her hand. He doesnt kiss her or gently tickle her like he has done for most of their marriage. He stares straight ahead, or grabs his book, and the road to sex is blocked.

For Lydia and Jake it is the makeup mirror, but your complaint could be anythingthe toilet seat that is never put down, the kitchen drawer that is always left open, your partners shoes that you constantly trip over. It is that annoying thing in your relationship that you keep banging into, the thing that makes you wonder why your partner cant make this one change for you. Its a Selfish Hot Spot, an action that drives you crazy and leads to a Selfish Standoff, an impasse in your relationship you just cant seem to get past.

Everyone has needs and desires. That is indisputable. Put two people together, and the likelihood that their needs will correspond exactly is slim to none. Sure, sometimes people want the same things: to get married, to have children, to keep the house thermostat at an even 68 degrees summer or winter. But what happens when, even if in theory people want the same things, they dont want them at the same time? Or what about when people dont want the same things at all? He likes a cold house, but she wants it to be warm. She wants to get engaged, but he wants to wait and see how it goes. Jake wants that mirror against the wall every time Lydia leaves the bathroom. But Lydia, who isnt tall enough to be bothered by the mirror, cant see what the big deal is. She tries to remember, but if she doesnt, she wonders why he cant just turn it around himself.

Is one persons need more important than anothers? If Jake gets his way, isnt he being selfish? If Lydia cant do this for Jake, isnt she thinking only of herself?

Welcome to the Selfish Game. You start out having fun with your partner, both wanting to share. However, somewhere along the way the game becomes competitive without your even realizing it, because if you are one of two people with different needs, a clash is inevitable. You end up pitting your needs against each other instead of being able to find a compromise, so that in the end there is either a winner or a loser. The minute that you have any differences in style, taste, preference, or personality that require a sacrifice from either you or your partner, it is going to raise the question of whether one of you is being selfish. And the game is afoot.

In every relationship you have basic needs that constantly simmer below the details of life. Youre looking to feel loved, desired, valued, accepted, safe, and secure. You want to please your partner and be pleased by them. You want attention, and you want your thoughts, ideas, and feelings to be validated. You want to see your best reflected in your loved ones eyesthe admiration, attraction, desire, and respect that you hope your partner has for you.

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