Praise for The Out-of-Sync Child
by Carol Kranowitz
This book is great! It is a real contribution to the parents of the many children who are so hard to understand. It will let parents off the hook of blaming themselves... and will help them get on to the job of addressing the childs underlying difficulties.
T. Berry Brazelton, MD, founder, Brazelton Touchpoints Center, Boston Childrens Hospital
Warm and wise, this book will bring both hope and practical help to parents who wonder why their kid doesnt fit in.
Jane M. Healy, learning specialist and author of Your Childs Growing Mind
The Out-of-Sync Child does a masterful job of describing the different ways children react to sensations and integrate their responses to their world. The book provides detailed, practical information that will help parents understand how the nervous system works.
Stanley I. Greenspan, MD, child psychiatrist and author (with Serena Wieder) of The Child with Special Needs
Comprehensive yet easy to understand... helpful tools for parents to promote healthy integration.
Exceptional Parent
A Top Ten Book for Parenting Children with Disabilities.
Brain, Child Magazine
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I Am from SPD
I am from tight hugs and No touching!
I am from tastes I love and textures I hate,
I am from no tears over sprained ankles,
I am from nervously pulling out my teeth,
I am from sounds too loud, and lights too bright.
I am from diagnosis and acronyms,
I am from confusion and understanding,
I am from doctors and professionals,
I am from burrito swings and speech therapy,
I am from We dont know what to do,
I am from We can do this, and No, I cant!
I am from homework too difficult and nights spent crying,
I am from a C feeling like an A,
I am from a C feeling like an F,
I am from love, acceptance, and knowledge,
I am from hating education, to loving knowledge.
I am from self-exploration and creativity,
I am from dandelions in homemade vases and birdhouses painted pink and gold.
I am from kicking and screaming,
I am from smiles and laughter.
I am from 19 years of life,
I am from long brown hair, cut, dyed and chopped,
I am from piercing and tattoos,
I am from long nails and brilliant white teeth.
I am from a woman always in flight, a busy working bee,
I am from driving by myself,
I am from holding my first job.
I am from dreaming of normalcy,
I am from anything but normal,
I am from battling the stereotype,
I am from personal victory,
I am from a luck of the draw, a one in a million,
I am from what made the stars.
I am from SPD.
Hayley Fannin
Hayley is a technical college graduate living in Washington State. She is on the path to find a permanent career, currently working and enjoying life with family and friends by her side.
For the parents who wonder how their children with SPD will fare in adolescence and young adulthood,
For the preteens and teenagers who wonder what growing older with SPD will feel like, and
For the brave, honest, sensational individuals who tell us all about it.
CONTENTS
FOREWORD
Carol Stock Kranowitz has again hit one out of the stadium with The Out-of-Sync Child Grows Up. Since her first book was published in 1998, dozens of occupational therapists and other authors have followed in her footsteps to write books about SPD. Some books are great in different waysfor example, some offer parents more specific strategies, include more research, come with a clinical perspective, discuss IEPs and special education options, or are more relevant for older children and their families. But Carols book was first, and when parents and teachers get their hands on it and begin to learn about SPD, they are off and running.
Everyone she meets tells her, You changed my life. I dont know how I would have lived with my SPD kid without your book... Thank you so, so much.
Carol is a self-proclaimed occupational therapist wannabe, which means that she wants to provide OT suggestions to every mom, dad, grandma, grandpa, aunt, and uncle who comes up at one of her presentations and waits thirty minutes to ask her questions about their own child. I have seen her time and time again listen and help the fortunate people who do get to talk to her. She honestly acknowledges the limits of her knowledge as well, never going beyond her scope of practice as a teacher. If she doesnt have an answer or a strategy to suggest, she says, I dont know, but Ill find out for you, because she knows where to look for it!
The sensory kids who were her preschool students at St. Columbas Nursery School in Washington, DC, are getting older. They are among the approximately 16 percent of the population with SPD (based on a recent epidemiological study funded by the National Institutes of Health). More and more of them have reached adolescence and many are young adults. Now what? they and their worried parents are asking. Not only the children she taught, but all children with SPD need guidance and reassurance as they mature.
Because her expertise is with young children, Carol turned to the experts who truly know what it is like to grow up with SPD. She has gathered stories from more than fifty contributors talking about the issues related to having SPD when a Sensory Kid becomes a Sensory Adolescent or Adult. The stories touch on life experiences, from getting up in the morning and gearing up for school to going to sleep at night, from putting on clothes to picking out clothes for dating, from being in a family to making your own family, and more.