Gina Gomez - The Enneagram & You: Understand Your Personality Type and How It Can Transform Your Relationships

To you, the reader, and to the countless people like you and me, on the endless quest for understanding ourselves and our relationships.

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All over the world, people are trying to figure out why they act the way they do. Everyone has asked themselves at some point in their life at least one of these questions: Why do I always go along with what other people want instead of speaking up for myself? Why does she shut down when I express emotion? Why does he get nervous when I want to change plans? How does she always seem to know the perfect thing to say? Why does my boss get so angry if I make one tiny mistake?

Now you have a way to see the motivation behind your behavior and others: the Enneagram. This fascinating system is a way to describe and understand yourself and others using nine different personality Types. You determine your Type by taking the Enneagram Quiz. So, for example, you will be able to see why youre so levelheaded in a crisis or why your partner always seems to anticipate your every need in the most thoughtful way. Likewise, when you understand where certain frustrating behaviors come from, you can begin to see that most of them are coping mechanisms that developed during childhood. Theres no one to blame and theres no reason for you to shame yourself or others for the challenging parts of your personality. The information you learn from the Enneagram will help you practice more compassion for yourself and those around you.

The Enneagram can teach you things about yourself that you never knew until you learned your Type. Youll have aha moments again and again as you recognize patterns in your life. You wont want to stop discovering all the nuances of your personality. As you learn more, other people will come to mindyour spouse, your parents, or maybe even your boss or someone you work with. You immediately want to know what their Enneagram Type is. You can see the potential that exists to have even better relationships with these people if you know their Type.

Think about the many times youve ruminated over a conversation that went poorly or had an encounter with someone that left you scratching your head in confusion. Those experiences can be exhausting, frustrating, and overwhelmingbut it doesnt have to be that way. You hold in your hands a guide to navigating through any and all of your relationships, using self-awareness and compassion for others as a foundation. Find out what you have in common with others when it comes to strengths and challenges, what disputes are likely to come up so you can anticipate and avoid them, and how to handle conflict effectively by approaching difficult situations mindfully.

This book will be a source of knowledge for you forever. Youll be able to reference it when you start a new job, go out on dates, make a new friend, or work out issues with your partner. The Enneagram can guide you on your path to self-improvement and growthno matter what your Type.

Lets determine what Enneagram Type you are.

Before you begin the following quiz, take a few deep breaths and clear your mind. Allow yourself to be as honest as you can be in your self-assessmentdont answer based on how youd like to see yourself or what you think the right answers are. Theres no need to judge yourselfsimply answer honestly to get the most accurate results.

To figure out your Type, follow these steps:

1. Read through each of the following quizzes and check the box (Agree, Neutral, or Disagree) that best applies to you or your situation.
2. When you finish each group, tally the number of checkmarks in each column.
3. Then multiply the number of Agree checkmarks by 2, Neutral checkmarks by 1, and Disagree checkmarks by 0 and add up your total for that quiz and move onto the next one.
4. When you finish Quizzes AI, move onto the Scoring the Quizzes section for further instruction.